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I swear i'm just tired of stress lately so I'm going to rant only because i can.

I'm not a teen anymore so to say but darnit i'm 20 so i qualify!!!

I've been a mom since 18, and never got to enjoy being 17 cause I was pregnant, and huge at that. Now I have two kids and I'm stressed more then ever.

My husband is a d*ck and I can't stand him, I swear to god. Last time he was here, he came thinking he was father of the year, yet we see him one day every month if that. He's supposed to come next week for Anthony's surgery, but screw that, I dont want him near my kids!

When I had Jacob he tried to deny him. This was after he left me and moved to michigan and got a girlfriend, now hes back in texas. He made me get a paternity test, and I hate him for that too.

If he comes for this surgery, he will want to be with Anthony, since he knows him better. Jacob won't go to him and Anthony will want me when he wakes up, and I'm sure as hell not letting my husband go into the recovery room alone without me. So yeah I've decided screw him.

I know it's mean to say, but god my husband is a doped out loser. He sold everything of value I owned to buy pot, and quit his job. And when we lost electricity, I had to pwan my wedding ring because we had no heat and it was 30 degrees outside. He left me and my son alone in our apartment for a week with no power, no hot water, nothing, while he went to stay at his friend's warm place, which made me mad. What kind of father would treat their kid like that, and their pregnant wife?

He also teaches my son it's ok to hit people, throw things at people and spit all over the house. So when i spank him for hitting and biting his little brother he doesn't understand it's bad, because daddie said it's ok

My youngest hates him, cries when he comes near him, and Clint doesnt even attempt to help make that better. He just says "fine" and walks off, and ignores jacob. Now that baby didnt ask for that, because he wants a daddy too!

I just as soon take away his rights to the kids and leave it be but I need the child support!

gah sorry I'm ranting, I'm just so stressed lately with the kids and my mom and the hospital not calling me back about my sons surgery. God it's a long day.

Can you divorce your husband, and get child support from somewhere else? Or if you divorce him, could you sue him for child support that way?

There has to be a solution somewhere. He's not acting like a good father, nor a responsible one, so there's no reason why he should continue to be in your life, and in the lives of your children.

Can you get money from your family, or his? And there's always welfare if you run out of other options, or food stamps, etc.

I agree if you can prove any of that stuff with documentation they will not let him see them or if they do they will make a court official be present for all visits. Which means that he has to be the perfect parent because someone is watching.I am sorry you are in a situation like that. At least he doesnt live with you anymore. Oh you can also get a court orderedd drug test and if he does drugs alot that will be enough documentation for them to either remove his custody rights or to order followup drug tests every couple of months. Goodluck You always have people here you can talk to.

You need out and soon. My mom made it better on food stamps and government aid than you are living right now. There is a way out. She took myself and my two sisters and started over. You can too. I know you can do it. Be strong and if you need help, usually family and friends are there in the pinch. Talk about the options with someone you trust and get out. fast. good luck! I'll be praying for you, hun.