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RockstarRaccoon Vice Captain
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 Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 3:05 pm
SherlawkDragon on the WereSource forums I saw a similar thread on ShadowsDen, and it reminded me that Terror had recently come out to his girlfriend, and that most of my friends know something at least. So: Where does therianthropy belong in a relationship? When should you tell friends? When should you tell people you're dating? Who should you tell, and when and how should you tell them? Most of my friends already know (and probably a bunch of people I don't know) know I call myself a "Were-Raccoon" (I flaunt it actually), and I've even explained it in depth to a few very close friends. I think if you're going out with someone, you need to tell them something if you want to have a serious relationship (if unserious, no need to bother), and if you really want your friends to know, and you think you have a safe way to tell them, you should do that. We have to remember, there's no real danger in people knowing how we feel, only in the way they might respond by how we bring it across.
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Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 3:50 pm
Definitely a good topic. When should you tell your friends, family, and mates? As far as family goes, my father is a Therian so my mother is used to that "mystical stuff between you and your dad" as she puts it. I've never actually come out and said, "Hey guys, I'm a wolf in the wrong body. Oh, and by the way, there's a fox hiding somewhere in there too..." but it's basically understood. My therapist loves it, and the two of us use astral-shifting as a part of my treatment for depression.
I've agonized before over telling my partners I'm a Therian, and sometimes when I do tell them, it blows up in my face. Most are pretty understanding, though; with me, it just comes with the territory (said "territory" also including the metaphysical, paranormal, etc.) and they leave it at that. I've told only three friends in my entire life, and all three have also been Therians, they just didn't know the term. At times I almost almost flaunt it too; I can't seem to help it when I'm almost constantly phantom and mentally-shifted.
As far as telling the people you're close to, I agree with Sherlawk. To have a lasting relationship, be it intimate or only frienship, there has to be trust involved. If you don't trust someone enough to know something this important about you as an individual, you need to seriously reconsider your relationship. If it turns out that that person cannot accept you for who you are, they were not worthy of your presence in their lives anyway.
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Fumeiyo-chan Norzaar Captain
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Posted: Mon Feb 09, 2009 8:21 pm
Where does therianthropy belong in a relationship?
I suppose if in a close relationship where one lives with another then it should be discussed in more depth, that way to avoid any disturbances while shifting, etc.
When should you tell friends?
I don't see it being as necessary to tell friends. It might be an interesting conversation though but I wouldn't come out to your buddy that you've known for one week.
When should you tell people you're dating?
If the relationship is trusting enough or where you're living in the same space. My ex was very disturbed by it and actually censored most of the things I considered important about myself. It made it a bit hard to talk about myself to anyone out of fear of it becoming a 'Censor yourself or be exiled' thing.
Who should you tell, and when and how should you tell them?
Very few people. Mates that you live with, Those you feel comfortable with, other therians.
I would try my best to explain it slowly, checking for reaction each way as not to just say "Hay Mom! I've got an animal spirit inside me!" or whatever your belief to your therian origin may be.
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Posted: Mon Feb 09, 2009 11:46 pm
Huh, that is a pretty deep subject. But... I've never really had any problems with it with family or friends. They've all accepted it, and a few are therians themselves.
I kinda think that it also might be a genetic thing. Being a therian that is. Not in the sense of actually, physically shifting though. Just knowing really. Like my younger cousin is also a therian. He's a wolf theriotype as well. My older cousin is a rabbit theriotype. I don't know about older relatives though. Never really bothered to ask them.
And all the relationships that I have had (the few), they never had issues with the therian side of me. =3
Guess I just know how to choose my friends.
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Fumeiyo-chan Norzaar Captain
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Posted: Tue Feb 10, 2009 11:52 am
There are some people out there who you don't have to tell; they already know, whether they themselves are Therian or not. Of course, bounding out of your car and following a wolf through the park late at night could possibly be a tipoff, heh. Those are the people we are lucky to find, though; someone not even aware of the relationship who accepts and embraces it without even knowing it exists.
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Posted: Sun Mar 08, 2009 10:35 pm
I will never ever tell my parents... They are southern bible belt baptists..... If I told them... well why don't you just try and imagine. It's just me and my bra. (not real bra.... well wolf brother. we say we are a pack.)
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Fumeiyo-chan Norzaar Captain
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Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2009 3:59 pm
Yeah I know how those Southern Baptists can be... eek
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Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2009 5:42 pm
I'll tell after I'm steadily separated from them.
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RockstarRaccoon Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2009 7:14 pm
I prefer not to go on CNN......
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 8:02 pm
I don't blame you in the least.
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Fumeiyo-chan Norzaar Captain
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 7:43 pm
But it would be free advertising for our party's pick for the presidency. lol
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 9:41 am
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Fumeiyo-chan Norzaar Captain
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 2:57 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 4:05 pm
wow. what? whats wrong with baptist? *sigh*
only a few people know about my squirreliness....
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 4:45 pm
lots fo people know that im wolf like....though when i try to say it they all go "Your not a ******** werewolf you dumbass" and then i avoid them for the rest of however long i can *nods*
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