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 Posted: Mon Jul 27, 2009 7:11 pm
ok so im in 8th grade now and my used-to-be neigbore malested me in 4th grade. and now when ever i masturbate i cant stop thinkin about it and it makes me all uncomfortable. is this ntural and how do i make myself quit
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Posted: Mon Jul 27, 2009 7:18 pm
It's not normal, no, although given that you were molested that could explain why.
Did you ever tell your parents, or a trusted adult? If you didn't, you could go to your parents, explain what happened, and you could ask them to take you to a counsellor for some help. You don't have to explain that you're having these issues while you're masturbating - you could say instead that you're just having a hard time dealing with it as you're growing up, and leave it at that.
Your parents could also help you decide whether you wanted to go to the police and file a complaint/ask for an investigation.
If you want to try to handle it on your own, the only thing I can think of to suggest would be to train yourself to think of something else when you're masturbating. Focus on something that makes/made you happy, focus on the sensations you're making yourself feel by masturbating, stuff like that. You could also play music in the background or listen to music if it would help put you in the mood and distract you from thinking about your neighbour.
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Posted: Mon Jul 27, 2009 7:26 pm
Nikolita It's not normal, no, although given that you were molested that could explain why. Did you ever tell your parents, or a trusted adult? If you didn't, you could go to your parents, explain what happened, and you could ask them to take you to a counsellor for some help. You don't have to explain that you're having these issues while you're masturbating - you could say instead that you're just having a hard time dealing with it as you're growing up, and leave it at that. Your parents could also help you decide whether you wanted to go to the police and file a complaint/ask for an investigation. If you want to try to handle it on your own, the only thing I can think of to suggest would be to train yourself to think of something else when you're masturbating. Focus on something that makes/made you happy, focus on the sensations you're making yourself feel by masturbating, stuff like that. You could also play music in the background or listen to music if it would help put you in the mood and distract you from thinking about your neighbour. I did all of that that along time ago, i went to counseling and and everything i just dont know what to do
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Posted: Tue Jul 28, 2009 8:34 am
I was molested as a child. But I don't feel weird about it. I know that it was not my fault and has nothing to do with my sex life. So just because some old guy was creepy doesn't stop me from enjoying my body now.
So while I wouldn't exactly call your feelings abnormal, I would call them unhealthy. If it is bothering you this much, maybe you need to see a counselor again.
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Posted: Tue Jul 28, 2009 12:30 pm
LorienLlewellyn I was molested as a child. But I don't feel weird about it. I know that it was not my fault and has nothing to do with my sex life. So just because some old guy was creepy doesn't stop me from enjoying my body now. So while I wouldn't exactly call your feelings abnormal, I would call them unhealthy. If it is bothering you this much, maybe you need to see a counselor again. ok ill think about it
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 2:15 am
Stuff like that is hard to get over, it takes more time than people think.
It'll gets easier though, I can promise you that much.
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Posted: Fri Aug 07, 2009 7:11 pm
you need to see a therapist.
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