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 Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 1:16 am
i'm 19 i have a decent minimum wage job at nordstrom... but i met this girl in china i really want to see her again we met in July haven't seen her for the longest time though we try and keep in touch through the phone.
i like her alot, i want to run away to china when i have the money meet up with her and be with her for a long time, maybe even get a job there. I also do like it better in china.
I don't really know what to do here anymore all i really want to do now is just run away somewhere.
she let me stay at her home, so i can get to know her better. I like her, but my chinese is piss poor even though i'm chinese. should i learn more before trying to live there? am i doing something stupid and wasting my life to go and try live there?
i promised her i would go to China in december, it's almost december i might be able to scrounge enough money to go there what should i do? i'm so confused... what if she would never talk to me again if i never go to china. i hate this life... why do i have to be born in america?
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Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 9:48 am
Above all else, I think running away would be a really stupid and immature thing to do. Not only are you probably going to worry your parents, but they'll lose their trust and their faith in you. And if you ever come back to America, they'd probably be really pissed off at you.
How do you know this girl in China hasn't changed? How do you know she's still the person she says she is? If you were going to China to live permanently, YES learn more. And it doesn't sound like you have enough money to get there and be able to "live comfortably". It sounds like it might be better to wait until you have a better paying job, or more money in general, before going across the ocean to another country where you barely have any money and barely speak the language.
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Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 9:14 pm
Do NOT run away there. This is going to get you in a bunch of legal trouble that can seriously hurt your future.
Keep talking to her. You can both save up money for visits, etc.. Always remember to put a bit of money aside. Start learning Chinese, take some night courses or something.
When you are ready, get her to start doing research around where she lives for employers who would be willing to hire you (if you have a skill, your chances are higher. Night courses would be a great idea). She will put you in touch with some people. You may have to visit them in person for an interview. Schedule these interviews for one of your visits with her. If you get a job, you will be able to get a work visa that will allow you to live and work in the country. I don't know about China specifically, but most countries will let you apply for a permanent residence status once you've lived there X number of years.
For this and more information, check your local Chinese embassy. You can find it using google.
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