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 Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 9:15 pm
Today is the climax for the shattering of my family. I don't think it will ever get worse than today! Heres the situation:
My mother and father don't talk, they are divorced.
My mother and older sister are not on good terms because my sister thinks my mother is a raving lunatic
My father is not the biological father of my older sister, but is still considered "grampa" for her kids...
My twin sister and I don't talk; she pissed me off one too many times to forgive.
My twin sister lies to my mother, father, and older sister in the aspects of where she is, so she doesn't have to visit everyone on vacations. Everybody in my family knows this.
My older sister and I had a huge argument today because I quit my job and for some reason that means she can be mad at me.
Because of my parents need to control, both have lied to me, and therefore I find it hard to trust anything that comes from either of them.
THE ONLY bond left that isn't broken (or fractured near breaking) is that between my mother and the dog. The dog trusts her completely.
Yep, just had to get that off my chest, and this is the only place/person that/who has no ties to my family.
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 2:57 am
Aww Skittlemaster... I genuinely don't know what to say.
Sometimes families just don't see eye to eye.
My parents, who split up about a year ago, are constantly and subliminally having a pop at each other in conversations with me. It's just the smallest comment, an accusation of some sort, but the meaning behind it is obvious, and it upsets me. I'd much rather they said it to each others faces, instead of making me bear the brunt of it.
And I think we're heading for another fallout soon, when I announce my intention to permanently live and work in Japan as soon as I can. I think Mum expects me to stay and work in Coventry, but I hate it here, I want to leave as soon as I can. There'll be the usual emotional blackmail: "You'll never be able to see your friends and family", "They'll never let you fit in out there", "You'll want to come home within a year", etc., which will just make things worse.
Me and my brother argue too much, and then Mum falls out with us for it. It got to the point once when he punched me in the stomach and face; I had to throw him off me, and of course I got the blame.
But I don't have any advice to offer. If that's one thing I fail at, it's giving advice.
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Profitable Conversationalist
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Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 5:37 pm
Geez, that really is a tough situation to be in. I'm sorry to hear this.
I suspect your older sister got upset with you about the job thing because it sounds like everything else is a bit out of control and no one else will listen. She probably felt you would listen (even though it wasn't any of her business) to her frustration. I think she just needs someone to express her frustrations to, and you happened to give her a way to do that. I'm pretty sure that if it weren't the job it would have been something else/someone else.
When families fall apart like that, it affects the whole family, and everyone reacts differently. Trust, decency, honesty, respect...for awhile it will all get bashed around, sadly.
I do hope things will assume a state of normalcy given enough time. Be strong, I know you'll get through this, even if you need to move out to get away from things and sort yourself out while issues are worked out and resolved one way or the other.
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Posted: Mon Aug 17, 2009 11:45 pm
Thanks girls! Your support really helps smile
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