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 Posted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 4:08 pm
Me and my bf were talking about it, and I'm petrified of doing it with him, I've tried telling him that I'm not ready but I don't think he understands. I've also been trying to be open about it but nothings helping. Advice, help, something? Please help
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Posted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 4:23 pm
If he doesnt respect you ur wishes then dont respect his. in otherwords if u've told him that ur not ready dump him. he doesnt care enuff about u. u want a guy that cares about ur every need.
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 11:09 am
My boyfriend respects my decision, and even though he sometimes has the urge to tell me that he wants to do it with me in that moment, I have to remind him that I'm not ready.
Sure, he's getting pissed, but then he remembers that I'm still kinda young XD
My advice: if he still doesn't want to respect you and your decision, dump him.
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 9:29 pm
If your not ready don't do it. and tell him that if he doesn't respect your decision then you can't be with him. don't make him convince you and make you think that you are ready because then you will probably be traumatized afterwords. and if he's really controlling and tries to force you don't be alone with him. having sex is suppose to be a mutual thing if you don't want to do it he can't make you.
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Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2008 10:27 am
Simple, you're not ready and if he doesn't see that then to bad for him. He can just resort to his hand.
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Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2008 4:22 pm
Just it until you are ready! If you are not ready and he keeps bugging you then he does not respect you!
Good luck, hope it all works out in the end.
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2008 8:26 pm
that feeling that your too young is your conscience speaking to you
a lot of girls don't listen to it but trust me you should
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Posted: Sat Dec 20, 2008 10:23 pm
I am your Mord Sith Simple, you're not ready and if he doesn't see that then to bad for him. He can just resort to his hand. lol My Advice: If you're not ready and he trys to pull something to make you in the mood to do it then regret it later then push him off and slap him, if he doesnt respect you're not ready just straight out dump him he's trying to get you to do something you're not reaady to do hope it helps
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Posted: Thu Dec 25, 2008 7:58 pm
If you aren't ready; don't let him pull you into it. Because that's probably the worse thing you could do.
If he starts like.. glaring you down and stuff while you're with him, hoping it'll guilt you into it, then just,... and it won't be easy... break up with him.
He's a guy, maybe you could talk to him on the phone when you aren't with him and talk him out of it.
My first boyfriend did that whole she-bang of guilting me into just about everything besides sex. In the end, I lost a lot of respect for myself and especially my body.
Point is--
Don't go for it if you aren't ready.
:]
If you need help on how to talk to him or anything else, feel free to PM me darling <3
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Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 9:54 am
he definitely sounds like the wrong guy to even be around just leave him find some new friends
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Posted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 2:35 am
He needs to know that a relationship isn't about sex. He needs to respect your morals. Sacrifice is love. He would wait.
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Posted: Mon Jan 05, 2009 3:17 pm
well
u NEED 2 talk with him
if ur not ready then tell him
now
if he really wants 2 do it and gets mad about it
dump him!!!!
u need someone who respct ur desicion and someone who understands when ur ready
hope this helps
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Posted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 2:11 am
meleny7 If your not ready don't do it. and tell him that if he doesn't respect your decision then you can't be with him. don't make him convince you and make you think that you are ready because then you will probably be traumatized afterwords. and if he's really controlling and tries to force you don't be alone with him. having sex is suppose to be a mutual thing if you don't want to do it he can't make you.
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Posted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 4:48 pm
Thanks for all your help guys! If he asks, I'll tell him I'm not ready, even though the fact is that I'm not young but more of a fear.
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Posted: Thu Feb 12, 2009 9:02 am
ok he sounds like not a nice guy if he is like pressuring u into doing it wit him and if u think ur 2 young then ur to young 2 be doin it like my ex is like telling me 2 do it wit him but like i dont think i would cause his a** broke up wit me and s**t just went down but yea if he like gets pissed that u wont let him then flat out dump his a** he aint the right guy 2 be doin it wit and u can then find the right guy 2 do it wit then after u dump him sooooo yes i hope i have helped u
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