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 Posted: Mon May 11, 2009 7:01 pm
I went too far making out with a friend of mine the night before I had to go back home in a different state. Not anything too major, though it probably would have progressed if her father hadn't called and wanted her home, but it was enough to where I felt horrible about it the next morning. About a week later our txting and IM emotes (using - or * to show action) started getting a little risque as well and progressed more and more each day. Since the time I knew how I felt about her I wanted so badly for her to feel the same and for our relationship to progress, not just physically. She recently took some time to give serious thought about how she felt about me and came to the conclusion that if she doesn't love me now, that she never will. I, thinking just the opposite, asked her to give it more time and to not give up. But now the problem is, we don't know what to do to keep the relationship from being just a physical one but help it progress at the same time. A big hurdle is the distance between us and the uncommon opportunity to see each other until I'm moved closer. I'll answer any questions you have for either of us. Advice for both of us would be helpful. Thank you.
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Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 9:24 am
It sounds like a recipe for disaster. I would pray for strength and advice. Personally, I think you two should stay far away from each other for now. That may not be what you want to hear, but it will be the best for you both. Also, pray, do the standard Mormon answers to see what advice God has for you. Best of luck with everything. God Bless.
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Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 3:43 pm
Pray for strength. If you know that situation will happen again, it is best to keep away from each other. Keep the spirit with you and you will know what to do.
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Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 9:30 pm
some space is the best thing right now. i know its hard for guys to do this but try telling her how you really feel, if she really is ment for you she will understand. you dont want to do anything that you will regret later (personal experience).
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Posted: Fri May 15, 2009 11:30 am
go on dates with other girls, if you feel the same for her afterwards, try and pursue her.
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Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 3:43 pm
#1: Pray. (As has been suggested.)
#2: Stop getting physical. You're doing yourselves no good. If she doesn't feel that way about you, you can't make out until she does. Love doesn't work like that and meanwhile it's not fair to either of you.
#3: Step back and let life take its course. There may be other opportunities in your life that you're missing because you're focusing on this one. What will be, will be.
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Posted: Sun May 17, 2009 1:01 am
I agree completely with Itesa. If she doesn't feel the way you do, then being more physical with it will only make it more difficult
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Posted: Thu May 21, 2009 12:51 am
How old are you and how old is she? If there were a baby from this would you be able to marry each other and be happy? Think about what you REALLY want in your future and not just at the moment - that can sometimes put a different slant on where you want a relationship to go. I am not trying to be "preachy" about this either - just giving you some things to think about - I know there were some guys I dated that I would never have thought about marrying, but they were fun and nice to hang out with and as just friends we had some of the funnest dates ever. There were some that I hoped would be more interested in me, but weren't, as well. Keeping myself focused a little more on my future helped me to make better decisions in some interesting situations. Good luck!
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Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2009 2:44 pm
Definitely more space...
My older sister got married a few months ago. They had maintained a long-distance relationship over the phone for months while my now bro-in-law went to college. They had talked a lot about everything they could think of including future, and how they should act in situations that could arise in future. They got a really good relationship, because they knew that they loved each other for who they were, and not just physically. They also know how to get along well and to discuss their problems, and thus how to rectify them. ^^ Good luck! I hope it goes well for you!
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