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 Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:32 pm
So my mom knows I'm pagan. My books on the subject lay around the house even, and I think my dad might be figuring it out.
But I was talking to my mom about a whole different issue (It involved me and my boyfriend, and my father trying to protect my v****a >__>), and my little brother was in the room playing his game. He's seven, by the way. Well, I was trying to tell her how I felt on the subject...
Me: "I feel invaded. My sexuality is a gift from my goddess, one of the most beautiful gifts she gave m-"
Mom: "Whoah whoah! Please, Lina! I know how you feel, but your brother is in the room!"
Me: O__O *surprised at the sudden anger and totally confused* What? 'Sexuality' or 'Goddess'??"
Mom: Look, I am NOT ready for your brother to be a pagan. He is young and impressionable. I don't want him hearing 'goddess'!
And she acted like this was perfectly reasonable, and AFTER getting all pissed off about it, suddenly got all smiley and understanding. But I know her manipulative face by now, and it's very different from the look she gets when she's actually being nice.
Now, this shocked me. Apparently I missed the memo about how paganism is an inappropriate topic for children. It's rather upsetting, as now I have to shut my mouth about my beliefs in my own home. I could understand if I was trying to convert him, but I literally wasn't even talking to him. And by the way, I NEVER do. I see no need to, as he is going to grow up and believe whatever is right for him. I do try to encourage him to respect living creatures, but so does my mom.
UGH! And that is my rant. What do you guys think? Has this ever happened to you? Do your parents/family/friends think you're going to corrupt their innocent children with your dirty pagan ways?
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:47 pm
i understand the situation. many people that were my friends stopped talking to me because of my religion, and my sister hates that about me, my dad hates the idea of magick, goddess...even though he has certianly done his fair share of dabbling in that area for wrong reasons....three fold law right? but its hard, it will most likely be that way for a while, though if there is an consulation you know that there are people here for you. I am and you can talk to me anytime. I know the feeling. None of us are ever alone.
I am sorry i cant help out with your house situation though
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:51 pm
;___; Thank you so much. I love that I can come here and find people who understand. I just moved back to this area, and I have yet to find a person who shares my pagan beliefs.
I'm so sorry about your family and friends. That has to be really hard, and talk to me any time. I'm on Gaia every day, and my AIM is Dreda Nevermore.
Thank you for the support ^_^
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:58 pm
Thank you, i just know how it feels and i wish someone had been there for me when all of that happened to me. And family is family, there are one of the greatest blessings and greatest pains in our lives, but they help us grow. I love them.
Support is what i am good for! blaugh
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:06 pm
I suppose your right. I should try and remember that blessings part! lol.
It wouldn't have annoyed me so much if my dad hadn't just been infuriating me about a different issue. I'm turning 18 in a month, but he apparently thinks that my body is his to protect. rolleyes
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:12 pm
i understand that too, dads are too similar. im 16, and my dad just now excepts the fact i date. though im not allowed to kiss anyone... wink
but its your decision, your body, your choice, and you are going to be an adult soon, not much he can do but try to convince you otherwise and show disapproval. or lock you in a chastity belt...though i hope that doesnt happen! blaugh
If you are ready, all will fall into place
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:17 pm
Ah, thank you. ^__^
And man, that's harsh. But like you said, he really cannot stop you.
Yes, I too hope to avoid that threatening chastity belt! xD
Like I was atempting to explain to my mom, my sexuality is a gift from my goddess, which She entrusted to me and no one else. I will share it with whom I will, but I am not some pure doll to be protected. I'm a woman. >_<
I really hope this crap about fathers "owning" their daughters dies out soon. *sigh*
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:34 pm
i think its bound to eventually. how long can they bear to keep it up?
he lives in Iowa, so that could be a reason for the protectiveness...(divorced parents.)
lol I will keep my fingers crossed for you!
I love that you said that because i say the exact same thing! maybe not the woman part though. But it is such a glorious gift, and so many people take it for granted and end up regreting it for a very long time.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:37 pm
OMG I just had the same talk with my mom like I would try to convert him he would make a bad name for pagans everywhere.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:43 pm
Oh, I suppose that makes sence. But if he lives apart from you, it's all the more reason that he should let you grow. I guess it's hard for parents, but it's what they sign up for, lol.
And thank you! ^_^ Hopefully, my older sister and I will move out together. *nodnod* Edit: And Shia, you too??! What is it with them? Don't they know that Christian's do the converting, not pagans? x3
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:52 pm
this must be really common. Join the party! Most parents sign up for it, thats true. some like mine it was unexpected. Though he in his ways has made me strong, think about it, has yours?
That would be really good as long as you get along! haha, well I hope it all wrapps up in a good way for everyone
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 7:57 pm
Yep, I know how you feel. I'm abit older; 28 and my mom and I don't speak anymore b/c everytime we tried- she tries to convert me! I asked her to stop and her response was to cut off contact with me, because its against her religion to not try to convert people to the one true religion. (She's hard core, reborn again christian) Anyway, I have a brother who is 15 now that I was very close with when he was younger. (13yrs difference makes a huge difference w/ siblings! lol) Anyway, he has been told he can't talk, visit, or email me until I stop with "this cult" business. So I haven't spoken to him in over a year, I think almost 2 now. It's hard- but I just try to be thankful for the family(including family by choice) I do have. I have wonderful Grandparents, my Husband, really close friends, and another brother who keeps in semi-contact (Having 2 kids and going on 2 tours of Iraq have made it kinda spotty). I know it has to be rough, but try to keep your head up and count your blessings. smile Egg Ten:  (DO NOT REMOVE)
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 8:05 pm
Wow, I suddenly feel bad for ranting. That is just an awful situation to be in, but you seem to have a wonderful attitude about it. No mother should cut off contact like that , especially due to beliefs.
And really, how good is a religion for you if it causes you to shun your family?
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 8:08 pm
*nodding solemly* i agree, family is family, always, even if the think some "crazy" thing that makes you want to run and scream.
And you are right. We should count are blessings, if we did that, there would be more room for smiles!
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 8:10 pm
Oh yes! And smiles are wonderful things, especially with cookies involved. ^_^
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