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-Pickel_Fizz-

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 15, 2008 7:16 pm


okay.
Recently my Aunt was diagnosed with some form of cancer. My parents didn't know, mainly because my Unlce was too shook up to tell anyone. My dad got really frustrated, so we (not including mother) drove 3 hours to Spokane, WA. The moment we got there, it was like 9AM. We get up to the 11th floor in the hospital, to go visit. The moment I walked in, my heart dropped to my stomach. My Aunt had been sedated and almost looked dead already. One eye was kinda open, the other closed. She couldn't talk, but she sure could still hear. I was too scarred to talk to her. I just couldn't.

I almost passed out, so I sat down. I was really dizzy, and my stomach really hurt. I just had to get outta there. So I sat in the waiting room for like 3 hours. Me and my brother had to catch the plain ride home since we had school the very next day.

I got a call the moment I got home from school. Even before I picked the phone up, I knew who it was, and what they where going to say. My Aunt had passed away on my dad's 50th birthday.

The reason my mom didn't come with us was because she had to goto Arizona. My God Mother (my mom's best friend), had Type 4 Lung Cancer. For those of you who don't know what that is, its the worst type of cancer there is. My mom still isn't home now.

My God mother passed away yesterday. All these deaths is controlling my mind, and Im falling behind in school. Im in all honnors, and Im pretty close to getting a boyfriend. This is SO much for me to take on right now. I need some help. Im not depressed or cutting myself but, any advice? I'd appericate it.
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PostPosted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 2:02 pm





It's normal feel that way about death in a family. The one thing i've learned to do is cherish your moments and think more about how the person lived than how they died. I know it's really stressful to live with the scars of cancer. I have many family members that passed away from cancer. My mom's currently fighting bone and breast cancer, but i've learned now to not think about it or make it a big deal. Cancer shouldn't wipe away ur happiness. Life goes on even after the person passes away.
I hope that helps :3





Nyell


-Pickel_Fizz-

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 4:04 pm


My aunts funeral is saturday. I hope I won't get too depressed.
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 02, 2008 8:58 pm


I cried so hard, its not even funny. I didn't think i'd miss her so much! It just hurt me so much to see my cousin and uncle crying... Im so sad :[
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-Pickel_Fizz-

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 17, 2008 2:30 am


Death is ridiculously hard to deal with... and part of that is because you see so many people close to you suffering, and you can't help but suffer with them. This is the time for you and your family to get closer and share in the pain. I'm not sure how your family is, but families in general are built for support, so use that support and be a part of that support.

As cold and insensitive as it may sound, though, it's healthy to keep moving forward. You mentioned being an honors student and entering a relationship. When members of family die, the last thing they want is for their death to impede your life. They pass on, leaving the world and all they held dear in the care of your hands, the younger generation. So do well in school, and love well in your relationships. I'm sure that's what they want. Remember that, and what they lived for.
PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 2:10 pm


It's good to cry.

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