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Queen Peppermint

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PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 2:50 pm


I'll try and shorten this long story as best as I can...

Back in 07:
I become friends with guy
Develope crush on guy

Early 08:
Guy keeps hinting that he's into me
He finally admits he likes me

Mid 08:
We go on a date
I lost contact with him a few weeks after because I was grounded...
After the two weeks of no contact, I find out he's with another girl a year younger than me, when he thought I might've been too young. (He had just turned 18, and I had turned 16 a few months back)

Present Day:
(Still with the other girl)

He constantly flirts
When we play games like Would You Rather or Truth, all his questions are sexual. He claims it's because I don't answer the non-sexual questions as often wich isn't true. It's the other way around...
Texts me instead of his GF when he's bored
Calls me things like "Cute" and "Sexy"

I finally asked "Do you still like me? Yes or No." after him asking me the same question to which my reply was "Yes but you have a GF."
He says "IDK. Maybe"
I then ask to see where he really stood, (Suggested by an online friend) "Would you leave your GF if I asked you too?"
He says "You'd have to be offering more than what she's offering..."
When I asked him WTF that was supossed to mean, he shrugged it off and changed the subject.

Now it's been a bit awkward talking to him which I try not to show and he texts me less, and even then, it's like I've become his insomnia buddy because he'll only text me at night now. neutral I have not called him, nor has he called me, but that's because I hate talking on the phone. sweatdrop

He's a good friend though I haven't seen him since march because this other girl aways pulls some kind of drama and any plans we've attempted to make had to be canceled so he could go see her. (My friend and I live in the same city, the other girl lives about twenty minutes away.)

WWYD? (Sorry if this is hard to read, I'm sick today.) sad
PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 4:28 pm


When he said "If you offer more than she does." That tells me that all he's interested in in a relationship is sex, and other physical activities. I would personally keep him as a friend and nothing more.

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PostPosted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 9:21 am


I'm sorry I never replied! I haven't been able to get on a computer in quite some time.

I already know he see's me as a sexual object, and I plan to take it as friends only.

UPDATE sorta...
I couldn't get ahold of him for the last two weeks, no calls/texts/emails worked. Since he no longer goes to school, I couldn't go to his school and be like "WTF?"

I contacted his Gf for the first time to see if he was ok. Her relpy? "He's fine, the only thing wrong is his lazy a** mother." I don't know about Y'all but I was raised to respect my mother even when I'm pissed at her and since Shane was not the one complaining, I found the statement HIGHLY rude. (I mean, Shane may complain about his mum but I know he does love her whereas this girl does not love her... KWIM?)

Shane doesn't go to school, Shane does not have a job.
Shane's mum has a job...
Wouldn't that make Shane the lazy one? rolleyes
PostPosted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 4:40 pm


She is right: he is interested in sex and other physical features of the relationship. And if that is all that he is interested in, then you know that the relationship he has with his current GF can't possibly last longterm. You are his friend and I think that it should stay that way. If you do want it to be more, I'd wait it out until he finally breaks it off with that other girl. It WILL happen, it might just take some time. He already knows that you like him and so now I think that it't time to be there for him and with him as his friend. Let him know that you care and support his other relationship because you want his happiness. When he sees how you truly care for him and it's not just some physical attraction alone, he will want to hang out with you and be with you more. Then when he breaks up with his GF, he'll have nobody to go to but you.

Sorry that I wrote a lot smile good luck with everything!

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:05 pm


Pass him up hun. All he wants is sex and thats not worth anything unless your doing it for love. His current GF wont last long unless she acts like a (please excuse my loose use of this word) slut. I'd just stay his friend, I would NOT go any farther. Just give it time :3
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