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 Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 3:40 am
Hey there!! I'm planning a Lolita Bachelorette party and i kinda need some advise. Me and the Bride are just now getting into lolita so we dont know too much but we decided we like sweet lolita best. FIrst off, where should we have it? What to serve? and mist importantly WHat should we do?? Any help would be great! Thank You!!
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Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 5:25 pm
The thought of male strippers and lolita kind of hurts my head. But, that would be going with a stereo typical bachelorette party, there are so many different things you can do. If you want to go with a lolita theme, you might try having a high tea.
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Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 6:01 pm
There's no definite way of doing a "Lolita-style" party. It's clothing, it doesn't come with a book of what to do for parties. If anything, I suggest that you do what you want to do, whatever ideas you get in your head. If there are other people attending the party then it would be best to not get into a fashion style you don't even know for a party, if you want to get taken seriously at all, later down the line.
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Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 8:13 pm
I disagree there is defiantly Lolita "style". High tea would definitely work well but for a party like that i dont think its quite suited. i took my bridesmaids to high tea as a thank you for helping me. i didnt really have time for a Bachelorette party though between work, school and the wedding.
perhaps a garden party.
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 3:12 pm
There is NOT a definite lolita "style".
It's a redundant thing to argue about when there are people with so many different personal and cultural and religious backgrounds, too many clashing interests, and thoughts that stereotypical Victorian things like "High tea" and sewing can simply define what is an appropriate "Lolita" setting. In the end it's what you want to do, and in the end if you go out for tea, in or out of lolita, it's not a "Lolita" thing to do. It's something you personally want to do.
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 4:28 pm
There is NOT a definite lolita "style".
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In the end it's what you want to do, and in the end if you go out for tea, in or out of lolita, it's not a "Lolita" thing to do. It's something you personally want to do.
I'm going to have to both disagree and agree with you in turn, mostly because I think it's a matter of subjectivity. Like you said, there are personal ideas of what is and is not suitable for a lolita party; that means that there is a particular style which is appropriately 'lolita' for each individual. Based on that, there can be a party focused on lolita aesthetics without having everyone dressed to match it. It's personal taste as to what is and is not suitable, and there is a general canon of acceptable activities for lolitas, even if many meet-ups do bend it a bit.
That seems to be the problem which p2mAngil was asking about, more than anything else: how can they work the style's aesthetics and themes into the party? Sweet Porridge gave her idea of what a suitably lolita party would be, and it is admittedly a very common, very stereotypical meet-up idea. High tea in a hotel; gee, how many of those meet-ups get posted about in EGL every month again? You can't exactly say that it's an uncommonly held ideal that drinking tea, eating cake, and ritzing it up in a hotel ball room or teahouse is incredibly lolita.
Additionally, while they can't force their ideals on you in terms of tea and cakes and Victorian sensibilities, I have to ask you to show the same respect and restraint in pushing your own opinions at them. Your aggressive tendencies are beginning to push the boundaries of politeness as requested in our rules, and I'm afraid that if it happens again I will have to issue you a more official warning on the matter.
These things are subjective. There is no end-all-and-be-all answer.
p2mAngil: I would advise you to leave the lolita out of the bachelorette party not because it can't be done, but simply for the comfort of the other guests. While you and the bride enjoy the style and it's her night, it isn't necessarily going to be everyone's idea of fun and might put a damper on the others. I'd recommend either going with a traditional girls' night out at the bar with dinner beforehand, or a girls' night in with favorite movies, snacks, and dinner, or whatever other favored activity the bride and her friends would enjoy.
Leave the lolita for a time when you're both better prepared and your other friends won't end up feeling left out of things because of it. I honestly can't see anything else happening if lolita fashion and aesthetics become the theme of the night.
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 10:51 pm
I read in a GL Bible that lolita is a style for sophisticated ladies. So I would say the best thing to do is make it classy. Not a high tea necessarily, but if you're trying to introduce new people to the style and feeling, do something that is fun, while cute, classic, and romantic.
Do things that everyone will enjoy, but add touches of the style to it. A bit of lace where it's appropriate, flowers, frill, and definitely make it feminine, but not so much that it will scare people.
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