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Man, I don't even know where to begin with this. The whole thing is just so unbelieveably retarded and complicated... ah, hell.

This girl I was friends with back in high school had a New Year's party several years ago, which I went to, and met some really cool people at, whom I still talk to several of today. One of these people was a guy, another a chick. The guy is the one I have issues with.

Related to the current post about nice guys finishing last in this guild, he is one of those guys. Most spineless, feminine, whiny person I have ever met, he only talks to me online (because he's too spineless to pick up the phone) to complain about how shitty his life is. He's 24 I believe, and not only has he never dated a girl, but he's never kissed one either, and doesn't understand why nobody will date him, besides the fact that everyone in the group of friends flat-out tells him he's spineless, feminine, and complains so much that nobody WOULD want him.

We suggested solutions to his problem for him... oh god, did we suggest and suggest and suggest. But eventually, we find out that he doesn't want to date just any person - he's interested in this girl I met at the party I still talk to. Not only that, but when he has gotten the nerve to ask her out, she always turns him down (who in their right mind wouldn't?). But here's where it gets funny.

Not only is this girl a lesbian, but she's considering a sex change.

Ouch.

And he's been obsessing over her for eight years. gonk

Now, here's some other things about him that lead up to the current issue. I don't have a problem with furries, though I can't stand it myself, but this guy goes so far as to randomly send me images of naked furry catwomen. He's incredibly self-righteous and religious in the bad way (I can't understand why he looks at furry stuff then, honestly) to the point where anything I suggest to help him, he gives a Bible excuse of not to do it. Next, this guy freaks out at anything non-furry and sexual - like his laundry room in college had bras hanging up to dry, and he was freaking out about it for honestly days. Lastly, and perhaps the most disturbing piece of the puzzle, is he claims not only that he doesn't masturbate, but he says he's never orgasmed in his life because "God says it's wrong" and he doesn't want to be a "practicing monosexual."

Ladies, would YOU want to date him?

Now, the current issue, and perhaps the issue of probably everyone in our circle of friends, is that this guy obviously can't take the hint that he sucks a**. We continually keep blocking him on AIM, but he keeps on making new screen names. gonk We block him again, he just makes more. Then when enough people block him, he starts the phone calling... it's like, dear god, take a hint buddy. I'm not sure really how to tell this guy to leave me alone (believe me, I've tried), short of getting a group restraining order against him or something. It really is that bad.

The girl he's obsessed with is in the process of getting a R.O., considering he's started doing the 3 hour drive from his place to hers and showing up at random hours wanting to complain about his life... this is really getting bad.

Yeah - a lot of us, myself included though, would probably rather not make new screen names - simply because I've used this one for years, now. sad

I'm pretty familiar with how the whole restraining order process works, so I'd be pretty comfortable getting one. I had to get one a few months ago against this psycho I used be friends with years back... that got very messy though and went to a hearing, and then a trial (she was THAT screwed up, but thankfully she had to fork out all the money for that, not me), so I'm questioning right now if he's the type of person that would make me go through all of that again.