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 Posted: Wed Feb 18, 2009 9:26 am
why is that? i mean from the beginning i even did that...its like nothing ever works out and i have to make tough decisions which i end up messing up and breaking someones heart cause of the choices i made...even now...im probably gonna end up breaking her heart cause i love him too much...i dont mean to..but i did get to experience a new relationship which i did enjoy but at the same time i was missing him very much maybe to the point of hurting...but my question would be how can you stop the hurting in your heart even though you know it seems like you're just breaking hearts and feel the worst cause of it?...
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Posted: Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:03 pm
Some people are just good at making decisions. And others look to other people for advice on what choices to make because they are not that good and they know it and don't want to make the situation worse, either that or they just don't know what else to do. Plus, life is full of hard decisions. Some people take shortcuts and some face them head on. Both have it's advantages and disadvantages. I think it is up to you whether you want to face it head on or take a shortcut. But, whatever you do. Make it count.
About the relationship; In this case, one heart is going to get broken with either direction you go in. So, my advice would be to think very carefully about the choice you make. Because you could end up regretting it later. And, that is something you do not want to do. Believe me.
About the heart hurting; I do not believe it is possible to stop the hurting. Only to be able to try and ignore it in hopes to forget it and make it temporarily go away. There are various things you could do to distract you from the pain. It took me 2 years to finally get over my RL ex. And I am STILL not completely over her yet. But, yes, you get my point. It can take a very long time for the heart to heal from wounds, depending on how deep they are.
(For the other people reading this; I took her problem and treated as if it were just another person asking for advice instead of someone I am romantically involved with, for the purpose of giving good advice and not advice that is clouded by jealousy and frustration about wanting her back. And for those who do not know. Me and Jen are not together anymore, I let her have a chance to date a girl instead of me which I am now regretting and so is she because of the pain it has caused us. We still love each other dearly and do regularly talk on Xfire (a gaming messenger for those who do not know). She is just very very frustrated about the whole loving me and dating someone else thing.)
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Posted: Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:18 pm
yes i know but i always seemingly end up breaking someones heart cause of what i did...but before i posted this i asked her if she hated me if i were to break up with her and she said no and that shes been thinking about it a lot lately and that she thinks id be better off but before anything else was said the bell was about to ring so she had to go...i donno what that means excatly but i think once she gets back on we're gonna have a talk about that...
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Posted: Wed Feb 18, 2009 5:58 pm
What would you do...
I guess that answers the question that you're her girlfriend? And she's yours?
It heals over time, it actually really does. It takes a long time depending on how you deal with it and how close you were to them. But once you find something that makes you absolutely happy. You'll realize that the ones who did matter should understand that you're happiest the way you are with the one that makes you happiest and they will be able to find their own person.
Finding a new interest is always good, though things like listening to music and reading books you can tend to relate back to your own life.
I've taken into sitting in the sun and looking at the scenery and see which angle, which lighting would work well for a beautiful scenery shot. Though I've come to noticed that the camera is like my glasses, things aren't the way they seem through my own eyes ^_^;
...if you weren't afraid? 
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Posted: Sat Feb 21, 2009 10:32 pm
There is no real easy way to go about it. No matter what, someone will end up hurting in the end. It's a fact of life that cannot be avoided. My best advice I can give to you, is to follow your heart and do what will be best for you. Do what will make you happiest in the long run. I emphasize you, because no matter what you choose, it's you that will live with the results of that choice. If you are really feeling all that miserable, yet you care for her...then perhaps it's time to talk with her about it. How fair would it be really to stay if you heart truly isn't in it? In the end, all parties involved would suffer for the worse if you live in a lie in order to try and spare everyone's feelings. Please, don't beat yourself up though. You were restless and wanted to try something new and now you have. That was very brave of you. What you did cannot be un-done. You shouldn't punish yourself for it though. It's up to you now to decide what it is you want and to then move forward. Take some time to yourself to really think about what it is you want and who, if either. It will come to you and the pain will go away with time.
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Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2009 10:32 am
Well, I'd like to give everyone an update on this matter. Jen and I are back together. heart
Jen did break up with her gf. I believe they also talked about it some. I remember Jen said that her gf said that she wanted Jen to be happy, even if it wasn't with her.
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Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2009 12:55 pm
yes we are back together sorry for not telling you guys about it D: (thanks very much lovex3) and yes love we did talk about it and she did say that she wanted me to be happy..and i wanted her to be happy but i didnt want to be missing mikey a lot when i was with her >.
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Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2009 5:26 pm
What would you do...
Tis what we're here for and what the forum is here for ^^
...if you weren't afraid?
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Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2009 1:24 am
I'm glad to hear that everything is all worked out.
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Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2009 8:44 pm
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