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 Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 6:40 pm
how do you talk to them?!?! i mean, whenever they start talking about themselves, i just wanna go just off the nearest cliff.
if they aren't intersted in what i'm interested in (aka movies, video games, anime), then what they say just bores me.
am i a lost cause? should i just quit at life? the the pigeons ever be reunited???
how do i talk to girls for extended periods of time w/ out wanting to end myself?!?!
sometimes, i just want to say; "i dont care".
man, im bad..... sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 6:53 pm
^^; Actualy I have that problem with both girls and guys. It's rather unfortunate to have no girls that are easliy talked to. ninja If you really want to find the ones similiar to yourself, you have to ferret them out. There's no such thing as a lost cause, never quit on life, and pigeons shall be reunited~! I find it helps to just be happy with your current circle of friends. Seeking out(though I'm not saying making new friends is a bad thing) people can lead to unhappy endings. Girls like that are rather hard to find if you want to find them. Kind of an abnormal paradox-type thing going on there....
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 8:56 pm
Find a nice shy girl. They are easier to deal with...I am very shy, and even though I can talk about myself a lot with my close friends, being around people I don't know as well is different. If you approach a shy girl and give the conversation a good push forward, they will be more likely to have a more satisfying conversation.
Lots of gals like guy stuff. It's just that a lot of them are afraid to admit it.
And hey, girls don't just talk about themselves. Like, this one time, I was just talking with some friends, and I was talking about this cool thing I did and I was like blah blah me blah myself blah blah I blah blah.... LOL, we do do a lot of talking about ourselves. If the shy girl thing doesn't work, then try going on about yourself for a while, and maybe it will even out. I dunno...might work.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 9:10 pm
Dont' worry about it, you'll eventually find someone just like you...then you won't mind talking about her for hours on herself...and she'll want to get to know you too.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 7:49 am
find someone who is interested in the same things as you do, and I guess the girl just have to stop to talk about themselves wink but I guess that is a female sickness or something, they always do that sweatdrop (exept when they have older brothers or something like that xp )
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 8:26 am
*shruggs* Just don't talk about stuff you know nothing about. Mostly, just say something and ask a question about her oppinion on it. for example: food. That's a fairly easy topic to talk about. All you do is coment on the food you are surved/are surving/they have/you both have. Then go off on your favorites and then ask about her favorites. It can also lead to memories, then families, then other interests.
Mostly just start talking. If you see something they have on them that you know a little about, ask them about it(like if I see a person reading Harry Potter, I ask where they are at, then go on from there on Harry) Talking's realy easy once you get started on it.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 1:28 pm
confused We do? Why wasn't I informed of that??? Ah well, it's better this way...
I know about those girls that always talk about themselves. It does get annoying. I think you should take some time, find a girl who likes the things you do or is shy, like others have said. Be nice, be patient, and sooner or later, things'll change for the better.
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 8:48 am
Its a chance to learn how to listen. Try to have an open mind. I know what its like though. When I first met Paladin, a few weeks after we had met actually, he was talking to me about his work and what he does and the chemicals that are there and such. I honestly only remember a few lines of what he said and he must have talked about it for like 15 min at least. lol I really didn't care (mostly cause I didn't understnad what the heck he was talking about). I'm better about it now. I'm really interested in his job but also, I've learned to at least try to keep interested in what people say. I try to ask questions about it, thinking why they would be saying this, try to just be someone for them to talk to whether its small things or important things.
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:45 pm
dersephy how do you talk to them?!?! i mean, whenever they start talking about themselves, i just wanna go just off the nearest cliff. if they aren't intersted in what i'm interested in (aka movies, video games, anime), then what they say just bores me. am i a lost cause? should i just quit at life? the the pigeons ever be reunited??? how do i talk to girls for extended periods of time w/ out wanting to end myself?!?! sometimes, i just want to say; "i dont care". man, im bad..... sweatdrop i have hard times talking to girls, cuz i cant ever think of anything to talk about that hopefully wont bore her......lol
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 7:21 pm
Well I think that you should find a shy girl that has only a little bit of the same interests because if you find a girl that talks about herself that has the same interests as you, then you are kind of talking about yourself for 30 minutes in a way and that can get really boring. I can't even stand talking about myself for 5 minutes. Plus if she is down because of something that happens, for example: she just played a video game that she thought she was going to like but didn't so she was bummed out which made you bummed out so neither of you can cheer the other up. It is kind of hard to explain so sorry if you didn''t understand what I just said.
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 12:09 pm
Well, If you were in SW Ohio, you could talk to me. Maybe you should go into the comic store and strike a conversation with the first girl you see there.
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 8:27 am
Easily. Smile and nod. Be the shoulder they cry on. Be nice to them. Let them talk about themselves. It's actually quite interesting, I find.
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 8:40 am
dersephy how do you talk to them?!?! i mean, whenever they start talking about themselves, i just wanna go just off the nearest cliff. if they aren't intersted in what i'm interested in (aka movies, video games, anime), then what they say just bores me. am i a lost cause? should i just quit at life? the the pigeons ever be reunited??? how do i talk to girls for extended periods of time w/ out wanting to end myself?!?! sometimes, i just want to say; "i dont care". man, im bad..... sweatdrop Here's a tip, don't talk to shallow, "I'm the best" kind of girls wink But hey, just be your random self and voila! Either girls will think your interesting or they will give you a strange look but either way you got their attention blaugh
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2005 7:20 am
beleive it or not, women are very much more intimidating than they think they are. and... those who are LDS are rarely calm and submissive, i think thats an inbred trait. So, it is definitely harder to talk to an outgoing female.
Just be yourself, what more can you do? i spent most of high school like that, being my self, and eventually, people grew to like me.
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2005 7:02 pm
Okay, I personally have a hard time talking to girls, and I am a girl! I'm what you would call a tom-boy, so I'm not really interested in shopping, clothes, talking on the phone, etc. I love video games and such, but I do have something to say to you about talking to girls; girls like to talk to guys who aren't fake. If you try to be something you're not, you will be 10 million times worse then nothing (something John Bytheway said mrgreen ). Be yourself, and the rest will follow.
Also, it really does depend on what the girl is like. For instance, my best friend is the preppiest person I know, and I can carry on a conversation with her for hours. I talk to her about religion a lot, and so much happens in this small little town of ours that we just talk about our days, but basically, if you try some good small talk, complement her, or even a simple "hi" can spark a whirlwind of conversation!
Girls are just so darn confusing.... confused
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