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 Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 11:07 pm
Okay, so, my boyfriend and I just tried to have a**l sex. I'm a bit drunk, to calm some nerves. This is his first time trying it. I had tried it once before, we were going for about 3 minutes until he slipped out and it hurt too much when he tried to put it back in.
So we tried, and as soon as he got a little bit in, it felt like someone took a knife to my a**s and starting cutting. I was really embarassed, because we were both looking forward to this. I started crying instantly, maybe because of the alcohol but nevertheless I just felt ashamed. Why did it hurt so much? The first time I did it with my ex, it didn't hurt like that the first time.
Maybe someone can give me a link to some more information on a**l sex. I don't get why it hurt so much, I'm embarassed and ashamed, and I just really wish I could've gone through with it. Thanks.
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 1:11 am
I am not exactly an expert on any forms of sex, but I do know that if you're tense or nervous it could make things a lot more complicated and/or painful... perhaps you were anxious to try something so intimate with somebody you care so much about?
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:38 am
Were you using lots of lubrication? If not, then you definitely need to be using lots of water-based lubrication (to reduce friction and chances of tearing) and a condom (sanitary reasons, STD prevention).
And Sauvie is right, from what I can remember, if you're tense/nervous/anxious then it's going to be harder. Maybe the alcohol contributed too. Maybe try it again when you're both sober?
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Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 1:43 pm
We were using lots of lube. And from what I can remember, I wasn't nervous. I was more excited to be able to do this with him.
I was thinking, I mean when I have a boul movement it doesn't hurt, even when they're a bit bigger. And my boyfriend is on the smaller side, so why does it hurt? Is it because it's going in, and not out?
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Posted: Sat Oct 03, 2009 4:19 pm
well going in and going out are pretty much the same im not an expert either but you should ask a doctor if it keeps hurting
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Posted: Sun Oct 11, 2009 6:58 pm
It might be easier if you prepare yourself better by slipping in something thinner/smaller like a finger and work up. A finger, two fingers, then try him penetrating you.
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Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:22 am
me and my wife had had a**l sex and what we used is a product called a**l ez what it does is it numbs for the lack of a better term butt hole the more you put on the longer it lasts and the more numb you get now what we do is we have regular intercorse after she applies it (because it takes adout 15 min to start working) and she sayes that she still feels it and it herts alittle but she would not have a**l without it. hope this helps.
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Posted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 5:12 pm
metal is right...i think o.o u should get used to some easy stuff before u get serious
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