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I was just wondering why everyone insists they talk to an adult of some sort when they self injure? In my oppinion they make everything way worst. Please explain.

Nikolita said it best. Besides, not all adults are going to make your life worse. A lot of them can help make it better.

Cutting is a coping mechanism. It's something you do when you don't know how to deal with the pain you are feeling. If you tell and adult then they can teach you skills to deal with your pain and you can be happy and won't need cutting anymore. Once you get older you will understand that it is for the greater good. It may make things worse for a very short time but it will make them better for the rest of your life.

Well it depends what adult you talk to. I think what a lot of people mean by telling an adult is telling someone like a counsellor. They can help you deal with the reasons for your cutting, which would help with the cutting itself.

Agreed.

Often, it feels like the adult is making too big a deal, or hurting your feelings, or forcing you to do things you don't want to do, etc... But frankly, cutting, like any addiction, can be extremely unpleasant to cure.

I used to cut, and I talked to an adult about it. She used to cut too. She introduced me to coloring books. 4laugh Now instead of cutting, I color. And they are pretty. So adults can give you alternatives that could actually work, rather than just setting you in a crazy home or something.

You seem really young, no offense intended, honestly adults have more experience, and some may have been in your shoes, or known somebody who has been there. They tend to also have a better view of the big picture and know when telling someone may be necessary.

Adults don't want to make things worse, and most actually do a good job of making things better. I have to say when I was younger I thought that adults just wanted to mess up my life and were too stupid to understand, but now that I'm a little older and in college, I actually understand that they were right for the most part. And an adult doesn't mean someone your parents age, an older brother or sister (above I guess 18 or so) someone who has been through enough to have a broader world view can help too.

Plus people that self injure are putting themselves in danger. Injury of any kind needs attention, especially if the person is repetitively doing it to themselves. Mistakes are easily made with self injury that can take a life or cause serious problems, and the person doing it may think they have it under control, but in reality may not. Plus self injury may also become addictive, something younger individuals don't realize, however an adult can see the potential for this and do something about it before hand, as addiction is a dangerous situation, especially when personal harm is involved.

Adults may know something you don't and are trying to do what's best even if it seems as a bad deal to you. They aren't generally going to make things worse. So find someone you can trust and talk to them if it's ever an issue. A young adult someone in their twenties or so may be of help and still remember what it's like to be your age (whatever that may be).

Overall adults can help you out and tend to solve more problems than they cause or worsen.