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I know from first hand what you are going though. I am no stranger to this kind of treatment at all.

But what I want to start with is the people who work for the school not the students. Because kids are going to be kids and either way you put it until they grow up they wont change.

For the adults (teachers and other staff memebers) this is unaceptable. Its not that they are not trying to help but they lack the know how to help. Most teachers just ignore situations like because they don't want to deal with it. Also there should be no reason that they SHOULD allow that kind of harrassment to take place. They are their not only to teach but to protect the well being of the students. Yes, there is a large amount of GLBT people who will not speak out against harassment they recieve. Its becasue of the fear they have will happen agaisnt them if they do. But if there is even one person who is speaking out they need to listen. Keep speaking out, they will have to listen eventually.

As for a soultion I would sugest you calling your local P-Flag in your area.
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2
My friend Diane and her firend go around and train teachers to be at local colleges and other working teachers on this kind of harassment and how to prevent and handle it. If there is not anyone around you that can do this you can also go to your school's district and see what you can report there.

I had this general type of thing happen to me in middle school and I never acted out agaisnt it because I was never brave enough. (Thanks to Diane I get to go speak to the school in one of their speeches. The same one I went to and act out agaisnt it.)

But if you already have been mentioning it keep doing it, keep working at it until something happens. Its not something that should be tolurated, its something that should be sloved.

I'm a sophomore in High School. I do insult people for making fun of me, mostly cussing, but sometimes I get a little violent.
What can I say? I get into a lot of fights. I can't really control my anger.

A lot of times when I walk through the hallway people talk about me.
I don't know if it is their intention for me to hear them or they just think I'm deaf.
Either people shout, "fagget!" or I hear, "That's a girl!? WHOA!"

Well, I respect anyone who can do the above method, cause I couldn't. All I can say is, people are mean-spirited and enjoy the torment and pain of others. I would suggest making a few close friends with upperclassmen so that no one will dare to "******** your s**t up". It's pretty good to surround yourself with people stronger than your enemies, and upperclassmen are usually smart enough to not give a s**t about th outside. Also, after you make friends with them, make some with those under and around you, because when the upperclassmen graduate, you don't wanna be left alone. Then you'd have to start all over. A mistake I made. Other than that, for now all you can do is the above advice. That and make nice with parents and teachers, if they really like you they'll protect you. Sucking up to them doesn't hurt anything but your pride.

This may be a bit late, but I've been away for a while and advice is only useless once you're in the ground:

The fact that you're showing that it bothers you is part of what fuels the attacks against you. Other people who are compelled by their own insecurity to use others as a focus for other people's scrutiny have latched on to you, the reactive young lesbian who can't stand being the target of derision, to bear the burden they refuse to deal with themselves. Unfortunately for your own case, you are the perfect target, as you are both outside the norm without a hope to change and draw attention through your enthusiastic acknowledgement of their verbal attacks and failed attempts to ignore said attacks. What's more, the inconsistancy of your reaction makes the situation worse: that you try to ignore them but blow up anyway makes your more vivid reactions a sort of challenge to be taken up by those willing to expend the energy on making you the butt of their vicarious social interaction.

In my opinion, what you ought to do to fix the situation is three-fold:

1.) Choose a reaction standpoint and stick with it - ignore or react. You should never let it reach violence, but insulting a person because of how they look is somewhere around the right area since it draws attention to their flaws, is something they can't help, and puts them on the defensive. Being humorous or clever about it wouldn't hurt either, hinting about their embarrassing pasts in a specific way would go a long way to shutting them up.

2.) Travel and hang with a group of friends who can back you up when you go on the offensive. No insult-hurling idiot goes about his task on his lonesome, he needs an audience. Being without one can put you on uneven footing in the returning-the-favor-of-ridiculing-him area of activity since the audience is on his side as of the first insult. Having a sympathetic audience will help you swing the mood more easily and may even prove intimidating.

3.) Stop letting pubescent thickies with anxiety issues deep-seated enough to convince them that picking on the boyish lesbian is the best course of action get to you with their feeble attempts at psychological assault. High School is a time best left forgotten for the most part by 95% of the people who have ever been there, and the other 5% are either extremely unfortunate and sad individuals or people who died in attendence. In a couple of years you'll be out and free of the wretched place, and then you'll have all the time in the world to be better than the head-up-their-a** piss-wads who gave you crap at the teenage-kennel you're forced to attend. It may seem a long way off, but in the meantime you're better off just trying to keep from getting your head caved in by some neanderthal-level jock b*****d and spend your frustrated energy learning a skill or creating something artish. Highschool isn't important and neither are any of the people who bother you there, you'll never have to deal with them again in your life likely as not, so don't worry about it so much, have a good laugh, and hang out with supportive friends who actually give two-wits about you.