|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 4:54 pm
I know, its hard to not fly off the handle when someone has wronged you. You feel hurt, frustrated, wrathful...it sucks. Right now, I'm dealing with possibly the most vindictive and hurtful thing a person could ever do (and despite deserving a bit of karma-smack, karma doesn't physically hurt an innocent, third party person).
So what do you do? As part of the magickal community, we have sort of a shady image painted about us for when such occasion arises. Curses, hexes, poppets, bindings, all have been employed and equally their fantastical portrayal landed us a bad rap. Still, who among us haven't considered that route when the worst happens, at least once?
The Law of Three and the Rede tend to keep us off that route, and for good reason. You wouldn't want something negative that you put out to rebound back on you like that. Not only that, wishing harm, no matter how angry you are, can grow into an even bigger problem involving your inner self.
Still, you're hurt! You won't repress it (cause thats just dumb)! You wanna cut out someones picture and coat it in black wax while thinking of justice! You wanna make a little dolly of the person and stick a million pins in its head! You wanna do so many bad things to seek revenge, but they are, truthfully, bad.
There has to be something, and there is. There are loads of things to do when anger bubbles up inside you. Mind, they are small, sometimes ineffective little exercises on the outside, though sometimes using acombination of a few can placate the seething wrath for long enough so that you can think clearly.
Try screaming. Screaming doesnt hurt anyone (unless they're in earshot or you're screaming AT them...dont do that). Go somewhere thats closed off, with plenty of walls to keep it somewhat within legal decibels, or the alternative; go outside in a yard or something. It's imperative that you do not sound like you're in danger, or that someone knows what the hecks going on...don't need the cops called on suspicion of murder. But once things seem like they're in good order, just let it out. Swear. Yell nasty things, get it all out and let it leave you. I personally love this method, and will only venture into my damnable basement to do this.
Another helpful thing is the "Rock Spell". I forgot where I read this but its common enough that most authors of spell books has a version or two of this. First, go outside and find a suitable rock. It's gotta feel right in your hands, and really the nature of it doesnt have to matter. I could be a beat up piece of cement, or a smooth granite pebble. Whatever. Close your eyes and think of whats bothering you. Let that fiery dragon in your stomach rear its head and go postal. Project those thoughts into that rock and when it feels like its at capacity, chuck it. Throw it as far as your arm will let you. Watch it soar away (and hope to goddess it doesnt strike some poor little squirrel dead...thats happened before... redface sweatdrop Thankfully not to me but its sad anyway), and take your anger with it.
Another fun thing is beating the crap out of a pillow. While the pillow didn't hurt you...they can take a few swings to the um...gut? (Pillows sort of lack anatomy...). This is good if you feel a little more...er..."punchy". Yelling is often accompanied, and also good.
Bottom line, physically and mentally hurting another is bad. Not just because it could bounce back onto you, but that its kinda nasty anyways. There are LOADS of other ways to deal with anger in a healthy sort of way, and everyone's free to post their own techniques (Heck...if anyone wants to give me a little advice on how to deal with my issue they're welcome to PM me...).
|
 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 8:26 pm
I tend to yell explicatives in my head or when I am in solitude, or on the rare occasion of publicity, I will show "the bird" in the direction of the source of my anger.
Someone, don't know who or where, did a study that found out cussing is actually a healthier way to let go of anger.
Honestly, my methods of dealing with anger go from drawing, to breaking pencils, to punching a punching bag, to listening to rage* music, to writing down what I did not like about the occurance, to cold-shouldering the source.
[Sidenote- Rage music to me is anything like:
You're Going Down - Sick Puppies; Riot - Three Days Grace; Home - Three Days Grace; I Hate Everything About You - Three Days Grace; Animal I've Become - Three Days Grace; Land of Confusion - Disturbed (cover); Indestructable - Disturbed; Ravenous - Arch Enemy; Bleeding Mascara - Atreyu; Creature - Atreyu; Unholy Confessions - Avenged Sevenfold; Until the End - Breaking Benjamin; Prison of Decay - Chaotica; House of Red Tape - Chaotica; In Your Face - Children of Bodom; Bodies - Drowning Pool; Breaking the Habit - Linkin Park; The Grand Conjuration - Opeth; Breathe Into Me - Red; Re-Education (Through Labor) - Rise Against; Redemption - Shadows Fall; Devour - Shinedown; Sound of Madness - Shinedown; *pauses for a typing and name reading break so that there are all the songs I listen to when I am pissed off* Wait and Bleed - Slipknot; Duality - Slipknot; Psychosocial - Slipknot; Vendetta - Slipknot; (Yes, there is a lot of Slipknot. Corey Taylor's voice calms me.) Before I Forget - Slipknot; 30/30-150 - Stone Sour; Sillyworld - Stone Sour; Your God - Stone Sour; Revenga - System of A Down; [End of my music list, note that songs are in italics]
|
|
|
|
|
|
witchunterobin Vice Captain
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 8:47 pm
when i get mad/angry, i take and just turn on some music and just meditate.
it helps me get my mind off of it, and if that doesn't work i'll write it down and then just tear it up and throw it away. it's like i'm letting out my frustrations and then dissolving them into little pieces! 4laugh
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 9:20 pm
Ah yes! I forgot the paper thing! I remember back in high school I used to write out what was bothering me, keeping it as vague/anonymous as possible (didnt want anyone to find it), then crumple it up angrily or tear it to shreds and throw it away. I don't recommend this on school grounds, but burning it is also a fun method or getting rid of it.
Also, yay for a sizable chunk of that music list being on my iPod!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
witchunterobin Vice Captain
|
Posted: Thu Oct 08, 2009 8:22 pm
Cygan Czarwonica Meri Also, yay for a sizable chunk of that music list being on my iPod! >3 That is amazing! *squees*
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 5:24 pm
Meri, do you mind if i drag Climarathorn in here? probably bound and gagged.....
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Reply
