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Alright.... I'm going to tell you a short little story... it's all true, and it all happened to ME.

I lost my virginity when I was 14 years old. My boyfriend was 16. We were together an entire year before we decided to have sex. (NOTE: In my opinion, this does NOT validate my decision - yes, I DO think that is too early to be having sex.) Bu we were in love, and one night things just led to it... long story short, the condom broke. We were careful, used a fresh condom, lots of lube, a popular brand- I guess we just had a really good time. sweatdrop I tried to locate a morning-after pill the.. er... morning after, but I couldn't find a way to get one quick enough without letting my parents find out... and by the time the doctor had returned my call, it was about a week later. I was a little panicked, but tried my best to calm down about it. And I did. Until I noticed, a month and a half later, that still no period had come to me. Then, two months. At two and a half months I finally forced myself to take a pregnancy test and what I already knew was confirmed. I went through the options in my mind: my boyfriend would be 17 soon. He could drive me to get an abortion. (This was before my state had passed the parental consent law for minors' abortions) But I had to tell my mom. I just did. She would know better than anyone what to do...
After I told my mom, I knew she was shocked beyond all recognition. After all, I was only 14-going-on-15. We went to the doctor, and then a few others, who finally came to the heartwrenching conclusion that it was already pretty far in the pregnancy, and that the risks of the procedure may take a toll on me. (I was extremely thin - 5'4" and around 90 lbs.) I thought all of this was insane- wouldn't giving birth be FAR more dangerous? Apparently not the way they explained it. Can you say, C-section? gonk Either way, we planned out the next years of my future: I would continue my education, seeing as I already took school courses via the Internet, and get a college education likewise. In the upcoming Winter, (mid-to-late Dec,) I would give birth. When I finally did (Dec. 18th), we decided to keep it. I had matured ten years in those nine months, and my mother was there the whole way to help me. My boyfriend, too, stuck by my side. And now I have my little Tucker, who is turning three.
I am AGAINST teenage pregnancy. (Although, honestly, nobody does it on purpose XP ) I am AGAINST having sex too early, when you're not ready, and especially 'just for the hell of it.' Look- I was careful. I was in a loving and strong relationship. (And still am- thank GOD!) And I still got labeled the school slut, whore, etc. (even though it was my first time and with my boyfriend of a year)- on top of having the worst happen.
For the sake of yourselves and all that you stand for, be CAREFUL- and if you think you may be pregnant, get a goddamned test, please. Not everyone is prepared to care for a child. In fact, most teenagers are NOT. A child becomes your life- everything. Realize that they come first. No more parties, no more events, wild outings, trips- nothing. And if you can't deal with the possiblity of this, you may probably want to reconsider how you're spending your nights.
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Yeah, being 14 is too young. I always say, if you can't pay for the abortion/birth, then don't have sex.

Seriously, how much did birth cost you anyway? I've heard it gets REALLY expensive.

And also, remember, that if you wanted an abortion, you probably should not have told your mom, who probably talked to the doctor ahead of time and wanted to convince you out of it.

But, in the end, it's up to you, and it's up to what you want to do.

I'm glad that you went through the pregnancy safely and love your child, and that the father is still there for you. That makes me very happy, since most of the time, a pregnant teen gets completely abandoned.

Thank you for your story.

Trust me. A good percentage of us know that it can happen to ANYONE. I believe it was the main reason Nikolita made this guild. To inform younger girls and guys that they need to protect themselves and stay educated on the subject.

But, I believe it's good for people to hear real-life stories.