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 Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2009 2:41 pm
Hey everyone,
As some of you may know, I'm moving to Chicago in a little over two weeks to move in with my boyfriend. Hooray for that.
Unfortunately, the old side of me is trying to convince me "Wouldn't it be nice to lose ten pounds before getting there? You'll be meeting new people and you should look nice."
The new side of me is trying to say that yes, I should exercise and eat properly so I feel good even if it doesn't lead to weight loss.
I KNOW instead of focusing on exercising and dieting, I SHOULD be focusing on getting doctor appointments set up, unpacking my s**t from Boston, going through it, and repacking for Chicago but I can't stop thinking about losing weight. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2009 4:09 pm
This too is sacred First of all, congrats and good luck on the move. It's not easy, but at least someone who loves you is waiting for you when you get there. smile
Keep on listening to your 'new' side; yes, you should be active and eat well so you can be your best You, but it shouldn't have weight-loss as the goal. Keep listening to that voice; eventually the other voice gets smaller and smaller, though for some of us it never shuts up for good. Try staying busy with that other stuff you have to do. love as thou wilt
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Posted: Wed Sep 09, 2009 1:06 am
Congratulations in moving in with your boyfriend. I'm sure it must be exciting to get to move in together.
As for losing 10 pounds. Don't do it just for losing 10 pounds. I'm sure he loves you just they way you are. As for meeting new people. I say, You're you, If you a have a great and fun personality i'm sure that will shine through more then what people will think about your outer apperance. Its nice to start eating healthier, maybe you both should make a meal plan together and have him motivate you too. Don't make it a one way thing have him get involved with it so it doesn't seem like its just you doing it for yourself. Motivate each other to eat healthy for the heck of eating healthy. Its not like you need to impress anyone else but him. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:10 am
Nothing new advice-wise to share, so I thought I'd commiserate.
Personally, I find it kind of scary how easy it is for my newfound self-acceptance to slip. Just yesterday, I was looking at myself in the mirror and panicked a little because it looked like I had gained weight around my face. ...Turns out my lymph nodes are swollen due to this nasty cold. But still, now I feel so ashamed of that little moment of minor panic.
And now that my jeans are more snug after a summer of home-made deliciousness, I'm losing confidence in myself a little. Part of me doesn't mind trying on clothes a size or two higher--and I'm glad for that, no more breaking into tears in dressing rooms!--but part of me doesn't want to have to buy a new wardrobe, is listening to the old anti-fat/pro-weight loss voices...
Those voices also come into play when thinking about studying abroad next year. There are much fewer fat people in Europe; am I going to be gawked at? Are people going to react negatively to me?
So I totally get where you're coming from. If you find a way to completely silence that old side of you that's pro-weight loss, pppppllllllease tell me how.
*sending hugs in 3... 2... 1...*
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 6:22 pm
Do the people in Europe care as much as here whether someone else is fat or not? I am suspecting that the answer is no.
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 10:06 pm
Well, I've only had fat experience in Germany, wearing a swimsuit to the beach. But Germany has plenty of fatties. France for sure doesn't. And I'm thinking Spain has more thin people than fatties, and I'll be the odd one out again. And, I mean, I definitely have the American stereotype of "fat, dumb, gum-chewing, tourist American" working against me...
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Posted: Sat Sep 12, 2009 10:11 am
Iceh2o Congratulations in moving in with your boyfriend. I'm sure it must be exciting to get to move in together.
As for losing 10 pounds. Don't do it just for losing 10 pounds. I'm sure he loves you just they way you are. As for meeting new people. I say, You're you, If you a have a great and fun personality i'm sure that will shine through more then what people will think about your outer apperance. Its nice to start eating healthier, maybe you both should make a meal plan together and have him motivate you too. Don't make it a one way thing have him get involved with it so it doesn't seem like its just you doing it for yourself. Motivate each other to eat healthy for the heck of eating healthy. Its not like you need to impress anyone else but him. 3nodding This is a good idea. I plan on cooking and making meals for him and eating healthy in Chicago. We're a little at odds, though: he wants to gain some weight and I'd prefer to lose it, or at least, maintain. And thanks, Nayva. I hope your trip goes well. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 1:08 pm
Nayva W ell, I've only had fat experience in Germany, wearing a swimsuit to the beach. But Germany has plenty of fatties. France for sure doesn't. And I'm thinking Spain has more thin people than fatties, and I'll be the odd one out again. And, I mean, I definitely have the American stereotype of "fat, dumb, gum-chewing, tourist American" working against me...Europe is definitely very fat-phobic, but don't worry about it. The way I see it, to heck with foreigners. The ones that like to talk crap about Americans are the very same ones that adapt American culture into their own lives. They're just confused. Just be pleasant, and if anyone wants to give you crap for being a tourist, remind them that tourism puts extra money into their country's economy, and that if most people are mean like them, they should be glad ANYONE would want to visit. *reads what she just typed* Crap, the meanness is coming out of me again. Sorry about that. sweatdrop Just be pleasant and smile. It's a good way of changing other's perceptions of you. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 5:54 pm
I lived in Europe for several years due to being in a military family... the people there really aren't so bad. When you get American's coming into your country though, and acting like complete asses, you don't have anything pleasant to say about them.
We're just as bad with the people that come into our country. So I can't say that they view all American's that way - but the ones that do, you can thank our raunchy folks who went over there and set that example.
Now when it comes to feelings about their bodies... I've seen a lot of heavier Europeans. Some have the cheerful disposition and those rounded bodies. Others can be quite rude.
From my personal experiences though... they are, like most of society, worried about their weight. Which I find to be such a shame. No one feels comfortable in their bodies until a celebrity (like Jessica Simpson, who I'm not trying to take a cheap shot at) puts on weight - suddenly we have shows like "More to Love".
Why can't the people who are comfortable with their bodies been the reason to make such shows? Granted, I won't watch it; I think we're trying to exploit a community who has been put down for far too long - but it doesn't stop me from being pissed off that it took a woman who hasn't been in the spotlight for quite sometime, to get a BIT chunky to make fat beautiful
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