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 Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 10:24 pm
Whatever happened to the days where you were given time to prove yourself to someone, instead of being shot down on the spot from a first impression? Do you go by first impressions or do you wait to see what the person you're observing is like? The same goes for a job interview and such. Just hearing a guy for the first time through an interview isn't always a clear sign that they're a good or bad worker, right?
For example: I've been rejected by countless girls that I've asked out from the impression that I'm "boring." (I can truly say this, because two talked behind my back by saying that...obviously it's a running trend. To no avail, I'm using it as an example, whether it's true fact or not.) It's not like I want to be boring, you know? I'm a fairly neglected person living with the parents. I'm 20 and I'm not allowed to go out much without a reason. (I doubt I'd go out much anyways, because then it would get suspicious...) Though if I were given a chance, I'd sure as hell be a fun guy to hang around with. I'd just need more experience, but only if people give me a chance to hang out with them. Nobody is giving me that chance.
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 1:19 am
First impressions have always been the most important thing.
The trick is to make yourself look like something, even if you really aren't. For example, I look smart, but I'm really not. I'm just -very- good at faking it.
The trick for you would be to look fun, not that you're not of course, but appearing it is half the battle.
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 5:21 am
Do you really want to be with a girl who's stupid enough not to give you a chance? It's her loss, not yours. She's just making it easier for you to decide if she's worth it or not (and if she cares that much about first impressions, she's not)
Maybe you'll find a girl who likes boring guys =P
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 5:46 am
Keep in mind, teenage girls are wierd. "Boring" could easily mean "He isn't dangerous and won't get me on an episode of Cops." I don't understand why teenage girls are so amazed by bad boys. rolleyes
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 12:02 pm
>.<
My first impression with my chemistry teacher.
At the beginning of the year, he approached my sister telling her how happy he was that I was in his class. The year prior, sis was in there, and was apparently a great student.
At the end of the year, she approaches him again, and asks how he's doing.
"Better, now that your brother's gone!"
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 1:22 pm
Little Miss Fortune Do you really want to be with a girl who's stupid enough not to give you a chance? It's her loss, not yours. She's just making it easier for you to decide if she's worth it or not (and if she cares that much about first impressions, she's not)
Maybe you'll find a girl who likes boring guys =P We're talking about 7 separate girls that think that about me. gonk And most of them have differing personalities to each other. @Val: I don't think so. Not for me anyways. The closest person I can ever call a "best friend" to this day is a guy that apparently goes out to party, get drunk, curse a lot, etc. He's dependable all the same and someone that tells the truth and doesn't mind what I say. Not all punks are bad guys, you just have to let them prove that with time. @Shiori: I know, right? And then they complain about getting their hearts broken and talk to the nice guy about it, and then use them as a shoulder to cry on, but never think of them as a potential interest. xp Ongoing trend indeed. Though it's not everyone. Just a lot of that goes on these days. @Divine: I don't know if I should laugh at that or what. xd
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 2:41 pm
I'm pretty good at pretending I'm an interesting person irl.
The main problem is keeping the facade up, which usually fails. People discover how un-interesting I am pretty fast. Dx
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 2:55 pm
Guardian TK Little Miss Fortune Do you really want to be with a girl who's stupid enough not to give you a chance? It's her loss, not yours. She's just making it easier for you to decide if she's worth it or not (and if she cares that much about first impressions, she's not)
Maybe you'll find a girl who likes boring guys =P We're talking about 7 separate girls that think that about me. gonk And most of them have differing personalities to each other.
But they all have something in common, too...
None of them knows a great guy when they see him <3
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 3:05 pm
Guardian TK Little Miss Fortune Do you really want to be with a girl who's stupid enough not to give you a chance? It's her loss, not yours. She's just making it easier for you to decide if she's worth it or not (and if she cares that much about first impressions, she's not)
Maybe you'll find a girl who likes boring guys =P We're talking about 7 separate girls that think that about me. gonk And most of them have differing personalities to each other. @Val: I don't think so. Not for me anyways. The closest person I can ever call a "best friend" to this day is a guy that apparently goes out to party, get drunk, curse a lot, etc. He's dependable all the same and someone that tells the truth and doesn't mind what I say. Not all punks are bad guys, you just have to let them prove that with time. @Shiori: I know, right? And then they complain about getting their hearts broken and talk to the nice guy about it, and then use them as a shoulder to cry on, but never think of them as a potential interest. xp Ongoing trend indeed. Though it's not everyone. Just a lot of that goes on these days. @Divine: I don't know if I should laugh at that or what. xd Laugh. It be funny. ninja
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 4:44 pm
Shiori Miko Keep in mind, teenage girls are wierd. "Boring" could easily mean "He isn't dangerous and won't get me on an episode of Cops." I don't understand why teenage girls are so amazed by bad boys. rolleyes ahem, i happen to be a teenage girl. and i dont like the idea of bad boys actually smile i like down to earth guys that are up for anything not just. "oh no i dont want to" why not though D:"cause i just dont feel like it" i never go on first impressions. well, i take that back. i kinda do, but ill talk to everyone to see if i actually like them enough to befreiend/date. ive been wrong,and ive been right. but regardless, i think everyone should give everyone an equal chance.
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Posted: Mon Sep 28, 2009 10:18 pm
Little Miss Fortune Guardian TK Little Miss Fortune Do you really want to be with a girl who's stupid enough not to give you a chance? It's her loss, not yours. She's just making it easier for you to decide if she's worth it or not (and if she cares that much about first impressions, she's not)
Maybe you'll find a girl who likes boring guys =P We're talking about 7 separate girls that think that about me. gonk And most of them have differing personalities to each other.
But they all have something in common, too...
None of them knows a great guy when they see him <3I've definitely had the "I don't think you deserve me..." speech before, just to avoid any hurtful remarks. Even so, that points out a flaw, doesn't it? Wouldn't the opposite gender have fun with a fun person than the quiet "good guy?" Seems to be a running trend. They know the guy is a "good guy," but doesn't date them in any case. That or they would cheat on him and go out with the "bad boy." xd @Divine: HAHAHAHAHAAAA..............*Cough* @Kumiko: I know what you mean. @ninjaa: *High fives*
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 2:33 pm
Guardian TK @Val: I don't think so. Not for me anyways. The closest person I can ever call a "best friend" to this day is a guy that apparently goes out to party, get drunk, curse a lot, etc. He's dependable all the same and someone that tells the truth and doesn't mind what I say. Not all punks are bad guys, you just have to let them prove that with time. You're the exception that proves the rule, my friend.
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 3:33 pm
ninjaaduckie Shiori Miko Keep in mind, teenage girls are wierd. "Boring" could easily mean "He isn't dangerous and won't get me on an episode of Cops." I don't understand why teenage girls are so amazed by bad boys. rolleyes ahem, i happen to be a teenage girl. and i dont like the idea of bad boys actually smile i like down to earth guys that are up for anything not just. "oh no i dont want to" why not though D:"cause i just dont feel like it" i never go on first impressions. well, i take that back. i kinda do, but ill talk to everyone to see if i actually like them enough to befreiend/date. ive been wrong,and ive been right. but regardless, i think everyone should give everyone an equal chance. Ahem yourself. I'm 17 and also lack a p***s. xp
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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2009 4:22 pm
Shiori Miko ninjaaduckie Shiori Miko Keep in mind, teenage girls are wierd. "Boring" could easily mean "He isn't dangerous and won't get me on an episode of Cops." I don't understand why teenage girls are so amazed by bad boys. rolleyes ahem, i happen to be a teenage girl. and i dont like the idea of bad boys actually smile i like down to earth guys that are up for anything not just. "oh no i dont want to" why not though D:"cause i just dont feel like it" i never go on first impressions. well, i take that back. i kinda do, but ill talk to everyone to see if i actually like them enough to befreiend/date. ive been wrong,and ive been right. but regardless, i think everyone should give everyone an equal chance. Ahem yourself. I'm 17 and also lack a p***s. xp but see, youre closer to being unteenage girl xD i on the other hand have like. 4 more years. i think >.> is 15 and doesnt feel like doing math at themoment. so ha! anyway. seriously though, if a girl isnt going to date you because youre apparently boring, (which i dont think so at all btw) shes lame. if she needs a bad boy to make her life interesting, you dont need that. andhopefully dont want that.
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Posted: Sun Oct 04, 2009 4:06 pm
I feel like the best way to go is to get to know people as friends or acquaintances or people sharing in an activity before you start considering them as potential dates. That way the pressure is off to score a date right away, and you both get a chance to see what the other person is really like and decide if they're really what you're looking for before you make any moves.
Of course, if you don't get to spend a lot of time with other people, it may be hard to get to know them that well. But trying to make that happen is probably better than hoping you'll get lucky with a girl just based on first impressions.
As far as the general question, I do tend to size people up based on whatever I see, and then modify my impression if I see something more. So I wouldn't necessarily say I'm super judgmental, and it's not like I'm always looking for excuses to shoot someone down, but I do form impressions of people based on the available data. As much data as there is at any given time. smile
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