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 Posted: Thu Jan 15, 2009 6:23 pm
I had my first date last Friday and I just wanted to know if anyone would like to share some ideas of how to take the stress off of dating and prom. Any fantastic date ideas would be awesome, too.
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Posted: Fri Jan 16, 2009 2:27 am
Some of the best advice I got from my church leaders and parents were:
If you accept the date you owe them nothing but as nice an evening as you can help to make it - you do not owe them a kiss, bear hugging, or anything that is uncomfortable to you or lowers your standards.
Do not accept the date and expect them to spend tons of money on you - they may not have tons of money and you should not want them to resent you for throwing fits or sulking even if they could spend tons of money and choose not to.
Clarify where you are going and what is the appropriate attire. Do not ask someone to a formal dance then take them to a fancy restaurant, the dance for 10 minutes to "show off" and get a picture, and then take them golfing for rats at the local garbage dump. (I snickered at this until I found out this really happened)
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Posted: Fri Jan 16, 2009 2:34 am
Try to help them feel comfortable and confidant by mentioning anything good you notice (did they wear a nice cologne, does the color of the shirt/dress accent their eyes, did they open the door for you or were especially nice about something, did they go out of their way to be nice to YOUR friends, etc.) as long as you can mean it - there is nothing worse than a fake compliment.
Try to be interested in things they are interested in or excited about.
If they give you a sincere compliment say "Thank You" and not "Oh, You're just saying that to be nice" or any of those negative ways to react to a compliment - it can make them sorry they were nice and wonder what other responses might come and make them uncomfortable and second guess all reactions for the rest of the date.
Try to relax and have fun. Your date is more likely to be able to do so too.
The one I treasured most and used as a measure?
Remember, You are a Child of Heavenly Parents and so is your date. Treat each other like royalty and with sincere respect, tolerance, and charity.
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Posted: Sun Jan 18, 2009 1:46 pm
I'm probably not the most suited to answer you as I've never been on a date but, just remember your both people and if it's their first date too they are probably just as nervous as you.
Just be yourself, and try to have fun.
Remember as part of God's plan. the man is meant to support the woman and vice-versa.
before you get into a serious relationship ask yourself am I a better person because of him (i.e. more confidant, happier, etc.)
Also, vice versa (do I make him better?)
If so it may be that he is the one.
I know you didn't ask about serious relationships but i hope my advice will help you in the future
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Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:09 pm
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Posted: Wed Jan 21, 2009 3:01 am
Preferably with you and not at you! I have done both. redface
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Posted: Fri Jan 23, 2009 11:49 am
Heh... rolleyes Yeah, I have that problem too... There's a lot of stress on dating. stare Makes it less fun.
As far as advice? Um... Enjoy yourself. 3nodding Past that, it really doesn't matter. This is your time. Not anyone else's. Have fun with it. biggrin
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Posted: Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:19 pm
Thanks for the help, every body. I kind of wish i could redo my 1st date and act more like myself, but oh well. I have another question. What do you guys feel about prom, 'cause im sorta stressing over the whole thing and what I would do if i don't get a date. (I know, i shouldn't stress, but i tend too).
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Posted: Fri Jan 23, 2009 2:56 pm
That's a question that is more dependent on the individual.
There is no broad why Guys feel about prom.
I know guys who feel it's pointless, they don't care about it at all.
Guys who think it's the most important event in their life, and guys who don't care too much but feel it's their duty to take their date.
It really depends on the guy.
The best way to find out how a guy feels about something is ask.
Note: it is best to ask while others aren't around as that may change the response.
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Posted: Sat Jan 24, 2009 9:27 am
Sorry if i sound blunt, but if you like a guy, just ask him yourself. Life's too short to spend waiting on this guy or that guy.
If he has any attraction to you, he won't have a problem. If he says no to you asking him, he is not worth it. period.
There was a girl i dated, and it began with her asking me. It ended up being that way because i was unsure of what we would do on a date, and she had a great idea.
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Posted: Sat Jan 31, 2009 5:07 pm
I specifically didn't want any drama over prom. I asked a friend to go with me. We went and hung out with some other friends from our group and just had a great time.
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