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Okay. So here's the skinny.

People involved:

Me
Bun (my girlfriend's nickname)
Yuki (nickname of the female friend)
Blerg (not his real nickname) ((Yuki's boyfriend, and friend to me and my girlfriend as well))

So,I went to AWA (Anime weekend in Atlanta) and stayed in a hotel room with a family, and the sister's girlfriend. My girlfriend was in a room directly above mine. Now, me and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly five years. I am 18, and will be 19 in four months. You do the math. Anyway, the girl and boyfriend whom me and MY girlfriend are both mutual friends with have been dating for around 3 months. Me and Bun have obviously taken our relationship to higher levels then Yuki had, which was completely normal, due to the time Me and Bun had spent together, however, there are certain boundaries that Bun has set for us.
Anyway, Me and Bunny had to leave AWA a day early. Monday night, me and Bun were on the phone, and Yuki messaged Bun saying that sometime on Sunday, the day we left, her and Blerg had had a little fun, leading Yuki to orgasm. Now, me and my girlfriend have done the same actions as they did, which is not why I was angry. (Which I was.) In fact, I was so angry that I felt sick to my stomach, and was literally shaking. Every time me and my girlfriend get her close to an orgasm, she always stops me, saying she's scared, and she doesn't want to yet.

Now, Yuki did tell Bun that she stopped Blerg after she orgasmed, and that she felt really ashamed and sent him away for a while, but that didn't stop me from being crazy angry and jealous. It was a strange feeling, because usually I am a level headed guy, but for some reason this made me more angry than I have ever been. I later came to the realization that I wasn't angry at Blerg and Yuki. I was angry at myself for not being good enough for Bun. I know it's a stupid thought, and I know deep down that I am good enough for her. It's just that giving Bun an orgasm has been a big goal of mine for our relationship, and the fact that Bun doesn't allow that for us makes me jealous.

So the question I have is, "is it understandable for me to be angry and jealous, even if my relationship includes reasonable and understandable boundaries?"

Also, if anyone here knows me, they know that I am usually not one to post my problems here, but this one hit me hard.

You must understand...Women are very complecated. I believe it natural to not be ready to orgasim for somebody although at the same time I understand the Anger. I mean I'm sure when the time and moment is right everything will go as plan...but until then I suggest waiting and be loving to her.

I dunno...I've never really been in a relationship anyways either...so...

You have every right to be angry and jealous. Just like defender said, women can be complicated at times, so it is obvious that stuff like that will affect us in so many different ways. But cheer up though. You can't be angry forever. If you pinch yourself, the pain won't stay, it'll heal over time. heart

youst what she said, and belive me youre not alone with that one, i had to wait for 1 year, and that was only waiting for having sex and and a half year before she got used to the feelings, so dont push her that will only end up in a hel of a fight, but i must say im 21 and she isnt my girlfriend so i was not a virgin when we hooked up together but my girlfriend im in love with now was virgin and i had to wait a frigging year before sex and and another half year before orgasm but i promise u, it is worth it if u love her. and and a good tip, when u get this anger after sex, go and do somthing fun with ur friends or youst watch a movie

Man you are just dumb. XD

When a girl says stop that close to cumming. Just go even harder or faster. Whatever gets her to that point. Girls like that lil bit of force. XD

Trust me. I am almost 21. I was les for 6 years. XD
Been with many women who say the same sh*t but they love it in the end. XD

AND TO ALL THOSE WHO THINK I AM MEAN FOR SAYING THIS!!!!!

OBVIOUSLY YOU DIDNT TAKE THIS ADVICE FOR YOURSELF SO HOW THE HECK WOULD YOU KNOW!

This only works if she is not a virgin! DO NOT RAPE!

im not saying you are mean, were inn the same boat.. until i found out that why i had so many girlfriends and not one that would love me and be honest and respekt me for many year.. so me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years now and that is becuase of patience and beeing honestly.. in my other relationships i did as u said and i couldt hold on to a girl for more than 2 months maybe and they were ******** up

If you have no choice, you have to learn to accept facts. Including moving on.

Its rare, yes but.... It can obviously happen, and I know it can be emberassing to her if you dont know...