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Telling someone...?

Musica Amor

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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:29 pm

Ok...
So, I've known that I'm a bisexual for about a year now...and I still haven't told my parents, or any of my friends.
So...here are my problems;

Parents: Well, see, I've asked my parents about this before. I was like "My friend told me she was bi today" and my mom said that that was gross and that she's glad she has a straight daughter...and my dad said that even though he doesn't want me dating yet, he'd prefer it to be a guy rather than a girl ><

Friends: I love my friends, ok? Not like, love-love, but friend-love. I've asked them what they would do if I told them I was bi (we were talking about the gay couple at our school so I just sorta threw it out there) and they said they'd be ok with it, but it'd be really, really awkward. I mean, I enjoy having sleepovers with them because it is just so much fun! And now just sleepovers. Simply hanging out makes me really happy. I am not attracted to any of them, so they don't need to worry about that--and neither do I o_o--but I'm afraid that if I DO tell them, they wouldn't wanna come over anymore...or have sleepovers and whatnot...

I don't want to keep this a secret forever, but I just don't know how to tell anyone!
So...what should I do? ><

Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:35 pm

honey, i had the same exact problem, but i told my friends and since then they have slept over and hung out and hugged nd crap, they wont care, and my parents r ok, my fathers gay so he was ok with it and my mom nd step dad dc but with your parents....maybe wait till you can be a little independent...? but if ur friends rlly love you, they will accept u and still sleep over nd hang out. pm me if u wanna talk more smile hope i helped a little smile

Taylor Krieger

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Musica Amor

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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:38 pm

Yeah...like...when I go to college XD;;
And as for my friends, I was thinking about that too. I'm like "If they can't accept me for me...are they really my friends?" But I just don't wanna lose them or become distant from them >< I think I'll tell them...eventually, but I'd probably ease my way into it, so it's not like "Oh, by the way, I'm bi."

Thanks Taylor =]

Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:46 pm

any time smile friend me if u want...i has no friends....i do has like 2 bi friends but thats it...on gaia at least..nd random ppl...but yeah dont say im bi so whats up? trust me, the reaction is pretty funny....well my friends was

Taylor Krieger

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LittleCazzy

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Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 10:30 am

With your friends, I sugest as it worked for me, slowly come out to them one at a time sorta thing starting with the ones you trust the most. As for your parents I wouldn't know I haven't told any of my family, my parents are homophobic

Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 2:00 pm

imma tell you right now that telling your parents is the most difficult task, because no one can help you and can only give vague advice because no one knows them. all parents are the same. but friends tend to have similar reactions; either they accept you, or they leave you (which means they aren't really your friends, like this one chick i told...)

anyways, so telling your friends should be ok. i mean, even if you think it will, it won't be awkward. things are only awkward if you let them be. tell them, and behave completely normal afterwards. don't make it this big deal (no hallmark cards and party things. it's nothing big to come out to friends) and then everything should be fine.

don't get me wrong. it feels good. but it's not the kinda big occasion you need to worry about.

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Maskawin

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Posted: Tue Oct 13, 2009 5:16 pm

Find one good friend, liek your BEST friend. Take Him/her to a private place, then spill out your secret. Who knows maybe your friend might have this reaction:

"Why are you making such a big deal about it? I knew for a while now"
-Then insert Happy scene here-

Posted: Tue Oct 13, 2009 5:32 pm

Friends, the true kind, won't care at all. It can even become a bit of material to joke around with if they're totally cool with it. Parents... well, they can be different. Even knowing my mother would be cool with it I haven't told either of them. Do whatever you'r comfortable with, as that's the only thing that really matters.

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CS2-Sasuke-XD

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Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 8:07 am

Geez, I told my mom and she said "What ever makes you happy, can I go clubin too" -..- at a GBLT club mind you. effing young parents

Posted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 3:16 pm

Tell your friends that you're not interested in them that way. That's what i did.
I haven't told my parents. My mom knows I'm part of the my school's GSA but , to date, i haven't dated any guys, so she probably thinks I'm in the closet or I'm straight.
My friends are a bit creeped out that i';m bi but they don't think I'm going to rape them in their sleep or anything (nothing really changed. They wouldn't give me a hug before that anyway XD)

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