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 Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 8:32 am
I need them that is. Sena has entered the stage where i cannot move from one end of theroom to the other without him flying to pieces. I have to be next to him constantl;y. he is too big now to move from room to room with me as i do chores. So my house is a wreck. anyone have tips to make the cleaning easier or to gently brake him of this need to hold my legs all the time. I try to do at least one thing in the house evryday while he naps. but thats really not enough, especialy cuz hes very active and by his nap im ready for my own..lol
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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 7:09 pm
For me the best thing that I've found is getting my daughter to help me clean. She actually likes the one on one time with Mommy (and she likes to be a helper). Sure things go slower, but you're getting things cleaned, spending time with the little one, and teaching the little one to clean.
Not to say that our house it spotless or that there aren't times that I clean when I don't have her helping. I mean like mopping is something that I've found is best done when she's sleeping, but she's got a toy that she pretneds is a vaccuum and she "helps" that way.
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 9:27 am
how old is she cuz my son is 11m and just learning to walk. i really cant see him "helping" much?? he does "help " fold clothes..i fold he unfolds and i fold again, he unfolds.. smile
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 4:06 pm
She's two now, but she's also very ambitious, she was walking by 10 months...
To be prefectly honest I wasn't able to keep up on the house work until after she was weaned (I think about 13 months was when she was completely weaned--at 12mo we started cutting out the remaining nursings).
Even then I would have her carry little things into other rooom when I had a handful of toys in the other hand. She was (and still is) very good about just being content to be in the same room with Mommy. I didn't have too many problems with her having to be held.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 12:34 am
Give your little one a pot and a wodden spoon and teach him to bang them together. While he is makeing sweet music for you, you can vacume and clean etc.
Thats what my Grams did with me, or so I'm told.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 8:37 am
well he is terriefied of the vacume and he has an actul drum which he plays with quite alot..it basically if he sees me interested in anything thats not him he wants to be involved. He just HAS to be the center of my atention..this isprobly my own fault smile sad i mange to get somethings done this way though..usually ill fold about three towels and a shirt ina day..this is what i consider a grand success. I think i really neeed a way to just break him of being so needy.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 1:27 pm
krimsonnox how old is she cuz my son is 11m and just learning to walk. i really cant see him "helping" much?? he does "help " fold clothes..i fold he unfolds and i fold again, he unfolds.. smile There are ways to teach your young ones to help, even if they seem to small. Just keep in mind that not all a child's "helping" is always helpful. On that note, even if he can not actually help you clean, you could have him pick up blocks for example. If they go in a container move the blocks and the container near him and have him help you put them in. If he colors he can also help put the crayons in the box. Then as he gets older he can take on harder and harder tasks to help you clean. If you make sure that helping is fun and that he knows its appreciated then it should not be too hard to get him to want to help. At the same time, you need to be firm about when certain things must be cleaned up. These are things that worked with mine and Jen's daughter anyway. All kids are different. Best of luck.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 2:21 pm
thanx SirKirbance those tips are helpful
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Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2006 11:31 am
Something I always did with my little guy was talk to him while I cleaned. That, or sing. He was a somewhat clingy guy as well. Making sure that I was always at least addressing him even if I wasn't holding him or playing with him let him know that I was there and aware of him. I think I liked the singing more than he did, though... sweatdrop Anyway, that would usually buy me maybe ten or fifteen minutes to work like mad before he realized I was getting something done. As for laundry, I always make my son my Sock Wrangler. It helped at least a little bit. He gets to toss the socks around, which I always match up last, and I get to fold other stuff without it being immediately unfolded. This also took a fair amount of correction about only playing with the socks, and once he gets bored it's over, but it works better than just letting him "help" with all the laundry until I kill him.
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 9:13 pm
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 6:32 pm
failing all else, you can try (if you haven't already) an exersaucer or jumperoo to keep them entertained and contained in the same room you're in. although they may fuss about it, there's gonna come a time when you have to put your foot down and not give in to their constant demands for attention. If you set them up to believe that if they throw a fit, you'll pay attention to them, then sadly... that's the way it's gonna be ALL THE TIME. At the store, in the resturant, etc. etc.
My suggestion though, (kinda the same theory of how to train a puppy to behave as you want) is if you have them in a contained spot like an exersaucer and they're throwing a fit because you're not playing with/holding them... let them kick and scream and yell to their little heart's content but don't look at them or go to them until they settle down. That's how you have to teach a puppy not to jump up (folding your arms and looking at the sky until they settle down and listen to you) Its gonna take a lot of patience but most of parenting is about patience! smile
Once they've settled down, be sure to make frequent eye contact and talk or sing to them... pat them on the head or give them a little kiss and let them know how proud you are of them for playing on their own while mommy gets some work done! smile And of course when you're done with your chore, be sure to give them some extra special mommy and me time so that they know, "Ok when mommy is working that means it's almost time to ___ together! YAY!"
Of course, i don't have kids, but I've worked with a lot of kids and had two younger siblings (4 and 8 years younger) It's definately about schedules, repitition, predictability and consistancy. All of which take an enormous amount of time, patience, love and discipline... but you can do it!
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 9:03 pm
my son is WAY to large for an exersauser. its 13m now and walking and climbing and runing.and being a little boy..he's just still got all that sweet desperate attchment of a baby and he doesnt yet say any words really and only understands a few. so he's juszt in an inetween timewhere i cant hold his attentiojn long eough for most tricks as gettig him to help..he has a really short attention span..i always have too frankly.
Jen thats great thanks for putting that up
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Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 5:46 am
ah... well that makes sense then. I guess you'll just have to wait it out then sweatdrop and not sweat the dirty house until he's a little older and can be more helpful. I don't know what you'd do with them at that age. rolleyes
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Posted: Mon Feb 06, 2006 11:00 am
My five year old does that. Since i can't carry anything that is over 10 pounds. I have him push the laundry basket from the bathroom to the laundry room and then he puts everything in the washer. He puts his own cloths away, his toys, We are working on having him put his dishes in the diswasher. But putting them in the sink right now is good enough.
He follows me everywhere and talks about things that never happened. He tells tall tales which really get on my nerves.
He has made friends with the boogie man. Which we have no idea why the boogie man. *shurgs* all we can think of is a year a go my grandfather died and he always called himself the boogie man. My son didn't know him to well but my grandfather talked a lot about him because it was his first great grandchild.
But anyways, He has fits when I go to work. since I come home at midnight, he sometimes stays up til I get home just so he can see me.
My fiance has made his bedtime now 8 inside of nine. Just so he goes to sleep.
I really hate him following me around everywhere, It may get worse after lillian is born. sweatdrop I am afraid that he'll hurt her . -_-
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Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 8:10 pm
i try to pick up everynight just before going to sleep. my son picks up his toys and my husband and i doing to rest. it takes maybe 20 mins. but that way when our "cleaning day, saturday" comes around its not too bad or takes that long to clean the house. i try to get my son involved that way he know cleaning is not so simple. but he likes to help put clothes in the dryer, put up the dishes for the dishwaher, and vancum the living rm and his rm.
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