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 Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 9:10 am
Condoms Good or Bad?
I love to have sex with my man. But when he put's on the rubber I get so dry(I even use lube and it still doesn't work). I want to please him but I don't know what to do. And it only happens when he puts on the rubber. I feel like just letting him c** in me but then I don't wqant to be pregnaunt. I don't want to loose him cause when he does go in me with out the rubber it's so amazing but my man is good he comes out before cumming and then I can't please him to the ability that I want to. What should he or I do.
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 10:38 am
If you don't want to risk pregnancy and STDS and gamble with your future? WEAR THE CONDOMS ALL THE TIME and find a better lube.
Pre-ejaculate can still contain sperm so pulling out or no, you're playing Russian Roulette with your reproductive system.
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 5:17 pm
Pirate Dirge If you don't want to risk pregnancy and STDS and gamble with your future? WEAR THE CONDOMS ALL THE TIME and find a better lube.
Pre-ejaculate can still contain sperm so pulling out or no, you're playing Russian Roulette with your reproductive system. I agree completely. Use condoms, use another method of birth control, and find a better lube (there's more than one brand out there). If you don't want to increase getting pregnant, getting and STD, WEAR A CONDOM EVERY TIME.
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 2:07 am
O.o wow
my fiancee and i don't use condoms, which we realise is dangerous. but i'm on the pill. so it's a little safer.
doubling up your birth control is the best option, because nothing is 100% effective. try the pill, or that thing they implant under the skin on your arm. then, if you find you absolutely can't use condoms, you're more protected than you would be if he just withdrew before ejaculation.
hope this helps XD
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 7:46 am
Liadan Hexwood O.o wow my fiancee and i don't use condoms, which we realise is dangerous. but i'm on the pill. so it's a little safer. To a certain degree. Planned Parenthood says the Pill is, at max (so when taken perfectly), 99% effective against pregnancy. I've heard rumors of 99.9%, but I've never seen it listed in a study or anything like that, so I quote the "99% statistic". And there are still people who've gotten pregnant while being on just the Pill. The Pill can fail (or be less effective basically) as well if you are taking anti-biotics, in which case you'd need to talk to your doctor about how they'd affect the Pill. Your profile puts you at 17, and I'm guessing your boyfriend is about the same age, but if you two really can't afford to have a baby or get an abortion at this point in your lives, then you should be using condoms too. I can speak from experience on that too, because I was on the Pill when I was your age, and after my ex broke up with me, I realized I was very lucky to have not gotten pregnant while dating him (we didn't use condoms very often either).
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 8:26 am
Thank you for all your responces but what can I do to please my man more. Is there any ways that I can do that.
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 4:15 pm
Nikolita Liadan Hexwood O.o wow my fiancee and i don't use condoms, which we realise is dangerous. but i'm on the pill. so it's a little safer. To a certain degree. Planned Parenthood says the Pill is, at max (so when taken perfectly), 99% effective against pregnancy. I've heard rumors of 99.9%, but I've never seen it listed in a study or anything like that, so I quote the "99% statistic". And there are still people who've gotten pregnant while being on just the Pill. The Pill can fail (or be less effective basically) as well if you are taking anti-biotics, in which case you'd need to talk to your doctor about how they'd affect the Pill. Your profile puts you at 17, and I'm guessing your boyfriend is about the same age, but if you two really can't afford to have a baby or get an abortion at this point in your lives, then you should be using condoms too. I can speak from experience on that too, because I was on the Pill when I was your age, and after my ex broke up with me, I realized I was very lucky to have not gotten pregnant while dating him (we didn't use condoms very often either). yeah, for a while we weren't fond of condoms, to be honest it cuts the intimacy level n half. it's like we have to protect ourselves from each others bodies. what about that implant under the skin? do you have any statistics for that?
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 4:20 pm
anlabiti Thank you for all your responces but what can I do to please my man more. Is there any ways that I can do that. oral sex is good. you should probably have him wear a condom for that, though. (i feel like i'm setting such a bad example XD ) there are lots of ways you can make him happy. you can stimulte his prostate by pressing on a place that's just behind his balls. works for a lot of guys. talk to him. see what he wants, but always keep in mind what you feel comfortable doing. hope this helps
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 7:43 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 11:10 am
Ok well more lube is the first thing that comes to mind. If there isn't enough and it starts to hurt then add more. Secondly you need to have the condom on from the very frist moment he penetrates you because you can get pregnant without him actually ejaculating, just from the pre-c**.
For us to help with the 'pleasing him' part of the question you will have to be a little more specific with the details. I assume that by the time you are up to sex you have already done some manual and some oral stimulation. Even after starting sex you can go back to those or just use more lubricant as I said.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 11:46 pm
Liadan Hexwood Nikolita Liadan Hexwood O.o wow my fiancee and i don't use condoms, which we realise is dangerous. but i'm on the pill. so it's a little safer. To a certain degree. Planned Parenthood says the Pill is, at max (so when taken perfectly), 99% effective against pregnancy. I've heard rumors of 99.9%, but I've never seen it listed in a study or anything like that, so I quote the "99% statistic". And there are still people who've gotten pregnant while being on just the Pill. The Pill can fail (or be less effective basically) as well if you are taking anti-biotics, in which case you'd need to talk to your doctor about how they'd affect the Pill. Your profile puts you at 17, and I'm guessing your boyfriend is about the same age, but if you two really can't afford to have a baby or get an abortion at this point in your lives, then you should be using condoms too. I can speak from experience on that too, because I was on the Pill when I was your age, and after my ex broke up with me, I realized I was very lucky to have not gotten pregnant while dating him (we didn't use condoms very often either). yeah, for a while we weren't fond of condoms, to be honest it cuts the intimacy level n half. it's like we have to protect ourselves from each others bodies. what about that implant under the skin? do you have any statistics for that? To be blunt, that's really too bad. Use them for be preared to deal with any consequences - simple as that. There are condoms you can get which are thinner than normal and are supposed to increase the sensation, etc etc. But if you can't afford to get an abortion or have a baby, then you should be using them. The Norplant implant I've heard isn't as common in the US. There's information about it in the Birth Control sticky in the Birth Control Subforum.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 1:05 am
1) Rhythm method is bad. Just to get this out right away, the rhythm method should not even be an option for you. That's final.
2) If you really don't want to use condoms, look into getting the pill. However, you have to be careful to make sure that you use it 100% of the time. If you miss even one day, you really should be using condoms as well for at least the next month, just in case.
There are other forms of birth control as well. I would suggest you speak with your doctor about your options.
3) Be weary of what kind of lubricant you are using. Oil based ones will disolve condoms and make them ineffective. With that in mind, go ahead and try new brands and such.
4) Pleasing your man is one thing. But your first concern should be not getting pregnant or getting a disease. If pleasing your man interferes with either of these in any way, then you need to just think of something else.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 12:09 pm
Is there any way to get a good brand with out a doctors signiture or note.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 12:28 pm
anlabiti Is there any way to get a good brand with out a doctors signiture or note. Depends on where you live. In Canada, or in BC anyways, the doctor-patient privacy privilege kicks in at 17. After 17, you can request that the doctor not tell your parents if you're going to go on birth control, and as long as you're not suicidal or risking your life or something else dangerous, they are legally obligated not to tell your parents. In the US, you can try going to a Planned Parenthood clinic, where they can either give you free birth control, or work out a payment plan with you. I'd recommend telling your parents though, so at least they know. If they find out you've been having sex behind their back, they might get upset and lose their trust in you. Besides, having to keep it a secret sucks - I've been doing it for over 2 years, and I hate it.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 5:32 pm
It occurs to me that part of it may be psychological and part of it may be an allergy.
What condom brand are you using? You may be allergic to latex.
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