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 Posted: Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:08 pm
This has finally bugged me to the point that i NEED to ask someone for advice now. I am 15 going on 16 this july. I'm a bisexual.
I have NEVER HAD SEX, of any kind. With either gender. The most i've done is a really good french kiss, and sitting on someone's lap. I am also a christian and am going to save my body for the one person i'm going to marry. Just for the fact that i find it stereo-typical that almost everyone i meet under 18 has had sex... i think they have no morals. And mine are too high. But either way, i have a problem...or think i do....
I have a HIGH drive for pleasure. I mean really... I once was feeling good about myself, started to feel my body, just to feel good mind you and when i started squeezing my breasts... before i knew it, i had climaxed!! redface
I'm trying not to be ashamed of this, i am very comfortable in my skin[most of the time] and i have already figured out what i do and don't like to be touched... The only problem is, I'm alone and am not even seeing anyone, plus i don't have very many ways to calm myself down.
I've tried a bit of drinking, alcahol i mean, excessive exercise, ignoring the urges completely, and cutting when i feel horny....that only makes me more of a masokist... redface
PLEASE!!!! can someone help me control my body?!?!
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Posted: Wed Mar 11, 2009 6:22 pm
There's nothing wrong with sex as long as the people are educated, protected, consenting, and prepared. Most people your age are not quite ready for it though, so it's good that you don't want to jump into it.
Cutting and excessive drinking are both very unhealthy. Masturbation, on the other hand, is very healthy. It can calm you down a bit, help you sleep, help you learn about your body, ease pain, etc. So there is no reason not to explore that.
Some people mistakenly think Christians can't masturbate, but that's actually just one interpretation of a passage in the Bible, and most people think that particular interpretation is incorrect. So most Christians think it's perfectly fine to masturbate.
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Posted: Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:12 pm
There's nothing wrong with feeling like you want to have sex, everyone does at some point. And since you're not going around having sex before you're ready or with anyone and everyone, it's no big deal. You made up your mind to wait for someone special and that's great, so in the meantime there's nothing wrong with masturbating or touching yourself. It's better to do that than to harm yourself with cutting or drinking. I'm not really sure what your reason is for wanting to control or stop this, as long as it isn't causing a big problem in your life, like doing it excessively to the point you don't have time to do anything else or something.
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 11:35 am
Like Lorien and Viki have said, there is nothing wrong with the urges you are feeling, EVERYONE gets them, its perfectly natural.
Masturbation isnt bad either, its healthy and relieves stress, personally, I do it 3-4 times a day sometimes more.
A lot I know, but its become a habit.
What im trying to say, is that you shouldnt be hurting yourself physically, just because you feel horny.
The best thing to do if you dont want to masturbate, is to just ignore the urges and do the exercise those are the healthiest methods.
Then, when your alone, if you want, masturbate and try to relieve the urges temporarily.
I have a high sex drive as well, I masturbate and five-ten minutes later, im ready to do it again.
Perfectly natural.
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 5:01 am
What your feeling is normal. There is nothing wrong with this. You should feel good about yourself no matter what. I have a major sex drive and im not ashamed to say I touch myself. Touching is something normal and everyone does it. Don't feel ashamed cause it's natural. biggrin
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