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 Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 10:11 pm
Hi! There's probably already a post on this but i thought id make one of my own anyways,
I was just wondering how some poeple (if they have to their friends and family).Came out. what /how they did it and said..and what where peoples reactions were they suportive..stuff like that ect..
Also if people want to give some coming out advise for people who havn't comeout yet..that would be great too!
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:27 am
Oh Gods... My coming out story was kind of unique. So it was last year, Thanksgiving... at the table... Saying I don't get a long with my family is an understatment. Some stuff happened and I was threatening to go home. My sister was just being unbarably mean to me. I usualy never visit my family for more then two days for this exactly reasons. So anyways, table, thanksgiving, big fight, anyways it came out in the fight. My dad laughed. My other sister already knew and was making sure that everyone knew she knew, and my mom walks quietly down stairs. I don't see my mom again for 45min till my dad goes down and gets her. I am lucky to have an aunt on my dads side who is a lesbian. He accepts it no problem. My mom on the other hand, well we don't talk about it. I tried to explain to her about my feelings towards men and women using the Kennsey scale. She proceeded to yell at me about how Kennsey was a ***** and his research was stupid. Yeah that was the last I talked to them about it. sad
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:00 pm
friends are always the biggest supporters. i mean, to some you may have to explain that it's a HUGE secret, but to most, they'll understand automatically. i recommend you tell friends before your parents or any other fam members.
haha, my family coming out story (there's three for my mom) always ended up in huge fights, and it's a flip of the coin for how you're family will react. some go all psycho religious or say you're wrong and stupid whereas some say it's ok or support you no matter what. it's delicate, so don't treat it like nothing (and never come out in a fight that's already started!) but yeah. good luck
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2009 5:09 pm
yeah my family well at least like my mom knows and shes totaly fine with it. she supports 100% and has alot of gay friends. its just my friends i worry bout like people at my school. i know lk a few would understand but other idk..
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2009 8:14 pm
then just start by telling those few that you know won't mind too much. honestly, that's what i did and that was only a year ago and already i'm so much more comfortable and happy with myself. trust me, you need the support and nothing helps like coming out to those you know will love you regardless. don't worry about what other people say all the time either, cuz it helps you in the long run. what doesn't killl you makes you stronger.
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 2:11 pm
Well how my familys found out i have already posted so i though i would tell you how one of my friend reacted.
i was 15 and out at a rave one night (yes i know 15 is young to be out at a rave but my friends were alot older) and after alot of drink and after the 20th attempt one of my friends to push a d**k my way i stormed off to the dj took his mic off him and announced to everyone at the rave that i was a lesbian. so my girl razza takes me home in the very early morning and waiting to go to the toilet after razza and i fell asleep and when i wake up i am handcuffed to the banister burting with razza inches away from my face who proptly came out with "guess what my Odi fiend....... i'm a lesbian too and guess what....... before you die we will have sex!" then she kissed me and left me cuffed.
it took me 3 hours to get the ablity to break the banister and pee before i died.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:27 pm
which is why i limit myself to two shots at my age. haha, what a nice coming out story!
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 6:12 pm
i had posted it before but couldn't find it? buuut now i did! i think it was in hte "so how'd they react" threadso i'll paste it here:
ooo, trying to tell my mum was sad... i did research and everything so i could do it right, and i had made plans to stay with a friend if i got kikd out... so, we sat there in her room, she was watching a movie, and we were quiet. i was just sitting there scared, cos i knew i had to tell her that night, i told myself i wouldn't back down. so then i was like "mum, can i talk to you?" and she was like "yeah" or something, and then i was like "i need to tell you something" and she's like "what is it" so then i started feeling scared, and i panicked, and she's like, confused... and then i started crying, so i made it worse.. and i was like "i think i'm gay" and she's like OMG!!! freaked, you could tell. then my dad came upstairs! and my mum asked him to leave so i could talk to her. we talked forever, and then she was like "well, how do you feel about girls? do you want to touch them?" or something like that... i was mortified! so she was like "no, you're just confused, blablabla" and eventually i backed down ,and agreed with her like crasy, and i cried like an idiot... so now, she acts like it never happened, and she gets mad whenever i buy rainbow anything. she took all my rainbow stuff away, and it seems like she's constantly mad at me for no reason... so no, i haven't come out to my family, really.
as for friends, i told one person, told them not to tell anyone... then one day at school, i was talking about The L Word and my friend was like "are you a lesbian?" it wasn't the first time, and i was tired of ppl asking, so i was like "halfway" and kept talking to my other friend... so the rumors flew, and the story spread like wildfire. so now, some ppl know. there was some ppl i tried really hard to keep it from, though. another day at school, a friend of mine was recalling all the ppl that had come out, and she's like "well, first it was _____, second was _______, and third was Carla..." and i was like WTF? and i just stared at her... and then a couple ppl at the table stared at me, and this friend of mine was like "what?!" and she's like "oh crap, weren't you third to come out?" and i was like "Well, now i guess i am!!!" so yeah... i was pretty much outed! my life is a mess, really.... wow, i talk too much....
soooo that's the stories =] except now i think my mum is coming to terms with it?or acknowledging it. i mean, i was checking this girl out the other day and she was like "you'd better stop before someone comes over here and says something to you" so i was like eek cos like, she said it, so then i did it again at the grocery store a bit later [i know, i'm an idiot] and she was all "i told you, one of these days someone is going to say something to you" so i was like dub tee eff?! sooo i think she knows? again, she is awfully confusing.
also, my uncle's gf came into my room today and saw my poster of Kat Von D on my wall xd i thiiink she is suspicious now. lol x]
yea, i type way too much Dx my badd.
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 9:06 am
Lost_Forever_Soul i had posted it before but couldn't find it? buuut now i did! i think it was in hte "so how'd they react" threadso i'll paste it here:
ooo, trying to tell my mum was sad... i did research and everything so i could do it right, and i had made plans to stay with a friend if i got kikd out... so, we sat there in her room, she was watching a movie, and we were quiet. i was just sitting there scared, cos i knew i had to tell her that night, i told myself i wouldn't back down. so then i was like "mum, can i talk to you?" and she was like "yeah" or something, and then i was like "i need to tell you something" and she's like "what is it" so then i started feeling scared, and i panicked, and she's like, confused... and then i started crying, so i made it worse.. and i was like "i think i'm gay" and she's like OMG!!! freaked, you could tell. then my dad came upstairs! and my mum asked him to leave so i could talk to her. we talked forever, and then she was like "well, how do you feel about girls? do you want to touch them?" or something like that... i was mortified! so she was like "no, you're just confused, blablabla" and eventually i backed down ,and agreed with her like crasy, and i cried like an idiot... so now, she acts like it never happened, and she gets mad whenever i buy rainbow anything. she took all my rainbow stuff away, and it seems like she's constantly mad at me for no reason... so no, i haven't come out to my family, really.
as for friends, i told one person, told them not to tell anyone... then one day at school, i was talking about The L Word and my friend was like "are you a lesbian?" it wasn't the first time, and i was tired of ppl asking, so i was like "halfway" and kept talking to my other friend... so the rumors flew, and the story spread like wildfire. so now, some ppl know. there was some ppl i tried really hard to keep it from, though. another day at school, a friend of mine was recalling all the ppl that had come out, and she's like "well, first it was _____, second was _______, and third was Carla..." and i was like WTF? and i just stared at her... and then a couple ppl at the table stared at me, and this friend of mine was like "what?!" and she's like "oh crap, weren't you third to come out?" and i was like "Well, now i guess i am!!!" so yeah... i was pretty much outed! my life is a mess, really.... wow, i talk too much....
soooo that's the stories =] except now i think my mum is coming to terms with it?or acknowledging it. i mean, i was checking this girl out the other day and she was like "you'd better stop before someone comes over here and says something to you" so i was like eek cos like, she said it, so then i did it again at the grocery store a bit later [i know, i'm an idiot] and she was all "i told you, one of these days someone is going to say something to you" so i was like dub tee eff?! sooo i think she knows? again, she is awfully confusing.
also, my uncle's gf came into my room today and saw my poster of Kat Von D on my wall xd i thiiink she is suspicious now. lol x]
yea, i type way too much Dx my badd.
I'll swap you your Kat Von D poster for a really big hug!?? XD
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 10:57 am
i must say that iam very attached to that poster =/ but how bout i take the hug and i can find you a poster?
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 11:38 am
Lost_Forever_Soul i must say that iam very attached to that poster =/ but how bout i take the hug and i can find you a poster?
deal xd
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 7:14 pm
loll. i got mine at wal-mart actuallyy. xD my daddy got it for mee. haha, he encourages me without realizing itt. "buy you a poster of half-dressed Kat Von D? okay, just do your homework." loll.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 12:05 pm
so unfair only thing my father does is make me fix all his technology and conect him to the internet via his expensive new toys!!
and last time i was in a wall mart was like 3 years ago i live in england so i can't walk there lol
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 3:34 pm
haha/ yea? awww. my daddy gets to me sometimes though. like i was trying to build a chair the other day and he would check on me every other minute but didn't pay attention to my uncles that were building chairs. like, i'm going to build it wrong cos i'm a girl. oyy.
hehe xD oh, so you don't have a waly mart there? or is far from your home? there was one when i went to mexico, i was sooo happy. haha. iwanna look for a demi lovato poster at wal mart, but all the posters on earth seem to have her with those jonas bros. i mean, oy, i don't want them on a poster, i just want her on my wall. lol.
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