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 Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 6:48 am
I for one REALLY want to have kids and soon!! I love my husband and part of me is selfish and I want a little piece of him before he deploys because GOD FORBID something happens to him over seas so I want a little piece of him
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 7:37 am
I want kids but Chris and I plan to have a family AFTER he's done and I'm done with my schooling. I don't want to be preggy and alone. He needs to be here when the child is born. Well its more of a "should" than a "need" 3nodding
I kind of DON'T want to be a housewife either (no offense if your one). I just want a career FIRST and then have a family. I know it sounds selfish but its just what Chris and I want. We want to spend time together and then when were ready, we'll start a family.
I know stuff happens but as for now, this is what WE want 3nodding and this is the plan for OUR future.
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 7:47 am
yeah we have been together for 3 years we have had our time alone we spend all his free time together we are ready I am excited! LOL we just have to see what happens
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 8:08 am
I'm probably the only one in here who hates the little bastards rofl Well, thats kind of harsh, but honestly I've never liked kids. It runs in my family, my mother says she doesn't like small children either, except for her own of course. I guess you never know until you're a mother though, I hear the bond is intense.
I don't really want to be a housewife either....and I also don't plan on working. This is much different than not contributing though, I have my own resources for doing so. I just want to be with my SO and live a good life free of unnecessary obligation.
Unfortunately the SO does want to have children someday so I may oblige, possibly with a surrogate mother. Pain = not my thing at all. I can hardly stand an IV, not sure how I would get through what is supposed to be the most excruciating pain one ever experiences.
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 8:16 am
Its really important to talk about things like that fully before you get married. I love my husband but if he didn't want to have kids I am not sure I would have married him I love kids and I love the bond I have with my mom and my siblings. Having a family is important to me and it will be happy. I dont want to be a housewife but I am stuck right now the economy is crappy especially in a military/ college town. With lots of high schools peppered in.
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 11:01 am
I think that goes without saying rofl Which is probably why so many marriages fail. Lack of communication and compromise.
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 11:36 am
Yup Im glad my marriage has both lol
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 2:31 pm
Shawn and I don't want kids till our 30's so at the very least 5 years, probably closer to 8-10.
I want a doctorate and I plan on getting one after our first child is born, if we even have one. We're a little on the fence about it and for a long time didn't want kids at all.
I don't want to share my spouse right now and I am not willing to put a child's needs before mine yet for the rest of my life.
I would never, ever CHOSE to have a child while Shawn is deployed or is active duty. A child is far better off with two active, loving parents in my opinion (personal and professional) and I would never punish my child by having one just to keep me company during a deployment. Also, I know my personal needs and limitations. I need him to take some of the load off and share in the joys and pain of parenting. I know he would want to be there to raise our child and it would be unfair to him to try and bully him into a child during that time.
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 2:42 pm
Mark and I want to have kids, and we recently decided that it will happen when the time comes.
I used to be opposed to the idea...wanted to wait a year or two. But now, I don't mind the idea at all. xd
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:30 pm
I love children. (That's why I want to be a librarian/teacher to work with children/young adults) XD
But not now, I'm working on important education/stuffz. I already have 30 kids to work with. x3
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 4:33 pm
Oh yes. Michael and I want children. He's all antsy for 'em NOW. And I'm like, "Sweetie! Let's try extra hard when you're home for your R&R from Afghanistan! That way, by the time you're home, I'll only be 4ish months along, and, you'll be here for the birth!" I so don't wanna do that without him.
But, I texted him yesterday, saying I was sick. He called me a few hours later, "just to check on me" he's so sweet like that. heart
He says, "So you're sick again, huh?"
"Uh huh."
"...It isn't morning sickness, is it?!"
and he sounded so hopefully when he said it. I started cracking up. "No, baby. It's not. I'm sorry."
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 4:34 pm
RabenKrahe Oh yes. Michael and I want children. He's all antsy for 'em NOW. And I'm like, "Sweetie! Let's try extra hard when you're home for your R&R from Afghanistan! That way, by the time you're home, I'll only be 4ish months along, and, you'll be here for the birth!" I so don't wanna do that without him. But, I texted him yesterday, saying I was sick. He called me a few hours later, "just to check on me" he's so sweet like that. heart He says, "So you're sick again, huh?" "Uh huh." "...It isn't morning sickness, is it?!" and he sounded so hopefully when he said it. I started cracking up. "No, baby. It's not. I'm sorry." Awwwww. That's so cute!
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 4:46 pm
Diamond Rika RabenKrahe Oh yes. Michael and I want children. He's all antsy for 'em NOW. And I'm like, "Sweetie! Let's try extra hard when you're home for your R&R from Afghanistan! That way, by the time you're home, I'll only be 4ish months along, and, you'll be here for the birth!" I so don't wanna do that without him. But, I texted him yesterday, saying I was sick. He called me a few hours later, "just to check on me" he's so sweet like that. heart He says, "So you're sick again, huh?" "Uh huh." "...It isn't morning sickness, is it?!" and he sounded so hopefully when he said it. I started cracking up. "No, baby. It's not. I'm sorry." Awwwww. That's so cute! We're cute like that. mrgreen If we're that cute after 2 months, I'd hate to see us 20 years from now. Hopefully still oozing the cute.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 1:34 am
We plan to wait a few more years. We discussed and he said he is selfish and wants to spend more time alone with me.
We are also waiting at least a year and a half because of some medical problems I have currently that should be resolved with surgery next year.
That being said, when he is here, we don't use birth control, because I can't handle hormones or deal with the other methods. We believe if its meant to happen, it will.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 1:55 am
Am I the only mommy here @_@
Well, mom to be.. in October but..
My parents had me when they were young ( actually when you get down to it, my mom was 21 and 4ish months, and I'll be 21 and 6 months )
And I always loved the close close connection I had with my parents. I came to realize it was because the age gap between us was very small and they didn't have to many huge transitions in between their lives and ours.
So I always planned to have kids young.
Go figure right? :]
We are all very excited for little army brat ( which I call dinosaur.. )
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