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Sounds like something someone made up.

I think some do, but who knows what people think nowandays

Well I'm gonna be honest...as of tommorrow I'll be 23 years old and as of Saturday I'll have been married for one month.....yippey!
Anyway saving your virginity isn't a bad thing...matter of fact I wish I had saved mine. I lost mine when I was 19.....I don't regret who I lost it to just the fact that I lost it. My husband didn't mind though...he wasn't a virgin either....now days he's wanting me to try a**l sex when I'm on my period...he asked me that last night.....not that you all needed to know that....anyway...we are all humans capable(sp?????) of making our own decisions. We all decided what's best for us and our bodies at one point even if others swear till they're blue in the face that your wrong about it.

Well, you must understand that losing your virginity doesn't result in a loss of self-respect, that's something that you assign to yourself and there are many people who won't see you any differently or be threatened by your sexual experience.

While saving yourself for marriage is a great idea, there is no reason for someone to turn their back on who they are and the things that we've done. When we turn our back on our past, we fail to come to terms with it and it has a habit of plaguing us, especially if we don't feel comfortable with it.

That goes a long way into implicating exactly why it is that people seek out so-called 'secondary virginity'. As a puritanical society, we place a lot of emphasis on purity and, since there is a decided lack of physical purity in christianity, we have invented new ways to alleviate the guilt that is constantly placed upon us as people.

SV is a popularized and sensational way to revive something that was lost without having to learn from it or acknowledge our own actions, even though they may not be so bad if we simply meet them on our own terms.

However, I can tell you how it works: You simply beseech the Lord to grant you a pure heart and abstain until marriage.

However, it is important to note that people who don't have sex before marriage are just as insecure and damaged. They still have the same chances of a divorce. The only thing that changes is sentimentality for something we already overemphasize.

You don't have to be a virgin for someone to love you and you don't have to deny your natural urges for someone to respect you. Don't you ever believe that is the right way to live. If it is your choice and you are concious of all of these things, bless you. If not, those who seek it might want to think long and hard on what i've said.

Other than that, I don't necessarily believe in it.

*reads all the other posts* Wait, did you mean physical or mental? XD If it's physical... I don't know, I suppose it can happen. My friend (call him X) once complained to me that his GF had not been wanting to have sex because her hymen had grown back. Now, I don't know if this was true. This girl often over-reacts and imagines things... but then again, I know that she enjoys having sex, especially with X. xd ; But that's really all the first-hand experience I've had with this supposed second virginity.

...Now, about the mental one... I think it's kind of silly, but I suppose you could consider yourself re-virginated, like in the same way that someone might erase a bad first kiss or first BF/GF and mark it off as practice or something. I guess if the person thinks of it that way, and no one else has a problem with it, then it counts. O: That's what I think, anyway. Reality is relative. *looks sagely*