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 Posted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 10:45 am
I've been close friends with this girl since 6th grade! I was always there for her and was always a good friend. Now for reasons I can't even begin to imagine...she's completely and suddenly shoved me out of her life. I planned a bon fire for all of our friends to come to so we could all see each other in one go. It's much easier that way for us. Well, I tried texting and calling...but she wouldn't reply and then she turned off her phone. I come to find out later that a mutual friend of ours had called her asking if she was coming to the party. I guess she was mad since the time change was bad for her and she said she wouldn't come because she had to work in the morning. Jessie (mutual friend) offered to let her stay the night at her place which was right around the corner from the party. She refused saying she didn't want to be away from her boyfriend for one single night I guess. Then hung up on her and turned off her phone. I tried leaving a voice mail and messages online. I know she got them. She won't reply and then last night I get on myspace to find out that she un-friended me. I'm just lost and confused. I don't know what I did to deserve this from her and I'm at a loss on what more I can do.
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Posted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 12:02 pm
By what I see you've done nothing wrong. You've tried to stay connected, tried to make things easy to be connected (it's not your fault for her working hours) and she's denied everything.
The problem isn't about you, the problem is about her.
Something is going on that you (and probably everyone else) doesn't know about.
But that something doesn't involve you Len. I may be fifteen but even I know it's not healthy to be so clingy to a boyfriend where you can go out for one night with old friends. By the sounds of it, you guys would have easily let him be there with her if she wanted him to come with. It's a bon fire, not a high end cocktail party.
To sum it all up again: It's not you, it's her.
My advice would be to give her time to fix everything in her life up. Don't fret, live your life and let her live her life. If there is something wrong in her life, I know you'll definitely want to help her out but she's made it clear that she wants to do things on her own (with the exception of her boyfriend, not that that's bad. He may be a good guy, he may be a bad guy. Who knows?)
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Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 11:34 am
That's the thing. She knew he could come because they both showed-up together last year. I also read in her status and I quote, " Becky:knows she should feel bad about dumping some of her friends, but really doesn't ******** care!!at 2:07 PM Aug 4
Mood surprised ver it "
Then her next one said, " BeckyI decided that I am going to start living for no one but myself. To start that off, I no longer care what people think of me or how I live.at 9:03 PM Aug 4
Mood:accomplished "
I know that I didn't do anything and that it's all her. She's always been difficult and my two blog posts on myspace explains things better. I know I did nothing wrong and that the problem lies with her. She's very unpredictable. She twists things people say all the time too. Like she'll call complaining about her life and ask for advice. So you give some without being pushy or mean and 5 mins later she turns around and blogs or calls a mutual friend to complain that you are judging her or telling her what to do with her life and so on. It's completely irrational and for a time, I thought that she was finally growing up. Boy was I wrong. I don't really know about this boyfriend of hers because she constantly complains about him and says he doesn't treat her right and so on. But heaven forbid one night away from him. The thing with Becky, is that she says that she's ALWAYS going through problems and stuff and her's are bigger and harder and more important then anyone else. It's just nuts and I don't like being treated like a disposable friend. I refuse to let her ever come back and try and be friends again. I'm doing my best to let go, but it still stings.
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Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 11:42 am
Oh dear, sadly that reminds me of some of my middle school and high school friends.
Meaning: she needs to grow up.
But good for you letting her go, of course it'll sting since you've stuck with her at her worst and best since 6th grade. But I know those types that think they're problems are worse than everyone elses. One: it's annoying Two: it's not really even true, they usually exaggerates things to make it seem true Three: Other people have problems too, may not be as bad as yours but it is a bad problem in THEIR life. Just because your problem isn't as bad doesn't mean it doesn't matter at much. No two people's lives are equal.
Ick, if you're disposable then that's just an insult to everything you live for. But anyways (I ramble WAY too much xD Most of the time it doesn't even make sense) good for you, I know it'll hurt but you've got to do what's best for you (and your sanity for goodness sakes!)
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Posted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 8:19 pm
Exactly right. Everyone's problems are big to them but that doesn't mean you should ignore your friend's problems altogether. Bleh, whatever is what I say to her now. I am soo much better off without her in my life.
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 5:30 pm
Ahh, I have a feeling that if I ramble on and on about something because I can't word it right, you'll find a way that'll put everything in one sentence xD
Can't wait till I'm older and I'll have that kind of wisdom~
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 12:37 am
Aww...you are too sweet. *hugs* I guess it just comes with time. Although, I was always sorta like this. Due to lots of things, I was forced to become very mature at a young age. I don't mind that so much though. blaugh
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 9:36 am
*hugs back* I'm sure it'll come with time if you want it to ^_^
I've always been mature as well, so much that a guy whose 24 got my number mixed up with someone else and we chatted a bit and he said I sounded way more mature than 15 xD He was a nice guy... could have used spell check though *rolls eyes*
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 7:56 pm
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