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 Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 4:07 pm
So I have this friend (Let's call her Jill.) And over the summer vacation she's gone completely emo. Now, I'm not emo but she's one of my best friends so I let her know that I accept her and I'm not going to think of her differently. (She needed to hear this because our other friend was having trouble accepting it.) At first, I didn't think it was a big deal, but now, it is.
She has this emo friend and they spend ALL of their time together. This friend, happens to be someone I absolutely hate. I can't stand her! She is so loud and obnoxious! So whenever Jill is walking with her friend in the halls, she acts as if I don't exist. I walk past her and wave and she doesn't even look at me!
She's also become a complete clone of her new friend. Acting exactly like her,(Saying things like ello sunshine.) dressing like her...
So this brings me to my question, do I wait it out, or say something? (If so what?!)
Thanks for your help!
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Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 6:30 pm
Call her sometime and be like "what happened to you?!" and take it from there. Be brutally honest if you have to but it must be done. She doesn't seem like such a friend if she ignores you. Ask her about that too, that's rather screwy.
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Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 10:52 pm
Well there are a few choices. The choice you make could affect the outcome or it may just end the same way no matter what you do.
I would suggest talking to her about how hurt your feelings are by the way she has been treating you. If you don't say anything there is very little chance things will change.
With all that said I have learned that as you pass through school your friends will change. Even if they have been your friend since you were a baby your interests change and your personality changes as you get older. At some point you will realize that you are just two different people who aren't who they used to be.
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Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2005 12:04 pm
She really is one of my best friends and I would never trade her for the world but, as all friends do, she has faults.
She's very sensitive. One time last year I had done something I was unaware of and she didn't speak to me at all for a couple days. I got frustrated so I called her to ask her why she was treating me like crap and she yelled at me for everything I had ever done to her that ticked her off. I felt really bad. But it was resolved, even though I still was pissed that she didn't come talk to me.
So... I don't want to upset her... I just want to let her know how I feel.
And again thanks. heart
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Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2005 5:39 pm
Tell her how you are hurt by her ignoring you.
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 9:00 pm
You should talk to your friend. Let her know that you feel ignored and what she's like now. You shouldn't have to wait it out.
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Posted: Fri Dec 16, 2005 9:07 am
Gently tell her all the things you feel are happening. Gently...
If she doesn't change, wait it out, but stick by her. This is a stage, I'm quite sure. She will learn to see that you were always there before and will always be there if she needs you.
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Posted: Fri Dec 16, 2005 3:12 pm
People change, and you have to accept that. If you can't, then you're stuck trying to find a new friend. It's sad, but most friendships do run their course over time. I've had many "best friends," and it's sad to say that I've only stayed in contact with one of them.
Anyway, it won't do any good to tell her how you feel. She is just going through a phase, so you can choose to just ride it out, or you just find someone else new like she has.
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