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Any new planets like Lilith are still being studied and such.
Also, your venus and Mars are not more to do with the other venus and mars being the same but more to do with what you seek in a lover and how a lover will love you.
Though it's different for males and females-

Venus for males is what they want in females and for females it's how a lover may go for them.
Mars for males is how a lover may go for them and for females it's what they want in males.

Mercury in Pisces makes your usually emotionally detached Aquarius slightly more in tune with your emotions and you may actually think in more colour and may communicate to others with how a pisces speaks (basically it's like the speed of the brain, eg. Tauras mercury has a slow plodding brain which achieves things this way. Scorpio mercury has a slow but calculating brain which achieves things through others emotions.)
So look into the pisces mercury.
You already heard me blabble on about the sun and moon and ascendant in your chart.
Basically you should go for someone who has a compatible moon and compatible sun sign mercury combo.
Basically it's better if your mercury is compatible with their moon or vice versa. Though it's not too needy, it's just the way you speak may hurt their emotions if your mercury was too firey for the watery moon ect.
Also important if the mercury is compatible with the sun sign. People with scorpio mercurys with Libra suns may be compatible more with other Librans but they end up making more passive friends because the fire signs thought process messes the emotional thought process.

Hope that was easyish to understand.

I'm in a bit of a pickle here with deciphering exactly how my Mars in Cancer and Venus in Aries would work out.


My Venus aspect says that I want a playful girlfriend (no kidding!), but it also means that I go about them in a playful manner.

My Mars aspect is focused on being some insecure romantic of sorts, having to be in love in order to have sex, yadda yadda... Would that mean that the best kind of girl for me would be someone who is protective and needs to know that I like them?

OKAY, WAIT A SECOND. This sounds a lot like the relationship between Naruto and Hinata! Naruto's such a kid, always wanting to be a ninja, yet never really working himself up to it when he's supposed to. Then you have Hinata, the quiet type who doesn't speak her mind in fear of losing Naruto.

AHHHHHHH. Did those two ever get together? Knowing that would be my only source of self-assurance at this point in my love life... emo

You go for females that know what they are doing and yes, playful I guess.
(well since you seemed to look female right now)
Females will go for you because you are sensitive and caring in sex.
Also Mars is about the sex drive so you run on emotion during sex.

Since you look like a female
venus in Aires female means that men would go for you because you know where you are going and have a dominating firey playful nature.
Mars in Cancer means you would go for men that are protective and nuturing towards you. Sex will be still running on emotion.
Cancers are meant to be kinky.