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Ignore anything negative that people say about you. People who talk s**t aren't worth listening to. And as you get older, most people mature and smarten up, and realize that badmouthing someone like that for no reason is pretty stupid.

And for the record, to be 14 and to have never had a boyfriend is perfectly normal. 100% normal. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 16.

Everyone is beautiful to someone. They probably pick on your looks because they can't think of anything else to pick on but that really doesn't mean anything. Be proud of who you are and the right guy will come along. I didn't date until 15 I think but I met the man I'm marrying when I was 16 so you still have lots of time.

Gurl im 14 and ive never had a bf, too. I used to think i was ugly because pretty much everyone in my elementary skool was white and i didnt look like them. I had full lips, cocoa skin, and shorter hair. There was a gurl in my kindergarten class who i thought was beautiful and since i didnt look like her so i assumed i was ugly. Ppl told me i was pretty but i never listened. Ive been told by some ppl that im pretty, but theres one person who told me im ugly. Hes a jackass. He has also called me charcoal, but he has darker skin then me. So my point is some ppl are ******** up. They r the ppl who try to bring you down to make them think their kool, but dont wrry.
KARMA WILL KICK THEIR a**!!!!!!!!

Everyone has something positive about their features especially if they play it off right. As long as you think you look good don't worry about everybody else. You probably look better than them or their just jealous and insecure.

As for the BF thing. Don't try to keep up with everyone else. Their guys are going to just break up with them or give them STD's anyway. Just because guys don't go out with you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It's probably them. Work on finding yourself before you think about that stuff.

Do not worry about being ugly. That should be the last thing on your mind right now. You need to keep up in school. Don;t go looking for boys, let them look for you. Eventually you will find a good guy who is not a jackass. Don't let your low self esteem affect your grades. Keep your mind off of it. Ignore people. ******** 'em.

It is your life, not theirs to defy.

I see what you mean. People are visual creatures and looks matter to everyone to a point. It's no the single most important thing but I know it does matter to me. But there is someone for everyone. I don't know the poster; for all I know she might just be ugly but I'm going to take her word for it that she's not butt ugly. And even if she is ugly, people shouldn't go around picking on her. We all have our prefrences but you shouldn't treat people like crap just because they aren't your idea of perfection. That hurts. But out of billions of people and someone out there is going to think she looks good.

1) Don't judge yourself by others. The thing about school is that if you are unpopular, even the guys who really like you and would like to ask you out won't (and will even tease you) because they are ashamed or don't want to be ridiculed. That's the Catch 22. You can't have a boyfriend unless people like you, people won't like you unless you have a boyfriend. I was just like you and I never figured out how the "popular" girls did it.

I got my first "real" boyfriend when I was latish 15. Before that, I had male friends that I had a crush on and who had a crush on me, but... shyness. I didn't get my first kiss until I was... humm... I think it was about 17. So really, don't worry about it.

2) As for being ugly, no, probably not. Kids... they'll say anything if they think it will hurt you. What you have to do is realize what they are doing and just take it with a grain of salt. I know, it's extremely hard to ignore them. You are surrounded by the damn monkeys every single day. Just keep it in the back of your mind that they are just trying to get to you. Most of them might not even dislike you. They just join in because of peer pressure/group mentality and are afraid that if they behave "differently," people will turn on them as well (which is more than likely true).