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 Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 2:02 am
okay so here's the deal. my boyfriend who i recently got back together with is continuously having difficulties with his parents... he and i are a good almost 3 years apart in age difference... we've broken up twice both times for a greater good the first he was unsure of himself... the second time however was due to his parents, who have forbade him from contacting me due to their belief that i turned him bi... he try's to contact me as much as he can but it's becoming difficult to continue sneaking around behind his parent's backs... plus i don't like doing so... i need help... if more details are nessacary than i'd be happy to provide them... btw i'm not sure if this is the right topic if it isn't then i'm sorry and feel free to correct me
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Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 6:12 pm
it seems that the only way to fix things (and yes, this response is gonna seem impossible and suck) is to go to his parents and try talking to them. if they refuse, then just chill with your bf as much as you can, because that may end up being the only solution until college. =/
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 12:12 am
the_forgotten_thought it seems that the only way to fix things (and yes, this response is gonna seem impossible and suck) is to go to his parents and try talking to them. if they refuse, then just chill with your bf as much as you can, because that may end up being the only solution until college. =/ i keep running scenarios through my mind of how such a thing might play out but i can't imagine things getting any better... it would be a year to 3 years before we could be together if the two of us do nothing about it... =/ i'm not a patient person... i intend to wait for him as long as i need to but it'll be difficult... thanks for your input too ^^ i AM considering doing so... maybe try to have a sitdown between him and i and his parents... i'm afraid of how they'd react to it though... i need to talk to him about it first... i'm afraid that they'd do something drastic though... =/
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:05 am
How old are you? how old is he?
Luckily, I'm too old to have to worry about my Parents.
((I'm 18 ))
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:10 am
i'm 19 and he's 16 (he'll be 17 in december)
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:11 am
Daeghan02 the_forgotten_thought it seems that the only way to fix things (and yes, this response is gonna seem impossible and suck) is to go to his parents and try talking to them. if they refuse, then just chill with your bf as much as you can, because that may end up being the only solution until college. =/ i keep running scenarios through my mind of how such a thing might play out but i can't imagine things getting any better... it would be a year to 3 years before we could be together if the two of us do nothing about it... =/ i'm not a patient person... i intend to wait for him as long as i need to but it'll be difficult... thanks for your input too ^^ i AM considering doing so... maybe try to have a sitdown between him and i and his parents... i'm afraid of how they'd react to it though... i need to talk to him about it first... i'm afraid that they'd do something drastic though... =/ Hmmm. . . .Literally ask his parents what their issue is. So their kid is bi, so what? At least he still likes girls. Try discussing why they don't want him to be bi. I bet you that once you ask for a good reason, they'll be speechless. because they don't have one. Tell them a few things about bi boys, and leave confidantly. I bet you things will get better.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:32 am
SephirothXVincent777 Daeghan02 the_forgotten_thought it seems that the only way to fix things (and yes, this response is gonna seem impossible and suck) is to go to his parents and try talking to them. if they refuse, then just chill with your bf as much as you can, because that may end up being the only solution until college. =/ i keep running scenarios through my mind of how such a thing might play out but i can't imagine things getting any better... it would be a year to 3 years before we could be together if the two of us do nothing about it... =/ i'm not a patient person... i intend to wait for him as long as i need to but it'll be difficult... thanks for your input too ^^ i AM considering doing so... maybe try to have a sitdown between him and i and his parents... i'm afraid of how they'd react to it though... i need to talk to him about it first... i'm afraid that they'd do something drastic though... =/ Hmmm. . . .Literally ask his parents what their issue is. So their kid is bi, so what? At least he still likes girls. Try discussing why they don't want him to be bi. I bet you that once you ask for a good reason, they'll be speechless. because they don't have one. Tell them a few things about bi boys, and leave confidantly. I bet you things will get better. that's the plan... and though they're the aggravating kinda die-hard chritians i refuse to accept "the bible says it's a sin" for one i don't like that book in tthe slightest second the translators DRASTICALLY misinterpreted some of the passages... i've seen that mentioned in several sources...
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:32 am
Daeghan02 i'm 19 and he's 16 (he'll be 17 in december) Okay. In two years he'll be old enough to leave the house, they shouldn't be freaking out, 2 more years, and they won't have to worry about it.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:42 am
3 years he's only just a sophmore... and a recent failed relationship enlightened me to the fact that parents can hold control over a child until that child is out of school... -.- it sucks... i miss him so much...
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 7:41 am
Just noting the part, where you mentioned his parents believed he was Bi, instead of Gay. Lot of parents think there is no riding the fence between gender preference. That shows they are willing to allow more than other parents if they aren't ignorant about the matter.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 9:50 am
Drak of Paradise Just noting the part, where you mentioned his parents believed he was Bi, instead of Gay. Lot of parents think there is no riding the fence between gender preference. That shows they are willing to allow more than other parents if they aren't ignorant about the matter. true as that is they're opinion would remain the same even if he told them he was gay rather than bi... they're weird like that... well in my opinion anyway... i know his backgroud (life's) story so i can understand why they'd be so hesitant but flat out denial isn't helping anyone =/
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Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:23 am
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Posted: Sat Feb 06, 2010 2:40 am
randomly updating as i have made progress on this matter: after 5 months of waiting i have finally been able to find out his cell phone # through an ex gf of his who i went to school with so i'm supah happeh now mrgreen
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