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Maris274

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PostPosted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 2:09 pm


I'm living only with my mother. Since few years I'm sure about my sexuality and I am bi. My question is: shall I tell my mum about this and how?
Last days we somehow talked about gays and lesbians, and I told "and there are some bi people too", so she said "ah...you can be straight,gey or les, but beeing bi..is just funny.Bi people must have problems with sex, if they want boy AND girl".
Please, what shall I do ?
PostPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 8:24 am


Your sexuality isn't anyone else's business, so you certainly don't have to tell her if you don't want to. But if you really want her to know, sit her down and explain it. Let her know that being bisexual doesn't mean you want guys and girls at the same time, it just means you can find both attractive and that you would be open to dating either one.

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PostPosted: Sat May 02, 2009 3:36 pm


omg i know exactly what you are going through. my mom hated my ex because he was bi and i came to realise that i am too. but my mom thinks you cant be bi and that you are gay and arent willing to come out of the closet fully.
personally im not telling her until i absolutly have to.
PostPosted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 7:26 pm


talk to her and explain when the time is ready and you feel you should..but like that one girl said its none of there buisness at all its your sex life you do what you want to with who you want. they should accept it your their child.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 08, 2010 2:30 pm


Really sweetie, its up to the person your talking to on how they take it. My mom, when i came out to her, said that it was "ok" that i liked both and that "i should wait longer to see what i liked".
Well, i knew she never got it, so, a few weeks ago i set her down and told her what all my feelings were and how i percieved them, she STILL thinks i am thinking the wrong way and don't know what i want. rolleyes
Sometimes, people will think what they will and you can't get through to them, but babe, really, all you can do is take a deep breath, let her know and wait. Its up to your mom to take it the way she will, and ALWAYS REMEMBER!! =you are NOT alone is having parents that either don't get it, or don't know the extent of your feelings. heart
~Leo
PostPosted: Thu Feb 18, 2010 7:36 am


This is PFLAG's pamphlet dealing specifically with bisexuality and misconceptions about bisexuality. If you are comfortable with coming out to your mum and feel safe, this might be a resource you'd like to use, either to prepare to talk to her, or to print for her to read. I think I have some more bisexual-specific resources, too, but I gotta find them. x-x Hope this helped!

GLBT


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PostPosted: Thu Feb 18, 2010 9:49 am


i really don't believe something is wrong if you want a boy and a girl lol
PostPosted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 11:35 pm


I can understand where you are coming from. My mom doesn't believe bisexual people exist. She thinks that everyone is either straight or gay. Back when I first told her I was bisexual we got into some arguments about. Even now I still get asked "Are you still believing your bisexual Sweetie or are you finally going to decide between being gay or being straight?".

Sit her down and talk to her about your feelings. If that doesn't work I myself usually just brush it off because I know what I feel in my heart is okay and her opinion doesn't really matter in the long run. It's my choice in life and she will just have to deal with it.

Hope this helps you.

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