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 Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 2:01 pm
I'm 15 and my best friend is 19, soon to be 20 this month. When ever I am depressed or something is just plain wrong he always makes it better. Just being around him makes me happy. I've always had a thing for him but I didn't think he would go for me because of my age.
The day before Thanksgiving he spent the night, nothing unusual for us, but something happened between us. We were talking on my bed and he brought up a sensitive subject for me without realizing it at first. Even though i was trying to hide it, he saw me crying alil. He held me and told me that i am one of the greatest people he knows and that people should be better towards me. He also asked me if there was anything he could do to make me feel better such as a kiss, hug, or oral. I told him i was fine and we layed down; i had my head on his chest. We continued to talk abit and we started to kiss. And more; no sex btw, but it was close.
And now I want to talk to him about it. I think he's shy about it too. But i want to tell him i don't just want it to be a one night stand. I always knew that the first thing i ever did with a guy would be with him. I just can't figure out how to bring it up. I'm really shy.
Please give me advice as to what to do. Should i tell him or not?!
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Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:37 pm
It's probably the day. Most of the guys that im hearing people talk about sound like jerks. He sounded like a really sweet guy till he said oral. You don't just tell people that. Moving on. I know your shy but you will have to bring that up. The last thing you want is to give people the wrong idea. Try to talk to him about it. and if you still feel shy write him a letter. and give it to him. That's actually how i express myself to people when i can't talk.
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Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 7:40 pm
I've known him all my life, so i'm usually really comfortable with him. I've thought about writting him a letter but actually talking to him sounds like it would be better. I'm not quite sure why.
Lately when i'm with him, we are sadly not alone. His family has been sick lately so I can't go over there. Whenever he comes over, other friends are usually here. But when they aren't I just cant seem to bring it up.
Any tips?
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Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 10:01 am
Blurting things out should get something started. I do that a lot. or bring yourself to say something like. I need to talk to you about the day before thanksgiving. and after you say something along those words he will probably not let you stay shut and you could express your ideas. I'm sure that if you are extremely comfortable with this guy it will be a little easier to talk to him about it. The longer you put this off the harder it becomes.
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Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 10:42 am
i think you're getting in alittle deeper than you're ready for but idk
do you know any of his friends
does any of your friends know about this do your parents know anything about this they know you better than anyone on gaia they might be able to help you more if you go to them
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Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 7:15 pm
June-iful i think you're getting in alittle deeper than you're ready for but idk do you know any of his friends does any of your friends know about this do your parents know anything about this they know you better than anyone on gaia they might be able to help you more if you go to them
I haven't really met that many of his friends. They are all in the next town.
Nobody knows about it. Theres no way im telling my parents, i dont even live with them.
Should i just step away for awhile?
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Posted: Wed Dec 31, 2008 5:48 pm
stepping away for for a while can help but only temporarily
but usually, though it may feel otherwise, it isn't safe to keep these kind of relationships a secret. and if you're afraid of what people might think if they knew then, depending on the reasons why, that may be a sign that it's not a good situation and that maybe you should get out of it.
but i can't know those kind of things for sure, only you can. which is partly why you can't keep this a secret from those who care and know you better, because it's too difficult to handle these things all on your own
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Posted: Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:06 pm
Yea i know. I just don't really know what to say. My family is really protective
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Posted: Tue Jan 06, 2009 9:06 pm
has your family met this guy because if he's as nice as he seems then your family will like him
if he's a friend to the family then your family will trust him
thus talking about your relaionship will be a whole lot easier
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2009 1:19 am
I wouldn't bring this matter to your family unless it gets bad. And even then, if you really have to tell a family member, tell one who is close with you or one who will keep it secret from the ones who will tattle on you to your parents.
I have lots of problems with my mother when it comes to "guys" so I can understand the protective stuff. Ah and my brother too, forgot about him lol.
Anyways, I would call him up if I were you and just be like, "Hey...So whats up?" And talk for awhile, then after a little bit, perhaps when its a silent moment just say, "I'd like to..Talk to you about something." And when he asks what, tell him its about the day before Thanks giving. See what he says, then let it slide from there. Don't just temporarily vanish. Because if you do and lets say he wanted or wants to talk to you about the same exact thing, he might start to get worried. He sounds kind of nice from what you have said. I wouldn't run from this though, because it's not anything bad yet. But don't have sex with him forsure. Atleast not untill your 17 or 18 years old. Just because you've known him for your whole life so far doesn't mean that he doesn't mean that he might want to have sexual relationships with you..Because he is 20 and stuff, so just becareful about that. Think everything over and over again in your mind and decide EXACTLY what you want to do. Or what you want. Good-luck, let me know what happens!
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Posted: Fri Jan 09, 2009 12:42 pm
just curious
what's happened since thanksgiving question
i mean that was quite a while ago confused
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Posted: Sat Jan 10, 2009 7:29 pm
June-iful has your family met this guy because if he's as nice as he seems then your family will like him if he's a friend to the family then your family will trust him thus talking about your relaionship will be a whole lot easier Yea. Alot of my friends and most of my family thats around knows him. My grandma [i live with her] will let me stay out with him for a long time or will let him stay here past midnight-or spend the night as i said before.
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Posted: Sat Jan 10, 2009 7:31 pm
June-iful just curious what's happened since thanksgiving question i mean that was quite a while ago confused
nothing has really happened since then. It's driving me kinda crazy.
I keep wanting to make time to talk to him about it, but everytime that we are together theres someone else with us. At his house its usually his brothers, at my house its family and im afraid they will hear us
grr
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Posted: Sat Jan 10, 2009 7:33 pm
Yui Hisaishi I wouldn't bring this matter to your family unless it gets bad. And even then, if you really have to tell a family member, tell one who is close with you or one who will keep it secret from the ones who will tattle on you to your parents. I have lots of problems with my mother when it comes to "guys" so I can understand the protective stuff. Ah and my brother too, forgot about him lol. Anyways, I would call him up if I were you and just be like, "Hey...So whats up?" And talk for awhile, then after a little bit, perhaps when its a silent moment just say, "I'd like to..Talk to you about something." And when he asks what, tell him its about the day before Thanks giving. See what he says, then let it slide from there. Don't just temporarily vanish. Because if you do and lets say he wanted or wants to talk to you about the same exact thing, he might start to get worried. He sounds kind of nice from what you have said. I wouldn't run from this though, because it's not anything bad yet. But don't have sex with him forsure. Atleast not untill your 17 or 18 years old. Just because you've known him for your whole life so far doesn't mean that he doesn't mean that he might want to have sexual relationships with you..Because he is 20 and stuff, so just becareful about that. Think everything over and over again in your mind and decide EXACTLY what you want to do. Or what you want. Good-luck, let me know what happens!
yea i know im to young to have sex, so don't worry smile .
I just might have to call him and do that. I would rather do it face to face....but i havent really had a chance yet
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Posted: Sat Jan 10, 2009 7:42 pm
Quote: Yui Hisaishi Wrote: I wouldn't bring this matter to your family unless it gets bad. And even then, if you really have to tell a family member, tell one who is close with you well yeah, i don't mean make a family announcement over the intercom, just go to someone in your family who likes and trusts your friend and ask them what they think, and in my opinion it may be better to do that when he's not around and then talk to him when noone else is around
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