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First off I just want to say sorry for not being here much, life moves so fast some times and we get really busy, and I tend to forget about things. But I’ve got a problem now and need a little help. I’m really not sure who else to talk to.

Also, I’m really not sure which subform to post this in, life issues or sex and romance, I’ll move it if its in the wrong one.

I’m not exactly sure what the problem is, and I can’t help but think its my fault, which is very upsetting to me.

So for the most part life has been good, and I can’t think of any problem we could be having, but for whatever reason, we haven’t had sex in at least a month. Not for lack of trying mind you, but it seems like every time I bring it up, he make excuses. I’m too tiered, its too late, maybe tomorrow but tomorrow is the same thing, or he just flat out ignores me. He’s not acting like any thing is wrong otherwise, he talk to me like he’s perfectly happy and we seem to go about doing things normally. And its not like he avoids contact or any thing we still snuggle up to each other quite often, but its just once you mention something or try something that he make excuses or roll away.

At first I believed he was just to tired, works been busy for him, and things may have been to late, so I tried earlier and earlier, and it wasn’t until he started to completely ignore what I said or rolled over that it started to upset me. And it wasn’t until yester day, when it wasn’t too late, and he wasn’t too tiered, that I tried for like the millionth time, and he just completely ignored me that it really got me upset. So upset even that I stayed in our bedroom all day listening to an audio book on my MP3 player. He came in a couple times and lad down by me and tried to talk like every thing was fine, and nothing happened, but I was to upset and confused to talk that I just pointed to my Zune and ignored him.

The real problem isn’t that we haven’t been doing any thing, its that I can’t think of why he would be acting like this. I don’t know if I did something wrong, or if he’s mad at me, and I’m not sure how to bring it up at all, yet along how to talk to him with out sound mad, or too upset. And I’ve never been so glad that he had to work the weekend before, so I would have time to think, but the day is passing quickly, and I can’t think of anything, and I don’t what to spend another day sitting in our bedroom ignoring him. If I do I know he’s going to bring it up, and all I’m going to have to say is “I don’t want to talk about it” Which is lie since I want to talk about it I just don’t know how.

I really don’t know what to do, I don’t think I’ve ever been this upset before, and for some reason I can’t help but be scared.

I really need some advice or help.

Sorry that this is a bit late for a reply. I hope yer sex life has improved by now. Anywho, here are my two cents:

I'd have to say, with me anywho--I went through a period of like two weeks of not having sex. I mostly was just busy with school and was focusing, needed to get up earlier, and just didn't want to put the effort into doing anything, because I was just sooo burnt out between work and school. And then one day, poor Adam was all like... pouty. He said, "We never have sex any more, and it's kind of hurting my feelings. Can we talk?" For whatever reason, I was just utterly oblivious to his sexual desires for a couple of weeks. :3 I quickly remedied that.

Since then, our sex life varies like everyone else's. Maybe once a week there, and four times a day another week. :3 We're both happy. We try to make time, because quickies aren't half as good as the real deal. Mmmm. Foreplay. How I loooooove youuuu.