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 Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2009 6:23 pm
Well earlier this year my current boyfriend and me were just friends with benefits and back then we both fought for dominance because he wanted me to do what he wanted when he wanted it and i didnt want to so we would fight for dominance over the other...well since we started going out we are fighting to be the submissive one. He just wants to do what I want him to do and I just want to do what he wants me to do. We dont know what to do because im submissive by nature and i find following orders hot usually and i love when guys are aggressive with me in bed but he just wants to do what i want and i just want to please him. I can be the dominant one but i would rather be the submissive.
So anyone have any suggestions or know why all of a sudden everything switched because i dont know why.
Also im kinda pissed at him because he is online watching porn right now and not talking to me stressed
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Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 6:56 am
I'd be willing to bet that both of you changed because now you're also, if maybe subconsciously, concerned about making the relationship succeed. You want to please the other person so you'll stay together.
I know that my boyfriend used to be majorly into bondage and always fantasized about dominating, but when we got together, he became really submissive and has trouble taking control. He tells me that it's basically because he wouldn't want to treat me like that; he respects me too much to dominate me.
Try talking to him about how much you want to be dominated? I talked to my boyfriend about it, about how I know he's not comfortable playing that role with me, but that I really would like it if he would. He knows that it's what I want, so he's going to work on it, at least. He promised that he would try to be more dominating, but that it would take a lot of work for him. We had that conversation a month or two ago, and we haven't really gotten a chance for him to try it (long distance sucks), but we'll see what happens.
Hope that helps!
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 4:48 pm
awww please more people post crying
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 10:22 pm
I'm not good at been dominant, I'm always afraid of overdoing it. Never tried the other role.
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Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 8:24 am
Angel Runecrest I'm not good at been dominant, I'm always afraid of overdoing it. Never tried the other role. I can easily be dominant but i dont find as much fun or pleasure in it. It is fun sometimes to be dominant. I want to be submissive most of the time though. I told him that though and he will be more aggressive and do what I want. I will be dominant for him sometimes I think. I find it hot when he calls me mistress sometimes though.
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Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 9:53 am
thenightgoddess Angel Runecrest I'm not good at been dominant, I'm always afraid of overdoing it. Never tried the other role. I can easily be dominant but i dont find as much fun or pleasure in it. It is fun sometimes to be dominant. I want to be submissive most of the time though. I told him that though and he will be more aggressive and do what I want. I will be dominant for him sometimes I think. I find it hot when he calls me mistress sometimes though. lol Sounds like a lot of fun twisted heart
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