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 Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 11:20 am
But oh well.
Anyway, I have a kinda screwed
up life. My mother cheated on my
father (starting a little after his
father died). She would wait for him
(being my father) to leave for work
(worked the graveyard shift at a
casino) and then her friend would
"babysit" us, while her and her boyfriend
screwed around upstairs. My oldest
brother (Corey) knew about it, but
was forced to keep quiet (didn't want
to ruin the marriage) and my other older
brother (Casey) knew about the boyfriend
but didn't understand it. I was only a few
months old so....
Anyway. She eventually felt guilty and told
my father. He left us (and by this time I
was 2). Now my mom took us down to
Florida and dropped us off with our
grandmother. So, we lost BOTH parents.
Then my father got rightful and complete
custody, because our mother wanted
nothing to do with us.
So we went to Ohio to live with my
Uncle and Aunt on my father's side.
We were dirt poor, so we had to go
with a small dirty town house that we
lived in until I was in 4th grade, or the
end of third.
Then my father met my step-mother.
She hates me. End of story. And she
loves my brother (Casey). Corey wants
nothing to do with my father
after he was kicked out for selling
marijuana. Now, I was kicked out
of my house at the end of 6th grade,
to live with my mother. Who was
a drunk and a smoker.
She still is. But anyway.
After 3 months, I hated her.
So my father told me I could come back
to Ohio. And I did.
Now, we got along FINE
for about 7 months.
Then we had a huge fight,
and long story short,
that's when he decided I was
going to be
living with my mother
until I turned 18.
So, he dragged me away from
all my family, all my friends,
and my entire LIFE.
I REALLY need some advice...
*****
No, none of this is fake.
No I didn't make any of this up.
This is the truth,
and if you chose not to
believe it, that's your call.
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Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 12:40 am
Can you keep in contact with those friends? If so that's a good idea. I'm not sure what to really do about the rest of it, though. Idunno if going back to the father who keeps kicking you out is the best plan. Why is he kicking you out? Is it a legitimate reason, or is he being irrational? If he's being irrational, sounds like it might be a good idea to try and pick up somewhere else. Try to live life and make do with what you possibly can. Sometimes much inner strength grows in hard times of life like these.
Now if you did something bad to get kicked out and you really want to go back, I think a sincere apology is in order. Oh and don't forget to learn from your mistake. And I mean actually learn. People make mistakes and they have bad habits that they never really change. They can learn from their mistakes. They can get irritated with the bad habits that they KNOW they will never change. If it's a habit that you know that you can't change, might as well try to make yourself a new life at a new school with new friends.
As far as college goes, that might help a lot. You makes some of the most AWESOME friends in college. Financial aid should help if your mom won't. Be aware. Financial aid currently doesn't always have a lot of money and tends to screw many people over. They WILL, however, give you the funding that you need if you go into their office (whereever you live) and complain face to face. There's a difference between applying for a grant and standing up for yourself to get the money that you need. (Oh there are also grants and scholarships.)
It would be nice anyway. I don't know in what year of school that you are.
But if you want, this sounds liek a good way to turn over a new leaf, learn from others (like learning that you don't want to end up like your mom,) and see the other side of life with hardships so that you can learn to get around yoru obstacles.
Good luck!
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Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:00 pm
I kind of wish I knew what the fight was about, wondering what his motives are for sending you there.
But, that aside I feel your parents have really messed up, needless to say. I'd like to say to do what you can to take advantage of what they've done and learn from it. Basically, just keep in mind you're your own person, and until age 17/18 (whatever the adult age there is now) and pretty soon you're going to be taking care of yourself.
But for now, try to bare with it. It's really all that you can do at the moment.
I believe you. Really, because I have no reason to doubt you. These things are happening all the time in this world and I know it's tough. I've come from a rough family, too but want to tell you now to hang in there and do all you can to lookout for yourself and learn from your parent's mistakes.
But that's about all I've got. And if you need to talk, feel free to PM me.
If not that's cool.
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