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 Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 10:07 pm
Well me and my Girlfriend have been going to church alot lately. and well quite a few times we have decided that we were gonna stop having sex, for religious reasons. and usually when she comes over to my house, we are fine at first. but once we start kissing we cant stop from their. at first she tells me that she doesnt want to have sex but she usually says that anything else is ok, but from their we usually end up having sex, now i always ask her "do you want to, or not" but i think she feels like since its something i want that she will do it because she will end up liking it anyways in the end. thing is she usually says no before she comes over or we both agree that we arent and then we do. what do you guys think? am i pressuring her? because that is the one thing that i dont want, is to pressure her into it. sorry didnt quite no where to post this.
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 8:21 am
Well, it doesn't really sound like she is unwilling. But we don't know whether she gives in because she really wants it too or because she just wants to make you happy.
Either way, if you guys decide you're not going to have sex, but you're the one who keeps suggesting it/starting it when the time comes, that could be an issue.
You two have to decide whether or not you're going to keep having sex. If you decide to have it, no problem as long as you're protected. But if you decide you're going to stick with your decision of not having it, then you'll have to control yourself more. You might even have to cut out all other sexual activities for a while if they get you too hot and bothered until you get a bit more used to having a relationship that doesn't involve sex.
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 10:03 am
LorienLlewellyn Well, it doesn't really sound like she is unwilling. But we don't know whether she gives in because she really wants it too or because she just wants to make you happy. Either way, if you guys decide you're not going to have sex, but you're the one who keeps suggesting it/starting it when the time comes, that's could be an issue. You two have to decide whether or not you're going to keep having sex. If you decide to have it, no problem as long as you're protected. But if you decide you're going to stick with your decision of not having it, then you'll have to control yourself more. You might even have to cut out all other sexual activities for a while if they get you too hot and bothered until you get a bit more used to having a relationship that doesn't involve sex. well she says that she does it because she knows that i want to and at the same time that she knows that she will like it and want it as soon as we start. but when i ask her her she usually says "i dont mind" or "just shut up and do it" haha
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 10:49 am
You really have to decide whether or not you're going to have sex. Don't let things go too far otherwise you'll end up with a guilt complex. On the other hand, if you're happy having sex, why stop?
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 11:28 am
Fran Salaska You really have to decide whether or not you're going to have sex. Don't let things go too far otherwise you'll end up with a guilt complex. On the other hand, if you're happy having sex, why stop? we both are happy doing it, i guess its cuz we are going to church that we feel we should stop, but it aint easy
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 11:57 am
Psycho-Rocker69 we both are happy doing it, i guess its cuz we are going to church that we feel we should stop, but it aint easy I agree with Fran. You can be religious and still have sex. Most people who go to church are sexually active. Some people think sex before marriage is wrong, but most people don't feel that way. If you two don't feel that way, why force it? There are many different ways to interpret the Bible, and there are many different ways to believe. If you two really want to eliminate sex, there's nothing wrong with that of course. But if you don't think there's anything wrong with your sex life, and if you don't understand why some people have that belief, then it means that might not be the right path for you right now.
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Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 10:01 am
I go to church, and I'm still a class-A horn-dog, lol!
I get it at least once a month (damn school, taking up my valuable time)
I don't think what you're doing is wrong, altho I had the same problem a while back.
But maybe you two should talk and stick on a decision. If not, you could put a LOT of strain on your own emotions and thoughts, as well as your relationship.
Good luck luv. (I call ppl that a lot, dont take it personally stare )
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Posted: Sat Nov 08, 2008 4:33 pm
My opinion on this: I am christian, but i've never had sex, but, when your just coming into a religion, and your already there, i guess you have to come off it gradually.
My blunt opinion: If your both getting into religion, and it really means something to you both, then you should make up your minds. If not, then stop the sherade of "ok lets not" and then doing it.... rolleyes
~Leo
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:10 pm
I as well personally don't see why you can't be religious and have sex. It's a perfectly normal human activity once you reach the proper maturity level. Just because you're christian or attend church does not mean you must cease sexual activity. If you want to stop for religious reasons, then i'm not stopping you, but you should know that it's not mandatory.
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