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 Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 12:55 am
As some of you may have noticed, i've been kinda upset over a certain girl. So I want some advice about her now, so I can end all this upsetting thoughts about her.
Okay so before I met "her" I had promised not to ever love again. Me and my friend T.J both did it , because both of our love lifes we're messed up. But anyway, A week or two after we made the promise "she" came along. Right when I saw her, I liked her. And now that I have talked to her more, I love her. But she has NO feelings towards me, nothing more then a friend. I'm fine being her friend, but me loving her is ruining my friendship with her. She is hurting me w/o even trying. She makes me happy alot of the time though. Like when im with her, I get so happy and I wish those moments would never end. But anyway, There are 3 other girls who say they love me (tara, Rayleigh,Dana)and they all asked me out, But I told them all no because I love "her". I'm starting to feel that I should try to move on from her, and date one of them. If I dont stop loving her, it's going to be to late for me to love someone else. Shes perfect, and I deeply love her. But I dont get how I can love someone who doesnt even like me. I cant find any hope in thinking she would eventually love me =/ I haven't told her how I feel about her, cuz I dont want to ruin our friendship, and I am afraid of rejection >< I almost told her today, but then I stared at a wall for a min or two and thought about it. Then bad things that could happen tottaly out numbered the benifits. So I didnt tell her of course, and I think she knew I was holding back form telling her something. I feel sick inside now, like I could die in a corner and everyone would be fine. I told her I kinda of liked her awhile ago, but told her to forget I said it ><' Which I hope she did..
But anyway question...
Should I move on and TRY to stop loving her? What should I do?! gonk
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 2:07 pm
It's going to be hard, but you should try to move on to different things. Try telling her you like her, but make sure she knows you don't want to ruin your friendship.
I think you should try going out with one of the other girls. After all, first dates are only first dates. If it doesn't work out, you can walk away and try again somewhere else.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 2:18 pm
I went through this a while back, without the three girls saying they liked me (you stud!).
It nearly literally killed me, knowing she didn't like me, and having our friendship not ruined but altered.
But then, eventually I just avoided her for little bits at a time, like lunch time or after school. (I kind of ended up stalking her on accident, so I knew where not to go) And I met Jasmine (that totally awesome girl who posted right above me)
And now I'm happy again. That girl I liked went back to being just my friend. And although I'm not ecstatic to see her with her girlfriend, I'm not crushed anymore. So, it does get better...in time.
P.S: Sorry for all the parenthesis.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 3:30 pm
Okay..i'll try. I am to afraid to tell her I like her though, what if she starts to feel weird around me? I couldnt stand not being around her..
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 5:28 pm
Weird is one thing. And if your relationship changes, you'll feel weird too. But don't just give up on your friendship if it does. Make an effort to keep things normal.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 5:45 pm
But thats gonna be hard =/
I already am having problems with not telling her how I feel. I want to tell her, but at the same time I dont.
I gave her pics (she was like 1 out of 3 people ><) and she said I looked good, but I think it made her like me less! Im to ugly >>'
EDIT: It may be diffrent if you know who she is, so if you want to help pm me and i'll tell you who she is.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 7:51 pm
Ugh, i'm going to move on and try and date someone else.
I thought about it for hours, and im sill not 100% sure I want to ><
As a expected, I ended up getting hurt x3 She was worth every minute of the pain though ^^ I just cant take this anymore, it's killing me.
>< btw it was Ashes x3
Do you think im making the right choice people?
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 8:02 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:14 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:26 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 10:40 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 10:42 pm
Nah, not sadly.
I'm glad I know ^^
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 11:07 pm
Why would you be happy to know?
It doesnt matter anymore.
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 3:10 am
I FAIL
Ugh, I try to forget about my feelings for her, but they will not go away -.- wtf?! Shes always in my thoughts, even if im with friends gonk
I think I should just date Tara or rayleigh. What would it matter anyway, im just hurting myself by loving her.
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 3:37 pm
Ok I have made up my mind, im just gonna let go.
It doesnt matter anywayz >< But im for sure about this.
I shouldnt have said who she was though x3
Think im making the right choice and moving on?
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