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 Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:08 pm
Okay, not in love. In like.
So here's the deal. She is my best friend, 18 and in college hours away. Her brother is 22 and still lives in town. I am 17 and a senior in high school. I have a huge crush on him, and I get the feeling he likes me back maybe even a little bit. He's extremely sarcastic all the time, but at the same time, he flirts with me, and seems to treat me a little bit differently than others. He once told me that I was the least annoying of his sister's friends.
We don't get to see each other very much since she moved out, but she sent me his number on Friday and we've been texting ever since. It's innocent, but he keeps saying things that sound like hints to me. For example...
Me: It's really hard to tell when you're being sarcastic through text messages. Maybe I should just assume you're always being sarcastic.
Him: That's what most of my friends do.
Me: You know, if you were sincere for just a day, it would really throw me off.
Him: Alright. From now on, sincerity just for you.
and...
Me: I like my women like I like my coffee: free with a dozen donuts.
Him: Wow. You're stranger than I thought.
Me: Is that a bad thing?
Him: We shall see.
So. I think he's flirting with me. But I just want to see how it goes. The problem is that I don't really have any excuses to see him. One of my ideas is to take a couple of his sister's friends with me and go visit after school one day, and if he asks why, say that his sister told us to. But I need more excuses to see him... and reasons why a 22-year-old would want to hang out with a bunch of 17-year-olds.
Also, does it seem to anyone other than me that he actually might be flirting with me? I don't want it to just be wishful thinking, but his sister even said that he liked me specifically. Not anything less general. Just that he liked me.
Also. I need advice on how to handle the situation if we do start going out. I don't want it to be awkward between her and I. It shouldn't be, because we're best friends and I think by now she has honestly probably figured out that I have a crush on him. But does anyone have any tips? Advice on what to do/not do?
WALL OF TEXT. I posted this in LI but I thought I could get some better advice here.
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:14 pm
There was a time that the pieces fit... OMG OMG OMG!! That's too freaking cute.
:3 I'm firm believer in "texting". Once to get a guys number from one of his workers I gave a friends number to get it. I felt bad. But damn it was well worth it.
That's how it all starts "opening up via texting". Who calls anymore??? Not me. After I got his number I texted him "You must be Benjamin. I'm Elly. I just wanted to text you that you are smoking hot. Just throwing that out there. : )"
You should just tell him you're coming over to see what he is up to; usually if a guy is into you he'd say "yeah, ok, that's cool". It won't hurt if you were more upfront with feelings and actually put them out to show. What's the worse that could happen? You'd know if there was something there than to keep wondering like you are now. ... But I watched them fall away
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:20 pm
LOL @ PL! XD
But I do agree on the part about just trying to set up a small date.
It could be just as friends and not anywhere super fantastic romantic.
If the flirting continues during the "date" well then there's something there!
I would also talk more to your friend about a possible relationship.
Let her know you don't want to get her caught up in between any
conflicts that may arise because that's her brother and your her friend.
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:28 pm
:] Thank you both for the advice. I'm starting to feel a lot better about it... and I honestly think she'll be okay with it if it does happen. If she hasn't said 'back the ******** off my brother' by now, I don't think she will?
and. Because I know someone is probs going to ask. That date I posted about here a month ago? Never happened. The douchebag only said yes because he didn't want to break my heart by saying no. Oh well. razz
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:30 pm
awwwz. =D I say you should just tell your best friend that you have a crush on him, and see how she reacts.
But I don't think you need to make any excuses to see him. Just tell him you want to hang out some time cause you think he's a cool guy! If you go with the excuses thing, then it might be hard to make the transition from friend to something more. Being up front about my feelings always works the best for me.
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 3:00 pm
OMGEE!!
I wish you the best of luck Nudge!
I remember dating one of my best friend brothers (he was 25 at time and I was 19-20) and it went off like a bang! I do hope that you'll be careful though Nudge, cause her bro also took my... well, I'm sure you remember what happened >< Found out he did it just to 'loosen me up' but then again that is how he was like. I have no idea how your friends bro is like, so I can't say he'll do the same.
Just be careful ^^
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:59 pm
So update: I told her and she was ecstatic. We didn't really get the chance to talk about it, but she seems more confident in it than I do. So that's... good? I think?
Thanks for the advice, guys. :] keep it coming?
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 10:01 pm
"The small date sounds like a good idea :3 I'm sorry that douchebag blew you off. My ex faked his death and left me. Then sent his friends to make me feel bad. I was like "YOU b***h D<" lol But um, I think its really cute <3"
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 6:00 pm
Madame_Zombie_Stix "The small date sounds like a good idea :3 I'm sorry that douchebag blew you off. My ex faked his death and left me. Then sent his friends to make me feel bad. I was like "YOU b***h D<" lol But um, I think its really cute <3" Oh, wow. I'm so sorry! That really sucks. What an a*****e. And thanks. biggrin
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 5:29 am
Nudge Nudge Madame_Zombie_Stix "The small date sounds like a good idea :3 I'm sorry that douchebag blew you off. My ex faked his death and left me. Then sent his friends to make me feel bad. I was like "YOU b***h D<" lol But um, I think its really cute <3" Oh, wow. I'm so sorry! That really sucks. What an a*****e. And thanks. biggrin Majorly an a*****e! Whoever would even think about doing such a thing needs to get burned, and I'm not talking with words either! >:O
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 1:44 pm
So I talked to his sister more. She's really excited. She says that he hasn't had a girlfriend in years, though... but she also says that if he's flirting with me like I think he is, he really does like me because he doesn't flirt a whole lot.
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 1:51 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 1:56 pm
>w< I thought so. I'm super excited. I want to actually see him, haha.
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 2:06 pm
Whoa whoa... Summer is that what happened?!
That's some seriously ******** up s**t! I hope karma bites him in the a**!!
Sho, if things do work out with you and him I think it'd still be a
good idea to let him know should any situation come up that you
both are having an argument or whatever that you don't want
you friend dragged into the middle. And again, set up a small date.
Some time alone as just friends before getting serious is good.
D and I were like that for a few months before we started dating.
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Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 10:34 pm
"Yes everyone thats what REALLY happened xD; To make matters worse, his friends made me feel bad about it =( and it always seemed like I had to do most of the work in the relationship. If I made a mistake twice, it was the end of the world. He thought it was impossible to make the same mistake twice D; I could rant about this WHHOOLEEE thing but I won't xD This is Sho's thread not mine <3 Your welcome by the way Sho lol."
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