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 Posted: Wed Oct 08, 2008 11:56 pm
Taken from: http://www.upi.com/Health_News/2008/09/26/Expert_Media_pressures_teens_to_have_sex/UPI-75081222483829/
BLOOMINGTON, Ind., Sept. 26 (UPI) -- The media puts a lot of pressure on teens to have sex and teens need adults to help clear up the media message, a U.S. researcher said.
"There aren't any consequences to premature sexual activity in the media, so teens receive mixed messages," Catherine Sherwood-Laughlin of Indiana University said in a statement. "They need adults in their lives to help clear up those messages."
The Center for Disease Control and Prevention's 2007 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System found almost half of all high school students have had sexual intercourse. About 13 percent of high school students have ever been tested for HIV, but 89.5 percent have been taught about HIV and AIDS infection.
"Parents need to set the morals, values and expectations, as well as provide education, while the schools need to provide medically accurate information and also support abstinence as the best choice for teens," Sherwood-Laughlin said.
There is a whole new language due to text messaging and the way teens communicate with today's technology, there are new words related to sex and sexual activity that parents need to know so they can understand their teens and their friends, Sherwood-Laughlin said.
She recommends parents learn teen sex lingo at the Web sites: http://www.netlingo.com/emailsh.cfm; http://www.spyonyourkids.net/spy_on_myspace_lingo_kit.php?gclid=CL6nv-nut5QCFQWVFQod2FwSTQ; and http://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/glossary-teen-slang
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Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 6:02 pm
Oh my goodness. She actually recommended those websites for parents? I've never even heard of 99% of the things on those websites, and I'm not all that old.
If kids are seriously typing things like, "ZMG YGBSM YRYOCC," then their parents have bigger problems on their hands than sex. Special ed classes might help with that.
I agree with her that the media does make sex seem cool, and that's an issue, but I think saying parents need to learn 5,000 idiotic slang phrases that no one with more than a 6th grade education would say/type anyway is pushing it. Ug.
She needs to place the emphasis more on teaching kids and on how parents can teach kids and less emphasis on how to spy on your kid and figure out what they're saying. Education can help stop a dangerous situation before it starts. Spying will either simply help the parent discover a problem after it's too late or just push the kid away. So rather than suggesting spying websites, she should be suggesting websites like www.coolnurse.com where kids can look up information that they're too embarrassed to ask parents or teachers.
I think if I have a kid, I might email him/her websites like coolnurse. That way, it's like you're having "the talk" but without as much awkwardness, and then the child could browse the site or email you back for more information. And that way, you could give them age appropriate stuff too. Like start out with pubery and body changes articles, then work up to the sex, pregnancy, and STD ones.
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Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 7:41 pm
I agree with Lorien, the whole text speak thing is stupid. I've seen lists like that before, and a lot of the text speak and acronyms that somehow make it onto those lists are things that no one has ever heard of or used. I don't know where people are getting this from but I spend hours on the internet talking to different people on websites, messengers, etc, and I don't come across half the things on these lists. I'm only twenty two, I don't think I'm outside the know as far as this sort of thing goes. Text speak and acronyms were around when I was a teen as well and the ones that were common then are still the ones that are common now. Plus, I see a lot of people, teens included, who don't use this stuff at all. I see people complaining about grammar and the bad use of English language on the internet, so not all teens even bother talking like that. My mother is a teacher and her school informed them all about "cyber bullying" and gave the teachers a list of acronyms much like what's on these sites. Things that no one ever uses. She brought it home to show me and ask me if I knew what they were. Less than half the list actually contained things people use. I had to explain to her that most of the stuff on the list was stuff you'd never really see anyone saying online. rolleyes
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Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 7:56 pm
Exactly. I am on the internet for like 12 hours a day. I play a lot of games and whatnot, so I see a lot of "hai wil u giv me goldz?" kind of crap, but not that, "R2D2HYKLVIVYLUYGLHBLUG" crap from that website. If I had a kid who typed like that, oh my goodness. I'd beat it out of him! Not really, but I would seriously scold him like you have no idea. xp A year's worth of English and grammar tutoring? Heck yes.
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Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 8:07 pm
My 11 y/o bother uses acronyms like that sometimes. But he's 11, so he thinks that using acronyms like that are really cool. I take pride in using correct spelling and mechanics online and in my text messages.
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Posted: Mon Oct 20, 2008 11:04 am
I really don't think that some people give teens enough credit. I think most teenagers know the risks that are associated with having sex. If they don't it's up to parents to educate them. Not spy on them.
I know that if I found out my parents were spying on me, I would be furious. I would think they were cowards for not coming up to me and asking me. It would make me close myself off from them. Not open up to them more.
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Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 1:30 am
Yeah. sweatdrop I only included the links because anyone who clicked on the link to see the article on the original website would see I left the websites off. I can edit them out if you guys would like?
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Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 9:13 am
Nikolita Yeah. sweatdrop I only included the links because anyone who clicked on the link to see the article on the original website would see I left the websites off. I can edit them out if you guys would like? Oh, no, I'd say leave them in. I mean, the links are from the article. And we were teasing the lady who wrote the article and suggested those links; we weren't teasing you for leaving the links in. xp And even though I think the lady who wrote the article sounds an idiot, it got us talking and thinking, which is what's important. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 2:29 am
I know, but just thought I'd check anyways. ninja I don't like the links she included at the end either. But the rest of the article has some good points I think.
In the grocery checkout today, I overheard a guy talking to the teen cashier helping my boyfriend and I. Something about looking for a children's song for 7 - 10 year olds, and the girl said anything without swear words was fine. And the guy said something about suggesting Pussycat Dolls, but wasn't sure if it'd be considered appropriate or not.
I wouldn't want my 7 year old listening to that crap. sweatdrop (sorry if anyone here likes them)
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Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 6:31 am
Nikolita I know, but just thought I'd check anyways. ninja I don't like the links she included at the end either. But the rest of the article has some good points I think. In the grocery checkout today, I overheard a guy talking to the teen cashier helping my boyfriend and I. Something about looking for a children's song for 7 - 10 year olds, and the girl said anything without swear words was fine. And the guy said something about suggesting Pussycat Dolls, but wasn't sure if it'd be considered appropriate or not. I wouldn't want my 7 year old listening to that crap. sweatdrop (sorry if anyone here likes them) Nah, I think you're totally right. They're highly sexualised and provocative. I don't know if there's anything "innocent" and kiddy around now... maybe High School Musical? Or Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus? I dunno, I don't look for children's presents anymore... XD
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Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 6:38 am
Yeah, at 7-10 years old, I wouldn't let my kid listen to that crap either. I'd stick with classical music and oldies. xp
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