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 Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 10:41 pm
One of the reasons I hate depression and anxiety is that I am paranoid and lonely so now......I'm all alone. no one really cares about me. I was dealing with it ok till this week, when everything came crashing down. I just want to be loved and have someone to love....is that wrong?
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 11:28 pm
There's nothing wrong with that at all. Although it's alright to not have anybody, since society tells teenagers that they need to have a partner in order to be loved, popular, "cool", etc. But it's really not that big a deal.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 3:44 am
Nikolita There's nothing wrong with that at all. Although it's alright to not have anybody, since society tells teenagers that they need to have a partner in order to be loved, popular, "cool", etc. But it's really not that big a deal. What do you know. You don't even know me personaly, so don't try and give me statistics for a person.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 8:20 am
You made the thread, you get the advice, whether you like it or not. And I wasn't giving you statistics, so get your vocabulary right. There have been books and studies written that prove society's influence on teenagers. Besides, other people are going to tell you the same thing anyways.
My point was (in answer to your question), no it's not wrong to want to be loved by someone else.
If you have depression, try getting yourself some help. Maybe it will help you deal with your anxiety too. Talking to a counsellor, therapist, etc. That sort of thing. If you see a doctor or a psychiatrist, you might be able to get medication for your depression too.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2005 5:04 pm
Don't let things like this get you down.
I was ready and willing to go and off myself, but then I met the best kid in the world.
It will all work out, you'll see.
If it doesn't happen for a few months, it doesn't happen for a few months, we're all here rooting for yeh 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 11:00 pm
Any reasons as to why you're alone?
And no, it's perfectly normal to be loved.
If you can't cope with it at all, drink a little alcohol here and there.
It helps. Just don't chug bottles at a time.
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 8:12 pm
Hey!Im in the same postion as you are now.I've been lonely for 14 years straight and when my friends say i want a bf/gf i say i want a bf to but then they'll be like hush,But i can totally relate to you and alot of people hate me my family is like whoa and i feel so weak.Hope you get better and best of luck to you.
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Posted: Thu Dec 22, 2005 11:24 pm
I know how you feel. I know you'll probably think I'm a d**k but anyway.. I have a gorgeous boyfriend that I love and I have heaps of friends and a pretty close family but I feel really alone too.. I just feel like I have noone to talk to and noone understands me and basically noone cares! I mean I know kurtis loves me and I know my friends love me but I don't want to disappoint them and I don't wanna scare them off by telling them how depressed I am all the time. I'm getting better now.. It might have been the pill I have been on but I've been on my new one for a month now but its not making THAT much of a difference.. Anyway I know you will probably have a psyche coz I'm feeling this way for no reason coz I have these people that love me but I had to say it anyway..
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Posted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 9:17 am
Heinrich_Jager One of the reasons I hate depression and anxiety is that I am paranoid and lonely so now......I'm all alone. no one really cares about me. I was dealing with it ok till this week, when everything came crashing down. I just want to be loved and have someone to love....is that wrong? I know exactly how you feel. I have Social Anxiety so severely that I can't stand to let anyone other than my family know the "real me." I'm always trying to blend in with the crowd, and not be noticeable. And I often isolate myself intentionally. It sucks at times, but I try not to think about it. I don't really have any advice for you, but just know that I'm here to talk if you want.  For your sake and my own, I hope we can find ways to deal with this.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 6:56 pm
I sometimes get really depressed as well. I talk to my friends about it but sometimes they don't really understand how I feel. Like, they pretend to be synphathetic (is that how you spell it?) and all, but I can see that they haven't experienced the same feeling I did. So yeah, it sometimes sucks but we can all find help together! 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2006 7:09 pm
Um.. ok.. I actually know exactly the way you feel. I had absolutely no friends till 2 years ago- so that's no friends from kindergarten to 11th grade... and I've still never had a boyfriend.
But... I know it's hard to say, when you're all depressed, and feel all alone- but don't let it get to you so much... Because first off, you aren't alone. You have your family, even if they seem all the time to be total jerks, and to not give a damn about you- I don't know your family situation, but I know that's how I always used to feel. But you need to realize that they do care about you, no matter what- maybe they just don't always show it, for various reasons, maybe they yell.. but they love you no matter what, above all else. So does God- if you believe in Him that is- well, even if you don't, God still loves you, but you might not feel taht way... anyway, God wouldn't have had you be alive in the first place if you were worthless, and all alone and unloved.
And don't worry about the friendship thing... you'll make friends eventually... sometimes it takes meeting new types of people- big high schoolsare ok for this, and colleges are even better- no matter what you're like, you will make tons of friends there. Also, if you happen to be shy, that's a problem- that was my problem- I was too afraid to talk, and people thought I hated them, while I was thinking they hated me... so we never talked.. Also, you might just not have a lot in common with the people at your school right now- btu you should never change yourself for others... be yourself, and the time will come, I promise, when there will be tons of friends who will come along and like you for yourself. And... just think- friends can sometimes be mean... create peer pressure, talk behind your back, etc... I'm not saying it's bad to have friends, I'm just saying you don't necessarily need them...
But anyway, don't worry- and don't be so depressed- after all, you aren't as alone as you think. There is ALWAYS someone who loves you, whether it's hard to realize at the moment or not. Take it from someone who's been through what you're going through more or less.. biggrin
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 2:53 pm
Heinrich_Jager Nikolita There's nothing wrong with that at all. Although it's alright to not have anybody, since society tells teenagers that they need to have a partner in order to be loved, popular, "cool", etc. But it's really not that big a deal. What do you know. You don't even know me personaly, so don't try and give me statistics for a person. hey bud, listen up. im alot like you always feel like you don't nessisarily fit with surroundings. figure you'd be better off somewhere else, except you don't know where. Reside in your mind, playing in your own little world. the paranoia isn't anything new. everyone is paranoid to some degree, just other have habbit of showing it mor then others. liek me for instance, i have a very bad case to the poitn where if anyone comes upbehind me and puts a finger on my left shoulder, while i can't see them. automatic reaction is to backstep ad rammmy elbow into their mid-drift. i carry my book bag on that should to prevernt it, but it still happens. its normal....to us anyway. as for the lonely thing, i can deffinatly agree withyou there. and what the girl said is true, society trys to get us together with someone. however , its freewill f ones beig that prevents us from doing that. even though we long for love or compassion, our minds think 1 of three things, in my opinion anyway. 1. love/compassion, that'd be nice, but who would ever love me.... 2. why? i've tried to find someone, what if im just not made to find anyone? 3. ******** love, who needs it...no ones ever loved me, why i should i want to haev anyone love me!! and i can tell you, those are only three options that i've thought when i was like that, im not liek that now, cause my MEDS. mrgreen (Hurray for Welbutren) but on a normal basis i do feel liek that, i haev certain levels of deperession from what my councler(s) said. ranging from slight to exteremly severe(at risk of self injury). so, don't think no one understands you, cause there are more people then you think out there, who are just liek us. we don't realize it untill later on, but they're there. just hang on to somethign you charish inside of you, find a nook or cranny in your own world and stay there, only come out when its school time. xd
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Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2006 9:46 am
I also get depressed and lonely at times. It often seems like I'm invisible. I once was on prozac (and ritalin at the same time, from the ages of 6-11 or so) and that really ******** me up. There are some things that you can do to help it, besides medicine:
arrow Exercise: I'm not entirely sure why, but jogging or biking for about half an hour a day seems to help with depression or what-have-you.
arrow Meditation: Tai chi/yoga are also fairly helpful. So is just plain old meditation.
arrow Masturbation, chocolate, and/or bananas: Get those endorphins flowing!
But I'm not a psychiatrist.
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 12:00 pm
Hglazm Any reasons as to why you're alone?
And no, it's perfectly normal to be loved.
If you can't cope with it at all, drink a little alcohol here and there.
It helps. Just don't chug bottles at a time. What nice advice.
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2006 10:49 pm
Heinrich_Jager One of the reasons I hate depression and anxiety is that I am paranoid and lonely so now......I'm all alone. no one really cares about me. I was dealing with it ok till this week, when everything came crashing down. I just want to be loved and have someone to love....is that wrong? yo man I know how you feel, I felt alone until I met this girl (not nesessarily my gf....) Yo man, I didnt think anyone cared about me either... everyone was always against me... but remember this... your not alone, even though we dont know you in r/l or personnaly, i believe all of us here are somewhat friends... which makes us all pretty popular... what is it, 2,000 or 20,000 people in this guild? still, either way thats a lot of people and alot of friends, and we're always here for eachother.... I know I am... and I've seen plenty of people over and over again trying to help people... that seems like pretty good friendship to me....
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