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 Posted: Sun Mar 22, 2009 6:54 pm
My boyfriend/fiancees' deployment is coming up soon. He'll be deploying to Afghanistan for 8 - 9 months in June. I'm slowly gathering ideas about what I can do to make this deployment easier for both of us.
Cus, it's gonna be hard not having Michael around. And, I know as much as I'm going to be missing him, he's going to be missing me just as much. I know I can send him things like care packages and stuff. And I plan to. I plan to write him every day.
But as far as things go, and doing things for ME, to pass the time, keep me distracted, keep my mind off of things... what do you suggest?
My garden will take up a LOT of my time. And I'm wanting to piece together a scrapbook of us. I want to do it as our first year together progress. Sadly, he'll be in Afghanistan for our 1st anniversary, but he should be home not too long after it. And definitely home in time for my 22nd birthday(next year).
I know I'll be a reading fiend, and I've already made a few really good friends from the MSO Thread... but what are some things that you guys do?
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 12:22 pm
My husband hasn't been deployed yet but I have been with him through basic and AIT and the best thing to do is surround yourself with family and friends that you trust.. Dont go places where you know there is even the slightest possibility that you could get yourself into a sticky situation. Dont hang out with ex boyfriends or past crushes. Get a job or go to school volunteer keep your self busy and occupied. Dont count the days it makes time crawl instad count pay checks military gets paid on the first and 15th. Or months. Dont put half my heart is where its dangerous to yourself and your soldier. If you have it on your car some perv could easily fallow you know or thinking that you live alone. write me letters and send packages as much as possible. My husband had someone kills himself in basic training because he wasn't getting support in any form. Most basic trainings are far from a day at the beach being deployed is harder emotionally. Thats all I can tell you so far Ill let you know later this fall anymore tricks I pick up as my husband is deployed
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 12:39 pm
I don't usually go places unless I'm with my mom, or Michael. I DO have a past ex boyfriend I hang out with. He's like a family friend, and we've both moved on. He's got his own new girlfriend. I've got Michael. We don't feel anything for the other, anymore.
I'm well aware of how slow time can go. I'm waiting for him to finish up training in Wisconsin, so he can go to Mississippi for final training, before his deployment. I have all kinds of tshirts. I wear them constantly. None saying, "Half My Heart Is In ________." but, plenty of shirts. I intend on writing him every night, and sending oodles of care packages. Gardening, reading, tending to my animals.
I get the feeling I'll be giving -you- tricks and tips. Michael's deployment will be halfway over come fall. He's gotta go in June.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 1:13 pm
I wasnt trying to be rude you asked for advice. I haven't gone through a deployment but we have been apart and I am friends with people whose husbands have been deployed
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 5:14 pm
I wasn't being rude, either. I was simply stating, that since I will be going through deployment before you, perhaps I will be the one who will give out little tips and tricks.
I've been apart from an SO during Basic and AIT, too. Not Michael, someone before him. But, I get the feeling, deployment will be a whole different sort of beast. I don't think it will at all be like when they are away at Basic and AIT. At those two places you KNOW your men are safe.
They're away. And you miss them. Yes. But you KNOW they are safe. They're aren't so much in harms' way. There isn't as much of a need to distract yourself when they're at Basic and such, because again, you're not constantly worrying they will be harmed.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:19 pm
Neither my husband nor I have been deployed yet, but he's still overseas.
It's not so bad for us though since he's not actually deployed, we get to talk all the time.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:43 pm
Well i hope u guys find a way to cope!! I for one do not have a dad or mom in the army so i dont know wat u must be going tho but i do have older cousins dat have tho.... and my friends r in rotc now and probly r gonin in the air fouce and i am every close to one of them.. i hope dat if he gets in the air fouce dat if he has to move i guess ill jus try to partty and try to cunact with my Gfs more..... maybe dat should help some
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:49 pm
XxHeartsAngelxX Well i hope u guys find a way to cope!! I for one do not have a dad or mom in the army so i dont know wat u must be going tho but i do have older cousins dat have tho.... and my friends r in rotc now and probly r gonin in the air fouce and i am every close to one of them.. i hope dat if he gets in the air fouce dat if http://www.gaiaonline.com/avatar/he has to move i guess ill jus try to partty and try to cunact with my Gfs more..... maybe dat should help some Oh, we'll cope. We'll be just fine. It's just the anticipation of this coming up. It's just knowing he'll have to go. I hate NOT being in control of things... and I can't control this. I can't control him leaving. I can't control the outcome of what will happen, and it bothers me.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:58 pm
I agree we will cope just fine we are all strong women for being with military men. Thats one thing I do hate about the military is that you cant control anything you cant even control what city or state you live in. And you never know anything a head of time. You only know after it happens. But I love the pride I have for my husband I am honored to live with and among American Heroes
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:13 pm
Deployments are hard, My boyfriend went through one last spring and has another one coming up this year. I spent time with my friends at school (community college) and my job on campus. I sent him a package, which he LOVED! I even wrote him a letter a week for his whole deployment, just writing about the things going on in my life and sometimes going totally sappy. I was lucky that he had computer access because of his job, so we'd usually email back and forth a few times a week. I couldn't really do any type of count down since I didn't even know when he was coming back til a few weeks before they pulled back into port.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:20 pm
Every deployment is different for every person just stay away from temptations. My husbands friend's wife cheated on him got an STD and still hasn't told him even though it was a one night thing its still cheating and I dont care what army wives said having sex with the same sex or making out with the same sex is still cheating.
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:30 pm
Just keep yourself busy Raben ^.^ I know a garden will keep you super busy 3nodding
Chris and I have not gone through a deployment yet but since he's been gone. I've been hanging out mostly with my guy friends. Lucky for me, my hubby doesn't get jealous when I hang out with them. I love to give my friend Erick hugs because he is just so squishy whee
I do hang out with my girlfriends too but guys just treat me normal. Don't ask me what I'm feeling. Or say "AWww You OKIES???" Sometimes its okay but NOT all the time. I'm a natural flirt and Chris knows that. So he knows I would never do anything to hurt him. Lol, he knows my flirting is harmless 3nodding
EDITING*
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:33 pm
I would be careful hanging out with male friends though you say nothing will happen there is always a chance especially when you are lonely and missing your man.
I have never cheated but it does get lonely as most of you know and male attention is always a touchy thing when you are away from your love
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:37 pm
Marilyn-J-Monroe I would be careful hanging out with male friends though you say nothing will happen there is always a chance especially when you are lonely and missing your man. I have never cheated but it does get lonely as most of you know and male attention is always a touchy thing when you are away from your love
The guys know I miss Chris, they help me remember him by hanging out and doing things Chris liked to do. We play games and watch anime. Chris trust me and he trust them. But I most of all I trust my guy friends. I wouldn't do the things I do with them if I didn't trust them.
My guy friends are my big brothers and I'm their little sister 3nodding
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