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 Posted: Sat Nov 12, 2005 8:56 pm
[When chatting with my g/f MKA recently, we somehow got onto the subject of interracial dating. And to make a lengthy narrative brief, she eventually began ranting about how black men are "sleeping with the enemy." The "enemy" being white women.
Now...MKA is my girl...I love her dearly...but "the enemy?" I wanted to start laughing. Instead I said, "That's okay, girl; because the more black men choose white [or whatever race of] women, the more acceptable it is for me to date outside my color too."
What I was thinking, though: I really thought that black women weren't "stuck" on that anymore. Are you serious? The "enemy?" That burned. MKA, do you really feel threatened by someone else's color? Honestly. I'm about to scream just trying to recall everything that I was thinking about her statement. stressed
Feed me your comments, kids.
--Do you feel the same way as my friend MKA?
--Do black girls seem to get disapproval for dating outside their race more so than black guys?
--Have you dated outside your race?
--Are/were you ever afraid that the "other race" you were interested in wouldn't like you because of stereotypes?]
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Posted: Sat Nov 12, 2005 10:07 pm
i've thought alot about this subject and it still pisses me off. how are we going to ask for equality about everything else and forget about the most important thing LOVE :hear
i mean i've been in a relationship with a white girl before and it was cool, but the thing was, was that i was afraid of not white people but of black people and what the sistas had to say, it was stressful stressed
but i don't think girl get more disapproval than guys it just i don't that many girls that would date outside of their race.
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 12:24 am
I got this one funny email about white women dating black men... Eh... I don't really know what I think. If they love the person, then more power to them... I'm usually not attracted to white boys though... I dont really have a problem with it...
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 8:02 am
bump_whitey2 i've thought alot about this subject and it still pisses me off. how are we going to ask for equality about everything else and forget about the most important thing LOVE :hear i mean i've been in a relationship with a white girl before and it was cool, but the thing was, was that i was afraid of not white people but of black people and what the sistas had to say, it was stressful stressed but i don't think girl get more disapproval than guys it just i don't that many girls that would date outside of their race. [Yes, it can be stressful, can't it? Having to wonder what people who are your race are saying behind your back about your interracial relationship.
Maybe you don't see a lot of girls dating outside their race because they are afraid to because they know they WILL get more disapproval than their male counterparts...? I think just as many girls (of all races) date outside their race as guys...afterall, if a guy is dating outside his race, then the girl he is with is dating outside her race too. wink ]
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 8:07 am
Disruptive I got this one funny email about white women dating black men... Eh... I don't really know what I think. If they love the person, then more power to them... I'm usually not attracted to white boys though... I dont really have a problem with it... [I wouldn't even go as far as to say that they have to "love" the person...I'm all for casual dating outside of one's race. In my case, there are people in the US who have ethnic origins from all over the planet. Why should I limit myself to just one of those ethnicities just because I happen to be that ethnicity too??
I'm glad you don't have to deal with the stress, though. It's a load you won't have to bear on your shoulders.]
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 7:12 pm
Im just gonna say this: My mom didn't care when she found out my dad had a girlfriend that is until she found out she was white, and my mom is mixed.
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 6:39 am
thirdeyephilsophy Im just gonna say this: My mom didn't care when she found out my dad had a girlfriend that is until she found out she was white, and my mom is mixed. [...Then she..."started caring?" Or she got angry? What? Care to elaborate? If your mother did get upset, do you share her views, or does father have a right to do what he wants? How does this affect you?? neutral ]
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 9:49 am
Actually, I felt a lot like your friend did...that is, until I started dating a white guy...I didn't go after him or anything. At the beginning, I was thinking that there was no way that I would go out with him but he was real forceful with pursuing me and I eventually gave in. At the beginning, I was really paranoid because I thought that everyone would think of me as a race trader when in actuallity, I love men of African decent. I don't hate them and I'm not trying to run from them. I just ended up with a white guy. I still run into problems when it comes to other people's opinions, but I'm learning to work with that and I've learned not to judge people right off the back based on things like who they're dating. I really did have to actually be there to understand. Although it does seem to happen quite a bit, not everyone who dates outside their race is running from it.
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 9:59 am
Oshun Phoenix Actually, I felt a lot like your friend did...that is, until I started dating a white guy...I didn't go after him or anything. At the beginning, I was thinking that there was no way that I would go out with him but he was real forceful with pursuing me and I eventually gave in. At the beginning, I was really paranoid because I thought that everyone would think of me as a race trader when in actuallity, I love men of African decent. I don't hate them and I'm not trying to run from them. I just ended up with a white guy. I still run into problems when it comes to other people's opinions, but I'm learning to work with that and I've learned not to judge people right off the back based on things like who they're dating. I really did have to actually be there to understand. Although it does seem to happen quite a bit, not everyone who dates outside their race is running from it. [I guess it never really occured to me that anyone who was dating outside their race could possibly be trying to "escape" their race by dating someone of a different color. neutral
Interesting.]
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 4:28 am
I guess i have no say..
I have lots of aunt's and uncle's who are cacasion or of another race.
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 1:18 pm
i quess interracial relationsships are something that racist and bigets will have to deal with
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 2:36 pm
hmmm i've never dated a white or any other ethinicity girl but i''ve always wanted to because i'm not just attracted to black girls.....but i've always been afraid of what people would think....but now i'm literally just like "******** em" i dont have time to live my life by other peoples standards you know?
and i'm going to admit when a see a black girl with a white guy it does feel weird, but i think thats kind of natural because you dont really see that alot you know?
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 3:02 pm
Black_Ronin hmmm i've never dated a white or any other ethinicity girl but i''ve always wanted to because i'm not just attracted to black girls.....but i've always been afraid of what people would think....but now i'm literally just like "******** em" i dont have time to live my life by other peoples standards you know? and i'm going to admit when a see a black girl with a white guy it does feel weird, but i think thats kind of natural because you dont really see that alot you know?
I, like you have never dated outside my race. It's not that I don't want to either, but I just haven't foung anyone that is... "my type", black or white... or green... No jokes...
But you shouldn't worry about what people will say. If you have something special with a person with another race, then trivial things like that shouldn't matter. At least thats what I feel... Im glad that you changed your way of thinking to that kind of attitude...
And its the same for me... when I see a black guy wit a girl, I'm just like... uhhhhh
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 3:11 pm
For some odd reason when I do see a black guy with a white girl I do get a tad..irked. But it's the total opposite when it's the reverse and it's a sistah with a white guy.
I guess it may because of I've seen alot of black guy white girl realationships totally based on sex and stereotypes. And since black girl white guy relationships aren't that common I'm pleasantly surprised when I see them.
Thats probably because from what I've seen and heard black girl, white guy relationships are more scrutinized then their counterparts since the other is much more common.
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 3:27 pm
[Oh happy day, people are posting...! surprised ]
Black_Ronin, your response reminded me of a TGI Friday's commercial I saw once. When the guy was asked if he preferred blondes or brunettes, he simply replied "Yes." xd
I knew someone would point this out. Girls are more like guys than either sex cares to admit. We can both be attracted to people outside our race just because they are the opposite sex (or not).
I guess we don't see too many black girls with (straight) white guys, do we? That's sure to change in the future. I'll lead the revolution! LOL. lol ]
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