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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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 Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:19 pm
wow, i never thought about it, but dear me sounds like something a loner would write on a letter to himself. haha. and to think, i say it so often! ...random phrases i pick up these days...
anyways, i'm getting a bit worried. i think i'm not gay. like, i think i'm actually asexual. so, no story, imma cut to the chase:
i want advice from anyone who's ever thought they were asexual.
anyone know someone who's asexual?
anyone have anyway to help me figure our whether i'm gay and just not into relationships or if i truly am asexual?
...ok, i think i may have to throw in some background for you to understand this. so asexual is when you don't really like physical relationships with anyone (oh god, PLEASE correct me if i'm wrong so as to help me with this problem!) and i've realized (ok, realized awhile ago) that i don't like physical relationships. i don't like being touched, i don't like kissing. i hug and all, that's fun. i mean, i ******** pounce people! but i dunno. i don't like kissing. i HATE cuddling. and i wanna know if this is just some sort of psychological problem that i've developed or if i'm really asexual.
any help is welcome! please? sorry, i know i sound ridiculously pathetic, but i'm so confuzzled and annoyed at myself right now.
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:28 pm
No, I think you are just going through the phase of "Don't touch me!!" I had that time and I thought the same thing as you are now. No worries hunny, I'm climbing out of it now, there are still a few who I don't like touching me but I deal. I'm much like you except I like cuddling and kissing...but not to the extremes...
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 1:58 am
I think that you should not worry about finding a straight down the line label for your sexuality.
After all, sexual preference is such a varied and changing thing. You could be both gay and asexual, meaning you could only want to be in relationships with people of the same sex but not a physical way (although good luck finding someone to go along with that! ahem, sorry. anyway...)
Gay and straight is about who you are attracted to, depending on their sex. asexual is about the physical stuff. Gender has nothing to do with it.
But really, you are who you are, and slapping a label across that may give some sense of belonging, or understanding, but conforming to labels just sucks.
Love however you want to, whoever you want to. And don't think about it too much. mrgreen
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