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 Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 9:12 pm
Read the poll. You decide whether "out" means that your parents, friends, school, community, or whatever know about you.
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For the longest time, I was not aware of any guys who were out at our school. That made me wonder a little about the proportions, relative to gender, of people who were open about their sexuality.
So I was wondering--among our guild members, how many guys are out, relative to how many girls? I apologize for having to install sex categories, but feel free to identify yourself in any way you'd like.
Then, why do you feel comfortable/uncomfortable with being out? Why have you come out? Why haven't you? And, if applicable, how does this relate to your sex/perceived sex?
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Posted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 5:38 pm
o0o0o =D
i'm a female and i'm almost totally out (mostly lesbian)
everyone at my school is blind and stupid if they don't know i'm out,
and i'm also out at home
and there are lots of people that are out at school, male and female
more females are open with Bi-ness though 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 6:16 pm
I am out, bi and slightly out.
I told my parents and 3 of my best riends. Mind you. They were all cool with it. xp
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Posted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 9:05 pm
I'm bi, and I'm out at school (me and my girlfriend hold hands in the hallways; you'd have to be practically blind not to notice, and I told all my friends anyway), but not at home. I'm afraid of how my parents might react. I know they wouldn't throw me out, but they might be "disappointed" or something...
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 2:40 pm
I told my dad that I'm bi, but he doesn't really understand and mainly deals with it by not dealing with it, if that makes any sense. Most of my friends know, but I'm not considering myself out until I tell all my family, who are majorly Christian. It scares me. ninja
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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2005 2:20 am
Matuska- Oh, wow, congratulations! Yeah, our numbers are down at "several" in my school, and only one of them is a guy. D:
Shadow15- I'm glad you got such a good reaction. :3
Goldeye- Haha, same here with school. But girls holding hands is fairly common here, so it's the kissing and embraces that give us away. XD When people ask, we're like "Use your eyes!" XD
Captain Squeaky- Yeah...my parents did that, but they've had to face up recently because I'm not single anymore. I feel it unnecessary for anyone but my immediate family to know, so I consider myself pretty much all out. :]
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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2005 11:13 am
But not being able to tell people you have loved all your life and who love you, that's not totally out in my perspective. If you can't shout it to the world then you're not out, in my opinion.
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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2005 7:05 pm
Captain Squeaky But not being able to tell people you have loved all your life and who love you, that's not totally out in my perspective. If you can't shout it to the world then you're not out, in my opinion. That's just the thing--I don't know them very well, and while I love them in a familial way, it doesn't go much farther than that. Therefore, I'm as out as I need to be. I keep it from them because my Taiwanese relatives are relatively conservative. I'm sure that, Asian families being what they are, my relatives would probably want to disown me or at least cause a huge ruckus over it. Besides, this is why I asked those who answered to define "out" for themselves. I know everyone thinks and feels differently, and those who matter to one person may mean nothing to the next. You decide--I'm only asking you to define it for yourself. :3
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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 1:34 am
Crap, I just realized I forgot to include a straight option. Dumbaaaaaass.
Redo poll now.
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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2005 9:09 pm
First of all, I am physically female with confused feelings towards transgenderism. Not sure what's going on in there.
Anyway, for now, I'm 100% out as a lesbian to family, friends, school people etc. The only people who may not know are my school teachers because a) they haven't asked and b) I see no reason to tell them.
I am also out as possibly transgender to my girlfriend, parents, school counsellour and one school friend. No more until I know what the hell is going on.
Reasons for coming out: Lesbian, because I thought at the time that that was who I was and felt ok with it and wanted to share it with the world. Although, the only real reason I came out to my parents was because they were getting suspicious about my girlfriend coming around all the time. xp
Possibly transgender: To my girlfriend because I felt that she had a right to know how I felt about myself and my body. School counsellour because I needed help with it, parents because the counsellour suggested it (this was only last week mind you) and school friend because I needed someone to talk to and he seemed like he'd understand. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2005 4:00 pm
I'm not necessarily in or out, if a person asks, i tell them the truth that i'm bi, so those that have asked, know that i am, and i am comfortable with the fact that they know. I am more comfortable with the fact that they know because then they won't feel weird when i do certain things and they know they are safe from thinking i check them out (because usually they think that i'm a crazy lesbian who stares at them when i'm not). Once you make it clear to them that you aren't checking them out and that you don't want them to think you are a lecher than usually they will be a tiny bit uncomfortable but a lot less uncomfortable than before.
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 5:53 pm
Lol well um yeah so I came out to everyone.. My aunt dosn't believe me so she thinks im strait...
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 12:05 am
toboetsukasa Lol well um yeah so I came out to everyone.. My aunt dosn't believe me so she thinks im strait... XD That reaction is always a little funny and a little sad.
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 12:10 am
FemmeGambit I'm not necessarily in or out, if a person asks, i tell them the truth that i'm bi, so those that have asked, know that i am, and i am comfortable with the fact that they know. I am more comfortable with the fact that they know because then they won't feel weird when i do certain things and they know they are safe from thinking i check them out (because usually they think that i'm a crazy lesbian who stares at them when i'm not). Once you make it clear to them that you aren't checking them out and that you don't want them to think you are a lecher than usually they will be a tiny bit uncomfortable but a lot less uncomfortable than before. Ahh, yeah. The discomfort usually goes away for me (or if it doesn't, we usually just kind of drift apart). But then, that's probably because I'm so far Out. Everyone knows, and I have nothing to hide anymore. It starts off my relationships (platonic, I'm taken) with a great deal of honesty, and I know from their approach/friendliness that they accept me the way I am. I rather like it that way. :3 So definitely, I'm with you there. Once you have that comfort established...it just makes things so much better.
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