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If any of you has seen my previous thread in this sub forum you should know that I am an emotional guy who really may be a tad much to handle at times.

Anyway, Talking to friends and the two girls specified in that earlier post has put an idea in my head which does sound rather reasonable to me though painful none the less.

What I am getting at is this:
I am six feet two inches tall.
I am overweight though admittedly I am losing a lot of it in the past 4 months.
I am often talked to as the level headed one among friends and family alike regardless of medical records proving this wrong.
I often put others before me to the point that I have apologised for making an awkward moment between myself and the girl who has rejected me.

Is it possible, that while I have yet to ask an astounding plethora of girls out, and that only one has even showed interest at all with me. that somebody as big as I am, seen as level headed and emotional... could this possibly be intimidating or over bearing in any way?

I know that every person is different and I realise that even if 50 different girls posted in this thread that I would have only begun to realise the different stances on the subject, but I am extremely curious as to if this could be a factor or not.

I like tall guys. 3nodding 3 of the 4 guys I've dated, including the one I'm dating now, have been taller than me. My first boyfriend was not only taller than me but outweighed me by almost 100 pounds, and we dated through the last year of high school and part of college as well.

It's just personal preference... if you haven't found a girl whose been super interested in you yet, then you just haven't found the right girl yet. It sucks that it takes time, but sometimes that's just the way it goes. I don't know how old you are, but if you're still in high school, keep in mind that girls often mature as they get older, and I've personally found the "selection" (so to speak) to be better past high school. Both guys and girls are more mature and adult by that point, and there's not a lot of issues that one often has in high school dating.

To add to that, all the guys I have been with were somewhere between short and average height and anywhere from skinny to a bit plump.

But I've always wanted to try a larger guy. And I met two that I was interested in. And when I say "larger," I mean really large. Both were over 6 feet tall and very overweight. I know one was interested, and I think the other one was too. But neither one of them ever made a serious move, so I ended up moving on. But it's still something I am interested in trying.

Sigh. Now I've gone and gotten myself all hot and bothered...

For me it just depends on the person. ^^ A guy can be tall, overweight and kindhearted, but he can also be heavy, tall and creepy or rude. My personal experience with my ex was positive overall. His weight was sometimes a little bit of a turnoff, but I still thought he was attractive and we still cared about each other. It might've helped a little that we were childhood friends, but even disregarding that I think I would have still found him attractive enough to date.

As for the girls who said the height and weight difference made them uncomfortable, it's the unfortunate reality that there are shallow and rude people in the world. sad For what it's worth, at least they told you that upfront instead of dating you and then tell you later on.

You can't do anything about your height, but if it bothers you enough to want to change it, you could always talk to your doctor about starting a healthy diet and exercise regimen. 3nodding If you're able to lower your weight, maybe it would help you be more confident around girls?

And I'm glad to hear you're feeling a little better. heart I"m fortunate enough that I'm with someone now who finds me attractive even though I'm a little chubby (5'6" and about 150 for the last while now), but I remember with my ex, he was talking behind my back about wanting to get me to a gym because I was gaining some weight... but I don't think I weighed more than I did now. neutral So go figure.

*hug* You're most welcome! mrgreen I'm really happy to hear the guild was able to help you. That's what we're here for after all. ^^

It all comes down to every individual's personal preference. I happen to have a very skinny boyfriend, and I've found that I like that, because I can sort of push him around, pick him up, and kind of have my way with him. XD To me that's fun. He's a bit taller than I am, but he weighs about the same as I do, sometimes less than I do. We're pretty much each other's equal. I do think that someone's personality is the most important thing though. I don't think I would not date someone because of size, unless it was something extreme, like obesity, or being very muscular. I've never liked the overly muscular guys. I'd actually date a chubby guy over a muscular guy. I just don't care for the way it looks, and I don't like it when a guy looks like he could beat the s**t out of me. xp By what you said though, to me, you don't sound like you'd be that terribly intimidating. And from what I've heard most girls seem to prefer guys to be taller and weigh more than they do, for whatever reason. So I'm sure you have a chance with someone out there.

I find that most tall guys are big softies at heart, so I've never found them intimidating. I like tall guys, and I was dating a guy until recently who was 6'2. He was overweight when I met him, but he put on a lot of weight in the time we were together, as did I. It did lessen my attraction to him, but there were a lot of other reasons that we broke up. Now I'm with someone who's pretty skinny and only an inch taller than I am.

So really, there is a lot of different preferences out there, and quite often it is more down to personality.